supposing you were not apartcularly good baby mum?
supposing unforseen circumstances forced your hand
supposing you lost the will to live staying at home?
if someone had given me a crystal ball maybe i would have made different choices.
no one tells you that actually some people find being a SAHM mind blastingly tedious. a loss of self to the extreme, hidious, grotesque, degenerative.
the other point i would like to make is this:
the amount of money one needs to raise a child is relative.
what makes any one person happy is relative
if the parent is happy the kid wil be happy - probably. not counting selfishness.
what one person thinks is good parents ing another disagrees hence a discussion forum called mumsnet and this isnt the only one is it.
and then a government fuck up economic stability and you end up having your house reposessed.
i dont get it - i just dont get the argument, its american stepford wives this is
the argument as i see it is this.
.........if your middle class well off and can afford it - a parent should stay at home to provide nurturing for child.
.....if your working class or the underclass and claim benefits get off your lazy fking arses and get on your bike to work - spending all our taxes becuase you cant be arsed working at tesco.
and then you go and have another kid ...for the child benefit money ( yeah right!!) and our taxes are paying for your lazy arse.
ok ok - i get it.
a good parent for the middle class is a SAHP - in fact its become rather popular - a fashion accessory like a four by four and having a cleaner.
a good working class parent is one that doesn't claim benefits - if you do - you shouldnt be entitled to children you should be able to afford them