What should I do? Please help me make a decision.

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try it, sounds like you want to!

Would being apart from the children make you miserable?
You sound very tempted - is it the kind of work you would enjoy?

how young is your youngest? i went back after 9 mo with dd2, but resisted pressure to go back earlier. you can't 'get back' time you miss with them.

it does sound like a great job, though.

could you just try it and see?.......give it a cpl of months (perhaps use the money for a big holiday you wouldnt have been able to do before or xmas presents) and see how you feel after that.

good luck.

cx

Working 4 days a week and being mum to 6 kids?!! Mad to even consider it imho.

You know what, you moved to France to be with your kids, and your writing is important to you. If you go back to work you will have less time with the children and even less time to write. Will doing the job mean you lose your momentum with writing completely? If so its not worth it.

Okay here is my advice for what it is worth....

I/We often forget that when we make decisions they are not forever, you can change your mind and people have very short memories.

example, one friend who gave up work kept worrying that she was unemployable after being out for years and her old company periodically calls her to see if she wants a part time job. So of course she can do something when she choses to.

You can do your writing on hols?

What else would you get that you need or want that you are not getting now apart from money? Is it simply something for you? If so is this job the thing that will provide it?

Last but not least I always say that if it is the right decision for you at the time, when you get to it, you'll feel light and if it's not then you'll feel like someone has stuck an anvil on your shoulders. Like dating a great guy you feel fab and look to the next date full of possibilities.

For what it is worth!

It sounds like a lot of work tbh.Doing that on top of running a home and looking after so many children would kill me.

Why is it an issue having money from your dh?You are married to him-surely that means you share everything??

Hi ggg - saw you on the 4 and more thread, so feel I know you

It sounds like a fab opportunity, as long as there is someone like a childminder, or a nursery that you trust for your little dd.

If the job is outside school hours then it should be fairly easy to see plenty of your school age children after work etc, and you can shop (blissfully guilt-free!) on your one day off a week.

My concern would be caring for the children if they are sick and can't go to school/nursery - you would then have to take time off (assuming no grandparents in France with you). Would work be cool with that?

Rereading your post, it sounds like your book needs a breath of fresh air from somewhere - could it be that a new job will give you a bit of vavavoom, and some tighter deadlines to work to? I know deadlines always work for me

Fascinating dilemma... Let us know how you are getting on!

Ooh, forgot to mention you could afford to hire a cleaner. That would swing it for me. Definitely.