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School brings in trousers only rule for all pupils - schoolgirls said to be in tears ...

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IwantToRetire · 07/09/2026 17:35

Schoolgirls have been left "in tears" after a controversial new uniform rule was enforced at the start of the school year, with furious parents claiming some pupils were stopped from attending lessons.

The row has erupted after Co-op Academies Trust introduced a trousers-only policy across its secondary schools from September.
Some families have refused to accept the change, with pupils at Co-op Academy Failsworth in Oldham arriving for their first day back on Wednesday wearing skirts.

Parents claim that a number of Year 11 girls were not allowed into class, with other pupils affected when they returned on Thursday.

The policy also applies at Co-op Academy Walkden, Co-op Academy Swinton, Co-op Academy North Manchester, Co-op Academy Manchester and Co-op Academy Belle Vue.

Full article https://www.aol.co.uk/articles/schoolgirls-tears-being-turned-away-100800000.html

Schoolgirls 'in tears' after being 'turned away from lessons' over 'ridiculous' skirt rule - AOL

A number of girls at Co-op Academy Failsworth in Oldham have been told they will not be allowed in lessons until they swap their skirts for trousers

https://www.aol.co.uk/articles/schoolgirls-tears-being-turned-away-100800000.html

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/09/2026 20:39

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:17

Yeah belts exist.

  1. Not all trousers have belt loops.
  2. The rucked up fabric between the belt loops looks and feels awful.
  3. The weight of the garment being all on the belt makes the belt cut into the top of my hip curve, which can be anything from uncomfortable to painful.
jumpingjohnny · 08/09/2026 20:39

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/09/2026 19:51

The girls worried about bleed-through are unlikely to be the skirt-rollers. The last thing a woman or girl who fears bleed-through is going to do is risk exposing her crotch.

Which is really bloody obvious, isn't it?

Pun intended? 😜😂

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:45

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/09/2026 20:39

  1. Not all trousers have belt loops.
  2. The rucked up fabric between the belt loops looks and feels awful.
  3. The weight of the garment being all on the belt makes the belt cut into the top of my hip curve, which can be anything from uncomfortable to painful.

My sympathies.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/09/2026 21:02

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:14

Exactly, Its very tiresome when people keep bringing up european countries and saying they dont have uniform

No, they have a completely different consumer culture, brand culture and class culture. They also, largely speaking, have a much more respectful view of education. This is absent from UK culture

While I would love for there to be no uniforms, one of the facts is that the stats show that schools which have rigorous uniform rules which are enforced, have better outcomes. Thats not because of uniform, its not in spite of uniform, its not causal, but something about that contributes to the whole ethos of requirements and expectations about your education.

It's because:

  1. The army boot camp environment in that kind of academy has any child with any kind of learning disability leave or be expelled, which as far as the school are concerned is a feature, not a bug, because learning disabled kids tend to underperform in mainstream settings. Freezing learning disabled kids out removes a cohort of kids who will bring the average GCSE results for the school down. Example of how that works: I got 11 GCSEs A-C whilst spending most my classes literally looking out of the window whilst the teacher was talking. These strict academies consider looking anywhere but the board or the teacher when the teacher is talking to be a punishable offence even though my experience demonstrates that, for some pupils, it can be easier to take in spoken information whilst looking away from the speaker. However, as an autistic person, I am part of a cohort ststistically likely to get worse results, so the school benefits from freezing me and kids like me out as a class. Strict rules allows the school to discriminate against disabled kids without looking obviously like they are doing so. No, autistic kids cannot rely on getting a rules exemption to cope in such a school, especially when the kid may be undiagnosed.
  2. There's a correlation between parental poverty and educational attainment, which means that a high-priced strictly-enforced uniform regime prices out the lowest attaining kids.
EasternStandard · 08/09/2026 21:22

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:14

Exactly, Its very tiresome when people keep bringing up european countries and saying they dont have uniform

No, they have a completely different consumer culture, brand culture and class culture. They also, largely speaking, have a much more respectful view of education. This is absent from UK culture

While I would love for there to be no uniforms, one of the facts is that the stats show that schools which have rigorous uniform rules which are enforced, have better outcomes. Thats not because of uniform, its not in spite of uniform, its not causal, but something about that contributes to the whole ethos of requirements and expectations about your education.

