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About 20,000 women a year tell midwives they are domestic violence victims

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IwantToRetire · Yesterday 18:42

The figures are likely to be an underestimate of the true scale of disclosures, according to experts, highlighting the role maternity professionals play in identifying abuse.

About 3.3% of maternity bookings made within NHS trusts across England involved a disclosure of current or non-recent domestic abuse.

Applying this proportion to national NHS maternity bookings activity suggests there are approximately 20,000 disclosures of domestic abuse made within maternity services in England every year.

Of the 118 trusts contacted by the charity the For Baby’s Sake Trust, 74 provided usable data, and the figures are based on a three-year average of the most recent data available.

Gill Walton, the chief executive of the Royal College of Midwives, said the findings “lay bare” something that midwives already know from their day-to-day practice.

“Midwives are often the only professional a pregnant woman sees regularly and alone, which makes them uniquely placed to spot the signs of domestic abuse and respond with care,” Walton said.

“But recognising a disclosure is only the first step – staff need proper, specialist training to know how to respond and services need the time and resources to follow through with support, so that no disclosure is ever a missed opportunity to protect a parent and their baby.

Full article https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/sep/20/thousands-of-pregnant-women-in-england-are-reporting-domestic-abuse-midwives-are-struggling-to-cope

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The For Baby's Sake Trust is a charity dedicated to breaking cycles of domestic abuse and giving babies the best start in life.

https://forbabyssake.org.uk/

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TransParentlyAnnoyed · Yesterday 19:01

It's very likely to be an underestimate, sadly. And women will only be reporting because they're scared for their babies.

Every time someone is saved from DV, years of spending on NHS treatment and benefits are saved. But I'm not sure the public's ready to confront just how common DV truly is.

For anyone who knows someone suffering DV: don't ever give up on them. Don't let anyone tell you there's blame on both sides or that they enjoy the drama. Don't blame them for going back.

One of the major reasons DV flourishes is that family and friends prefer to blame the victim.

Make it clear they can call you whenever, and that you don't judge them for trying to fix things rather than accept the shattering reality of being unable to stop the abuse.

Accept it as normal life for them, while making clear its nor normal. Do all you can to boost their shattered self-confidence. Make sure they tell you everything that is happening, keep a record and contact police every single time you think they're in danger. Record injuries. Take them to hospital and drop them off back home without judgement, if they insist on returning, or they won't tell you next time.

Accept that there is usually a limited window when they will see the abuse for what it is - and be ready to act. That window may close at any moment. And this may happen repeatedly before they feel able to leave. Don't judge them for that.

Leaving an abuser is harder than leaving a cult, and being judgemental stops victims communicating. DV can happen to anyone, and is underreported by both women and men. Don't ask why they didn't just fight back; they had no chance.

Sorry, personal to me. Thanks for the thread.

Grammarnut · Yesterday 23:49

TransParentlyAnnoyed · Yesterday 19:01

It's very likely to be an underestimate, sadly. And women will only be reporting because they're scared for their babies.

Every time someone is saved from DV, years of spending on NHS treatment and benefits are saved. But I'm not sure the public's ready to confront just how common DV truly is.

For anyone who knows someone suffering DV: don't ever give up on them. Don't let anyone tell you there's blame on both sides or that they enjoy the drama. Don't blame them for going back.

One of the major reasons DV flourishes is that family and friends prefer to blame the victim.

Make it clear they can call you whenever, and that you don't judge them for trying to fix things rather than accept the shattering reality of being unable to stop the abuse.

Accept it as normal life for them, while making clear its nor normal. Do all you can to boost their shattered self-confidence. Make sure they tell you everything that is happening, keep a record and contact police every single time you think they're in danger. Record injuries. Take them to hospital and drop them off back home without judgement, if they insist on returning, or they won't tell you next time.

Accept that there is usually a limited window when they will see the abuse for what it is - and be ready to act. That window may close at any moment. And this may happen repeatedly before they feel able to leave. Don't judge them for that.

Leaving an abuser is harder than leaving a cult, and being judgemental stops victims communicating. DV can happen to anyone, and is underreported by both women and men. Don't ask why they didn't just fight back; they had no chance.

Sorry, personal to me. Thanks for the thread.

Well, I agree with you for once.

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