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Please come and give me your opinion on this - it might be contraversial

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:27

I am a regular but have namechanged. Sockpuppeted, if you like.

Dp and I have 2 kids, adn he works full time, on shiftwork. Neither child is at school yet.

Now, I have just found a part time job, but it is entry level, minimum wage(although I am qulified!), searingly hard work and the boss is a bit of a bully if she thinks she can get away with it.

To add to this, dp can't seem to treat the fact that I have to go to work too with any respect, he pops up with "Well we have a staff meeting tomorrow, so I'm going to be late home". It not occurring to him that I need him home on time so I can get to work on time.

If this was a job I liked, I would be really bothered, but it isn't. I would rather be doing a supermarket shelfstacking Jill-Job for minimum wage than the job I am doing now, which is stressful and dirty.

My question is this. ould it be very wrong to hand in my notice, citing family difficulties? Because although my partner is a pain about his shifts, he's not that much of a pain, but I have two young kids, the house looks like a bomb has hit it, nd Ireally don't need this hassle!

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:28

Oh FFS. Oh, well, answer it anyway, LOL.

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expatinscotland · 30/11/2006 10:28

colditz, is that you?

ComeOVeneer · 30/11/2006 10:28

Name change?

CunningMaloryTowers · 30/11/2006 10:28

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expatinscotland · 30/11/2006 10:29

I'd be off like a shot, FWIW.

Life is too short for these sad jobs.

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:29

I am so damn crap at namechanging, I do this all the bloody time!

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NotQuiteCockney · 30/11/2006 10:29

There's nothing wrong with quitting if you want to quit. It doesn't sound like you're enjoying the job.

Do you need the money? And will the job lead to a job that you will like?

foxinsocks · 30/11/2006 10:29

lol

if you don't need the money, chuck it in - sounds like a nightmare job

ComeOVeneer · 30/11/2006 10:30

Sounds like you don't particularly enjoy your job. I can't see anything positive about it in your post so yes, hand in your notice and look for something else.

Saturn74 · 30/11/2006 10:30

colditz, could you ask for some time off, to get the house straight and everything.

Whilst you were off, you could assess whether you want to go back, but it leaves your options open a bit whilst you have a think?

Skyler · 30/11/2006 10:30

Why is this controversial?
And, er, Is that you Colditz?
I would def bin the job if you don't need the money.

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:30

It is care assistant job, and my 7 years experiance and a vocational qualification are not being taken into account, nd I still get the minimum wage.

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Skyler · 30/11/2006 10:31

Bloody hell I am slow typing. There were no messages when I started...

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:31

We do need tyhe money really, but maybe I could get away with it by budgetting veyr very carfully.

This job leads nowhere I want to go! LOL

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Cappuccino · 30/11/2006 10:31

why are you doing this job? is it for the cash?

they always say it's easier to get another job while you have one so I'd start looking for another instead of handing my notice in

and if your dp is starting with this already just look all innocent and say okay, in that case I can just drop the kids over at your office and they can draw quietly till you've finished - can't see him wanting to stay late then

bran · 30/11/2006 10:32

I don't think you need to give a reason for resignation, I never have.

I agree that minimum wage job that you don't like, working for a boss you don't like has nothing going for it really. I hope you find something you do like.

porpoise · 30/11/2006 10:32

Colditz, I'm not quite in the same situation as you but I can really identify with your feelings.
I work part-time - and my dh has just the same attitude about his work taking precedence over mine (even though he's self-employed too and I sometimes earn more than him!)
I think, in your situation, you have to ask yourself if the extra money kind of gets cancelled out by the extra stress/unhappiness. Does it?

Skyler · 30/11/2006 10:32

If you need the money your DH needs to step up and take your job and contribution seriously.

fullmoonfiend · 30/11/2006 10:34

there are other care assistants jobs out there, surely? Paying more than minimum wage?
I would be looking for something else with more job satisfaction, even if I couldn't earn more money.
I do empathise, I have taken a duvet day today, purely to try and get my house bck in some sort of order (though TBH, needa month off )

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:34

It's not even regular work, it is casual. So I only get called in whebn we re already short staffed

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corrina28 · 30/11/2006 10:34

if you feel that it is right to hand in your notice at your job then that is the right thing to do. No-one should judge you if you do feel like it is the correct thing to do. I know at the moment that i could not work as my dh works shifts and they are different from one week to another, so unless i was able to get a really well paid job, i just wouldnt be able to go back to work and pay for a childminder. Having said that i really do miss my "adult time" being with other adults, who arent other mums at school (no offence to anyone).

porpoise · 30/11/2006 10:35

Is it your first job after kids? Maybe it's worth sticking it for a bit, just to have something recent on your CV - and then leg it as soon as you can find something that suits you and your quallifications better

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:36

I really don't want to be a care assistant tbh. I dobn't like to do that job unless I can give it my all, nd with 2 under 4 I personally feel I can't.

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colditz · 30/11/2006 10:38

i was expecting flood of "You lazy arse! I work 26 hours a day for 2p and hour because I love my children!" type posts. I'm silly.

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Cappuccino · 30/11/2006 10:38

my concern would be that it gives a message to your dp that you'll just give up work if he doesn't try to accommodate the change in circumstances

so in future when you do find a job you like there's no reason to alter his behaviour

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