There are schools without uniforms, granted it’s primary level but it can be conducive to good outcomes.

We’re also used to strict uniform policy at secondary at a very good school.

Idk about no uniform at secondary however.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:10

WearyAuldWumman · 08/09/2026 17:11

I recall that when I was at high school in the '70s, when we had mandatory hockey we'd wear our navy blue pleated games skirts with a pair of navy blue shorts under them in order to make sure that everything was covered. (The PE uniform was actually supposed to be navy shorts or the games skirt plus navy blue knickers but - certainly one we reached S3 - about 14 yrs old - we all wore the shorts with the games skirt.)

I often have a problem getting trousers which fit comfortably - I'm between 5ft 8 and 9, but my legs are only 31 inches: it's my torso that's longer.

To the trouser equation, I'll add that girls tend to have more of a bleed-through problem with trousers than with skirts in my experience.

No, I'm not looking (before anyone starts commenting) but particularly when I was a young secondary school teacher I'd have girls coming to me for help when they were caught out. (More specifically, they'd send one of their pals to speak to me.)

At the point when I was in perimenopause, I recall that I more or less gave up on wearing trousers to work and switched to thick skirts. Even running to the loo at the end of each lesson left me in danger of being embarrassed - and that was with HRT. (Yes, I did see my doctor.) Possibly because of my own problems, I'm in favour of girls having a choice.

So far as problems with short skirts and unsuitable trousers and leggings are concerned, believe you me that it did become very obvious in the classroom.

I can't recall ever being aware of girls rolling up their skirts. I've only ever worked in Central Scotland.

The midi was in fashion when I was at high school and the girls round our way don't need to roll up their skirts - they just turn up in mini-skirts. Some kind of elasticated concoction appears to be in vogue at the moment, though they're wearing them with black tights.

Ah, Im 5'8 but with long legs. I do find men's trousers work great. My daughter is few inches shorter and curvier, and likes them with the hems taken up.

Personally, as a student I think bleed-throughs happened just as often to girls in summer as winter (skirts in summer, trousers in winter) but on a skirt if you'd been sitting it was more obvious than with trousers, but standing, not obvious at all, so there was an advantage there.

These days I know a lot of girls wear period pants and a pad though – a great combo.

But yes – I think trousers with the option of calf length skirts make the most sense. They're much more practical than longer or shorter skirts, can't be rolled right up, and give girls the option. It is a shame that enough girls are rolling to such an extent that it's become an issue, though.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:22

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/09/2026 20:39

  1. Not all trousers have belt loops.
  2. The rucked up fabric between the belt loops looks and feels awful.
  3. The weight of the garment being all on the belt makes the belt cut into the top of my hip curve, which can be anything from uncomfortable to painful.

I have to say, I find it very difficult to believe that, between both the men's and women's department, a person cannot find a pair of trousers that sit comfortably at or just above the pelvic bones, and are roomy enough in the crotch and bum, with only perhaps needing the hems taken up (very easy to do with simple, unskilled hand sewing).

I suppose some very large (in terms of being overweight) people could have difficulty?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:22

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:10

Ah, Im 5'8 but with long legs. I do find men's trousers work great. My daughter is few inches shorter and curvier, and likes them with the hems taken up.

Personally, as a student I think bleed-throughs happened just as often to girls in summer as winter (skirts in summer, trousers in winter) but on a skirt if you'd been sitting it was more obvious than with trousers, but standing, not obvious at all, so there was an advantage there.

These days I know a lot of girls wear period pants and a pad though – a great combo.

But yes – I think trousers with the option of calf length skirts make the most sense. They're much more practical than longer or shorter skirts, can't be rolled right up, and give girls the option. It is a shame that enough girls are rolling to such an extent that it's become an issue, though.

