Right, so I am not going back after maternity leave. Would it be really crap to send my boss an email?

[Enid]

and then follow up with a letter obv. We have quite an informal relationship and do most of our communication (even though I am on mat leave ) by email. The AGM is coming up so I want to resign before it rather than waiting until I have to (Jan).

No.

My boss is a cow who could happily micromanage a beehive.

I'd have no qualms about quitting via email.

I'd email her and then follow up w/a letter.

Dh says I shold ring him

but god I can't face it

But as your resignation needs to be in written format, I'd go w/the email first and in the email, state that you will follow up by post.

Then do it.

Lucky you!

I wish I could quit this racket. W/any luck, I soon will.

I think you should ring him

what can he do to you exactly? fire you?

i usually ring and send a letter

I have extensive experience of not going back to jobs after having a baby

enid, you know you should ring him

the first thing he will do on reading your email is phone you, so you'll have to speak to him anyway, and you DON'T want to have to listen to him say "why didn't you call me to talk about this? I was so disappointed to get your email".

you'll feel about 4 years old!

bite the bullet, take a deep breath, and call him. if you want to prepare the ground a bit, send him an email saying "I'd like to talk to you about my involvement with [organisation] - could you let me know when it would be convenient for me to call you?"

but don't resign by email...

oh god why did you have to say that

I will do it another day then as I have had about 4 hours sleep

pph looks over pince nez disapprovingly at the procrastinating enid

why 4 hours? were you gallivanting last night or have you got a Horrid Baby like mine? (I think she is trying to produce 4 top teeth at once).
Mine turns and looks now if you say "Hello Horrid Baby!" - she recognises it as her True Name

Just had a silly evening staying up late chatting to dh so didnt get to sleep until midnight - then dd1 had a nightmare, then Stinky Baby woke up at 5am, raring to go

well staying up chatting to dh is nice...

we should get the stinkster and the horrid one together one day, that would be amusing

I don't suppose as a mother of 3 girls that you have any need for additional clothes?

I am being subsumed by baby clothes and don't have anyone to give them to at the moment. I have piles of 6-12 months and quite a few 12-18 months that have been grown out of...

god yes

I didnt think I would need ANY but tbh once they have gone through two children most don't survive. Obviously I feel terribly guilty buying nice new stuff for dd3 as 'not buying any clothes' is one of the oft quoted plus sides to having 3 girls

Lets meet up and I'll show you my funny bald child

hurrah hurrah

right, so where is half way between me and you and has a good coffee shop? I'll turn up with a bin bag full of immaculate barely worn gap clothes.

actually it should really be the middle of the triangle between me, you and cod. warminster? westbury? frome?
aren't most of those horrible?
oooooh, babington for lunch?!!

I would ring first particularly if you have a good relationship. It is MUCH better to give that sort of news over the phone. If you email it will give the boss time to get upset over it.

I believe bad news should always be given in person if possible or failing that over the phone. A follow-up email or letter can be sent to make it all official.

You knew that though didn't you?, otherwise you'd have just sent the email and not asked for advice

baabing ton for lucn suits me ( she says not quite sure what iti si)

thats osuth of frome
opk we can meet there

enid have you phoned him?
and where shall we meet if not babington? your dh could come too, and sit on another table and pretend he doesn't know us....

there must be somewhere in eg warminster. I shall start a thread...

oops I resigned by e-mail. did I do a bad thing?

seemed the most efficient/immediate way