Would you leave a £250,000pa job to be a SAHM?

[misosoup]

Ok, I've changed my name for this, not quite sure why....

I really enjoy my job and it is pretty well paid but since I returned to work after having DD2 I have been thinking a lot about this.

I can afford not to work, dh's income is nothing like mine but still above average although it will clearly be a huge drop in our standard of living.

And I miss the kids do much during the day... I spend 2 hours per day with them plus weekends. There is no way I can cut my hours any more and part-time is out of the question.

But I have worked so hard to get here, against all odds. I don't want to throw it all away.

yes the brick wall was Uwila

who thinks it is better to go out to work and pay someone else to look after your kids in order to get tax credit than it is to stay at home and look after them herself and get benefits

or conversely that only rich people should have kids; or only those who marry rich husbands

I think people like Uwila have even been kicked out of the Tory party now

Can I just butt in here to say how sad I am that I live in a society in which one woman can be ridiculed for taking a small amount of money from the state in order to look after her children, while another agonises over whether to give up around 40 times that amount in order to do the same. It's almost Dickensian.

actually that was a lie. I don't live in that society. I live in a society where the state doesn't give out enough money for single parents to live on. at least the uk does that I suppose.

wankitty wank

sorry wrong htread

can this thread pls be kept going to annoy cod?

AS it happens, none of the parties will let me in because I'm not British.

So, you think working for a living is a Toryism, huh?

Xenia, I hope you stick around.

Anything for you, CD.

how is bringing up children not working?

it is working. but it isn't working for a living because no one is going to give you a living in return for looking after your own kids.

Apparently we need more middle class children born so I suppose cutting of incentives for those on low incomes to have children might help the UK a bit. So it looks like these compulsory interviews aren't working and single mothers with school age children can still claim benefits and not look for work. Blair has failed in his plan in that case.

I don't see the middle class rising when so many people are stopping haveing kids because they can't aford any more of them. So I guess we are heading for lots of 1 or 2 child working class families. A class of benefits with lots of children. And then I guess the wealthy can also have as many as they like. So, there goes the middle class.

"Apparently we need more middle class children born so I suppose cutting of incentives for those on low incomes to have children might help the UK a bit"

Fuck me
It's Adolf Hitler

ooooo CD swore.

lol CD

I swear lots, so what?

I wasn't swearing at anyone it was an exclamation of surprise

No you don't. So it's got more impact when you do.

Just glad it wasn't at me.

uwila - the vast majority of parents on benefits (single or otherwise) do actually work for a living for most of their lives, and pay more into the system than they take out. that is the point of a welfare state. noe if we were talking about 2 parent families choosing not to work then I'd agree with you, but to expect everyone to work even if they are bringing up a ypung family single handed and when the economic benefits of working are marginal is against the spirit of that welfare state imo.

and it doesn't just benefit working class families - even middle class couples sometimes get divorced.

i think xenia was being sarcy, cd.

My DH pays me £250k pa to be a SAHM. Doesn't everyone's DH do this??

my dh pays me that plus benefits. car, cleaner, annual holiday to st. lucia etc