At 5'6" I often have to buy the short 27" version of trousers instead of the regular 29". Short legs and a correspondingly long torso, hence the crotch seam cutting me in two. Men's trousers don't come short enough and it's not just a case of shortening them because the trousers are designed for the wearer's knees to be lower down than mine are.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:31

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:22

I have to say, I find it very difficult to believe that, between both the men's and women's department, a person cannot find a pair of trousers that sit comfortably at or just above the pelvic bones, and are roomy enough in the crotch and bum, with only perhaps needing the hems taken up (very easy to do with simple, unskilled hand sewing).

I suppose some very large (in terms of being overweight) people could have difficulty?

Size 14, and even as a size 10 teen I had this problem. I also can't get one-piece swimwear long enough. It's simply that I have a long torso with a tall pelvis.

I've had the most success with trousers sold as high-rise, which are about a mid-rise on me.

But nice try, trying to insinuate that I'm fat.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:33

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:22

At 5'6" I often have to buy the short 27" version of trousers instead of the regular 29". Short legs and a correspondingly long torso, hence the crotch seam cutting me in two. Men's trousers don't come short enough and it's not just a case of shortening them because the trousers are designed for the wearer's knees to be lower down than mine are.

I haven't noticed the knee placement to be an issue for my daughter, who has a long torso and frequently has trousers cut down short enough that the knee is halfway down her shin. The knees will often sit in a different place on most people, due to height difference.
Of course, it does change the shape of the trouser leg bottoms, but thats not always an issue if its just a straight leg.

It does sound like you must have a very unusual body shape, but I'm sure there are trousers designed for women and which have deep crotches that might work, like front pleated, high rise, petite ones. It's just difficult to believe that no trousers could ever fit you comfortably, given that people of all shapes and sizes wear trousers as part of their work uniforms every day.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:36

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:31

Size 14, and even as a size 10 teen I had this problem. I also can't get one-piece swimwear long enough. It's simply that I have a long torso with a tall pelvis.

I've had the most success with trousers sold as high-rise, which are about a mid-rise on me.

But nice try, trying to insinuate that I'm fat.

I wasn't trying to insinuate anything! What an assumption. I'm just aware, from family members, that finding clothes that fit well is much more difficult for bigger people, especially as often clothing brands assume they're all big in the same way and places ‐ when they're not. It's frustrating for them, and so I noted that as an aside.

(Nice that you consider being bigger such an insult, though.)

BabblingBiddy · 09/09/2026 00:38

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:22

I have to say, I find it very difficult to believe that, between both the men's and women's department, a person cannot find a pair of trousers that sit comfortably at or just above the pelvic bones, and are roomy enough in the crotch and bum, with only perhaps needing the hems taken up (very easy to do with simple, unskilled hand sewing).

I suppose some very large (in terms of being overweight) people could have difficulty?

My best friend has a 12 inch difference between waist and hip measurements. Well fitting trousers are almost impossible.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:40

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:33

I haven't noticed the knee placement to be an issue for my daughter, who has a long torso and frequently has trousers cut down short enough that the knee is halfway down her shin. The knees will often sit in a different place on most people, due to height difference.
Of course, it does change the shape of the trouser leg bottoms, but thats not always an issue if its just a straight leg.

It does sound like you must have a very unusual body shape, but I'm sure there are trousers designed for women and which have deep crotches that might work, like front pleated, high rise, petite ones. It's just difficult to believe that no trousers could ever fit you comfortably, given that people of all shapes and sizes wear trousers as part of their work uniforms every day.

Of course, it does change the shape of the trouser leg bottoms, but thats not always an issue if its just a straight leg.

It destroys bootcuts and skinnies.

people of all shapes and sizes wear trousers as part of their work uniforms every day.

Wearing them and being comfortable wearing them are two different things. I once took a bra off mid-afternoon at work because I couldn't stand the pain of the wires in my armpits any more (see also: fuck Bravissimo fitters). Until that moment, I had been wearing that bra.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:44

BabblingBiddy · 09/09/2026 00:38

My best friend has a 12 inch difference between waist and hip measurements. Well fitting trousers are almost impossible.

