Am ok and then dh opens his mouth.... please, please help!!

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I go back to work 2 weeks today and will be part-time. Ds will be 11 months and has a nursery place lined up. Dh is now making it v clear that he thinks that this will not be a good thing for ds and wants me to consider giving up work. A big part of me really wants to go back and be me again but I feel really awful (am crying now ) at the thought of doing anything that will be bad for ds.

I can't change it but how do I deal with it? What will make it easier for ds?

If I knew we could live without me going back to work (thats live and not just survive) I THINK I'd like to be a SAHM. Then again, I've not given birth yet so I've no idea what it's going to be like.
I did work as a nursery assistant when I was much, much younger (before all the rules & regs) and I know that the children loved it. It gave them loads of stimulation, they learned to socialise and it was great to hear the older ones chatting to their mums about what they'd done, showing the pics etc.

Have just read your first message and not all the others so sorry i repeating what others have said...
I went back to work when my little girl was 8 months.
Was best thing I did...for two reasons. She is sociable, outgoing and 'busy' and I needed something else and my own independence (and money). If either apply to you DO NOT feel guilty.
If you do not want to work that's different.
I strongly believe my confident little girl is the way she partly because of nursery.
Having said all of that I cried like anything the day I left her and felt exactly the same.
Am now preparing to either go back (or get made redundant (nightmare!) after no. 2.