That's not an unusually large difference? I'm only 10 inches now, in my late 30s, and I just don't wear trousers that come to my waist if they don’t fit well. I wear a lot of trousers that sit just above my pelvic bones, as a lowish mid rise. Perfectly comfortable.
I've never encountered a woman who had difficulty wearing trousers in my life, unless it was size related, so this all seems very odd – in line with women fainting if they wear trousers, or suffering health issues, or looking like men.

Again, I do think skirts should be an option in uniform, but I really don’t think there are girls who just literally can't wear trousers, unless they have 3 legs.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:46

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:40

Of course, it does change the shape of the trouser leg bottoms, but thats not always an issue if its just a straight leg.

It destroys bootcuts and skinnies.

people of all shapes and sizes wear trousers as part of their work uniforms every day.

Wearing them and being comfortable wearing them are two different things. I once took a bra off mid-afternoon at work because I couldn't stand the pain of the wires in my armpits any more (see also: fuck Bravissimo fitters). Until that moment, I had been wearing that bra.

But for a school uniform, they don't need bootcuts or skinnies (both fairly unfashionable now). Just smart trousers that fit comfortably. Which I don't believe is impossible to affordably achieve for 99.9% of people.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:46

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:36

I wasn't trying to insinuate anything! What an assumption. I'm just aware, from family members, that finding clothes that fit well is much more difficult for bigger people, especially as often clothing brands assume they're all big in the same way and places ‐ when they're not. It's frustrating for them, and so I noted that as an aside.

(Nice that you consider being bigger such an insult, though.)

Edited

In the context of your sniffy disbelief that I might actually be telling the truth about my own body, yeah, I took your intent as being to use "large" as an insult.

BabblingBiddy · 09/09/2026 00:46

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:44

That's not an unusually large difference? I'm only 10 inches now, in my late 30s, and I just don't wear trousers that come to my waist if they don’t fit well. I wear a lot of trousers that sit just above my pelvic bones, as a lowish mid rise. Perfectly comfortable.
I've never encountered a woman who had difficulty wearing trousers in my life, unless it was size related, so this all seems very odd – in line with women fainting if they wear trousers, or suffering health issues, or looking like men.

Again, I do think skirts should be an option in uniform, but I really don’t think there are girls who just literally can't wear trousers, unless they have 3 legs.

Well shes had a lifetime of not being able to find trousers that fit well both in look and comfort.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:53

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 00:44

That's not an unusually large difference? I'm only 10 inches now, in my late 30s, and I just don't wear trousers that come to my waist if they don’t fit well. I wear a lot of trousers that sit just above my pelvic bones, as a lowish mid rise. Perfectly comfortable.
I've never encountered a woman who had difficulty wearing trousers in my life, unless it was size related, so this all seems very odd – in line with women fainting if they wear trousers, or suffering health issues, or looking like men.

Again, I do think skirts should be an option in uniform, but I really don’t think there are girls who just literally can't wear trousers, unless they have 3 legs.

Biddy's friend has a waist a whole dress size smaller than her hips. That's going to cause huge problems finding trousers. It's going to limit skirt choice too, but at least flared skirts exist.

At 10" apart, your waist and hips are the same dress size.

I'm getting a strong impression, based on your comments about trouser knee height not mattering and your lack of awareness that British dress sizes assume a 10" hip spring, that you don't have much experience making or designing clothes. I make some of mine. Trust me, knee height matters for appearance and comfort.

Walkden · 09/09/2026 01:01

"People keep talking about girls having their "arse" on show. I have never seen this. You'd have to be wearing a very short skirt indeed to display someone's behind"

Guess you've not worked in many secondary schools then!

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 01:08

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:53

Biddy's friend has a waist a whole dress size smaller than her hips. That's going to cause huge problems finding trousers. It's going to limit skirt choice too, but at least flared skirts exist.

At 10" apart, your waist and hips are the same dress size.

I'm getting a strong impression, based on your comments about trouser knee height not mattering and your lack of awareness that British dress sizes assume a 10" hip spring, that you don't have much experience making or designing clothes. I make some of mine. Trust me, knee height matters for appearance and comfort.

Edited

I've known plenty of women with very small waists compared to their hips, and none were unable to wear trousers. So it's a little odd.

I actually do know a fair amount about sewing (my mother sews a lot of my clothes, and I've picked up a lot from her), but perhaps I'm just less picky than you about clothing appearance. Comfort is what matters to me most.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 01:09

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:46

In the context of your sniffy disbelief that I might actually be telling the truth about my own body, yeah, I took your intent as being to use "large" as an insult.

If you're going to insist on assuming bad faith, then there's no point in engaging.

WearyAuldWumman · 09/09/2026 01:18

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/09/2026 00:31

Size 14, and even as a size 10 teen I had this problem. I also can't get one-piece swimwear long enough. It's simply that I have a long torso with a tall pelvis.

I've had the most success with trousers sold as high-rise, which are about a mid-rise on me.

But nice try, trying to insinuate that I'm fat.

The only way that I can get swimsuits to fit properly without cutting into me is to buy two pieces. I now buy tankini pieces from Lands end - regular high-rise bottoms, but long size top and they're just right.

So far as trousers are concerned, I can take up hems but the proportions still don't seem to be quite right. I find that certain makes of sports leggings are a bit more forgiving but - of course - they don't work for formal wear.

I do look for high-rise trousers.

I recall finding a particular cut of Levi's jeans that worked for me in the late '70s, but - alas - haven't found anything in formal wear that's quite so good.

My current jeans had to be bought a bit bigger than I would have liked. I took up the hem and I wear them with a belt, but they're still not right.

I also find that I can have a problem with certain dresses and jackets - the waistline often sits too high up and just looks odd: I tend to look for the
type that just skims and doesn't have noticeable pockets. (I do like pockets, but if they have a flap, then they're noticeably in the wrong place.)

Jumpers and t-shirts intended for men tend to be a bit better for length, but then the sleeves are often too wide or too long. Yes, I do roll up sleeves where that's possible or adjust as best as I can.

Honestly someone feeling the need to tell us to alter clothes where possible is a bit insulting...As if we'd never thought of that!

And yes - I am overweight, but I had the same problem with clothes when I was the same height that I am now - nearly 5ft 9 - and 8 stone 10 lbs. Even when I was a child, I recall my mum having difficulty getting clothes to fit because I had a long back. She was good at altering things, so she'd buy bigger and take in where necessary.

Once I was 11 yrs old, however, she had problems finding clothes suitable for my age group.

I feel sorry for the girls who have been told (according to various news reports) that their brand new uniform skirts are too short. I recall having great difficulty finding midi length skirts in my size.

As a teenager, I was in a band. There were only four girls in the group - there were 5 boys - and we all went to the same shop to purchase matching black skirts. The other three girls all got identical skirts that went below the knee. Mine was just above the knee. I certainly wasn't fat - I was the same height that I am now and had a 26 inch waist.

BabblingBiddy · 09/09/2026 01:22

OtterlyAstounding · 09/09/2026 01:08

I've known plenty of women with very small waists compared to their hips, and none were unable to wear trousers. So it's a little odd.

I actually do know a fair amount about sewing (my mother sews a lot of my clothes, and I've picked up a lot from her), but perhaps I'm just less picky than you about clothing appearance. Comfort is what matters to me most.

Of course body shape comes into play too. And im pleased your friends can all find trousers that fit. Can they find trousers that fit, fit the stupid rules schools have about styles, are within budget. Etc etc.

Maybe I've misremembered the measurement and it's more than 12 inches. Confused

thisismeithinkorisit · 09/09/2026 01:26

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 07/09/2026 17:42

Why on earth do girls have to look like boys? They are not boys and if they like skirts, what’s wrong with skirts? Heads should be concerned with improving education, not dictating all girls wear trousers!

Girls in female trousers do not look like boys any more than a lad looks like a girl if he puts on a skirt. You're honedtly telling me that none of these girls ever wear anything but a skirt or dress outside of school?

Awkwardisfunny · 09/09/2026 01:50

I encourage this policy to be adopted everywhere. It resolves a lot of issues.