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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Brave reporter undergoes inhumane sex test for sports. Brace yourselves.

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singthing · 28/07/2026 11:08

Here's a blow-by-blow first-person account of what it is like to have the new sports sex test that is being decried as invasive and dehumanising and (in a rather extravagant bending of the facts) a genital inspection etc.

After such a big build-up, prepare to be.... underwhelmed. But please do stop scrolling now if you don't want to read the distressing details:

"I open my mouth and feel the swab brushing the inside of my cheeks for about 20 seconds. The practitioner carefully places the sample in a small plastic bag and then pops it into a sealed envelope. I sign the back of it."

https://archive.ph/kITV9

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Helleofabore · 29/07/2026 00:15

Deadlifter · 29/07/2026 00:02

It’s not emotional manipulation to point out when people are being unkind. I can see it’s upset you to hear it though.

I don’t think you care about women’s sport. You absolutely have NOT engaged in anyway with the points I’ve raised about a lack of scientific consensus that this test CAN prove sex in any useful way. You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports. You believe sex is an absolute binary and will continue to do so despite any evidence to the contrary. You think you’re opened minded and scientific but you’re not.

You absolutely have NOT engaged in anyway with the points I’ve raised about a lack of scientific consensus that this test CAN prove sex in any useful way.

Why should anyone engage with a random point mentioned without evidence being linked to support it?

You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports.

I have answered this. And I believe that my answer pretty close in line with the OIC sports review committee and other sporting federations.

You have yet to even answer the logic of why this particular group of male people get special treatment that other athletes do not get when they find that they can no longer compete in categories of sport they wish to.

Why should they get special treatment that no other group does?

You believe sex is an absolute binary and will continue to do so despite any evidence to the contrary.”

I have not seen you post any expert evidence at all that sex cannot be reliably identified in human being by looking at their body formation around the gametes that the body would produce, or does produce or have never produced. I believe you mentioned genitalia, I didn’t.

If you have evidence to support your view that human beings cannot be categorised by sex category with modern testing, please link it up!

You think you’re opened minded and scientific but you’re not.

You are the person resorting to telling me what I believe of myself. Usually with insults attached. Well done in showing how kind you are.

Helleofabore · 29/07/2026 00:21

Mmmnotsure · 29/07/2026 00:08

@Helleofabore "Emotional reasoning no longer convinces many people at all"

That's been one of the most freeing elements of all of this. Women are told since they are little girls to be quiet, sit down, be nice, keep calm, look after, BE KIND, nurture, give way to. And then the demands become intolerable. And you say "no".

And men who seem pleased to think that they have made us upset or scared, don't realise that actually they have allowed us the freedom to be angry.

Agree.

I realised just how fucked up always repeating ‘be kind’ was when I was telling my tween at the time to think of how terrible a family life their bully had. I stopped myself in mid sentence and realised that it was not fucking kind to tell a child to accept harm because someone had hardships.

It is like all the pleas that these male people have hard lives. Well fuck!! Think of the female athletes they took the opportunities from.

There is nothing kind in allowing male people with any male pubertal advantages to access female sports. It is completely contrary, contradictory and it doesn’t even stand up to logical scrutiny.

hallouminatus · 29/07/2026 00:26

In the Telegraph article, Fiona Tomas writes:

Under new rules issued by the International Olympic Committee (IOC), all athletes wanting to compete in the female category, irrespective of sport, will have to do the test to participate in the 2028 Los Angeles Games. This effectively bans transgender athletes and those with differences in sex development (DSD) from women’s sport, marking a move away from testosterone suppression policies that were previously used to determine the eligibility of such athletes.

She should have said something like:

"This effectively bans male athletes from women’s sport."

She could have added:

"Female athletes who are transgender or have DSDs will still be eligible for women's sport, dispite misinformation to the contrary. Previous policies allowed some male athletes with transgender identities or DSDs to participate in women's sports if they suppressed their testosterone"

Again and again I read about transgender people or people with DSDs being banned or excluded from something or other, and invariably it's not true. I generally assume that the writer is an activist who either knows they're lying but don't have any honest arguments, or they are unthinkingly repeating what other activists have said.

I don't think Fiona Tomas, the Telegraph's women's sports reporter, is an activist, so I don't understand why she writes something so obviously untrue - it really undermines trust in her reporting.

It would be unfair and unjustified to descriminate against or exclude any athlete just because they are transgender or have a DSD. Fortunately, nobody as far as I know, is doing or proposing any such thing.

Lougle · 29/07/2026 00:26

Deadlifter · 29/07/2026 00:02

It’s not emotional manipulation to point out when people are being unkind. I can see it’s upset you to hear it though.

I don’t think you care about women’s sport. You absolutely have NOT engaged in anyway with the points I’ve raised about a lack of scientific consensus that this test CAN prove sex in any useful way. You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports. You believe sex is an absolute binary and will continue to do so despite any evidence to the contrary. You think you’re opened minded and scientific but you’re not.

My understanding is that nobody is trying to prove sex. They are trying to prevent individuals who have benefited from the circulation of testosterone in their system from competing alongside individuals who have had no such benefit. The way they do this is to test for the marker of sensitivity to testosterone.

World Athletics say that competing in the women's category is restricted to any individual who is:

  • biologically female, or
  • who is male genetically but has proven complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, or
  • who has previously taken testosterone to develop male features but has foregone it for a period of at least 4 years (actual length of time decided by World Athletics)

I can't see that as being unfair.

Paralympians face reclassification every time their condition alters. The tests are often painful and the examinations can be humiliating (how bad are you really?). If they get reclassified to the next less severe band, they know they are likely to be the 'worst' in that band Vs the 'best' in the band they've come from.

It's the price of fair sport.

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 00:34

Deadlifter · 28/07/2026 22:49

Serious people ARE able to sit with nuance and complexity in my experience! For me, one in every 4500 babies being born with DSD or an intersex condition - though still rare - is enough to convince me that biological sex isn’t completely straightforwardly two categories. For you, it isn’t. I don’t think that makes me less intelligent than you.

How is the fact of rare chromosomal abnormalities remotely relevant to the idea that men can be women if they want to?

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 00:37

You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports.

We could consider how we fairly include wheelchair users and blind people in sports as a clue how to answer that. It’s certainly appropriate to identify which people have DSDs to know how fairly to include them, and this test is not an inappropriate way to get that under way.

RedToothBrush · 29/07/2026 00:42

Sport.

Us and some women ages ago: Let's have a category for 50% of the population to make it as fair as possible for as many people as possible. This is for females only.

Idiots: But what about this minority group of males?

Us: What about them? They have mens sport. Men can work something out or they can have a third category.

Idiots: But that's not fair to this tiny number of males?

Us: And? Life's not fair, but women's sport is as fair as it can be for the people we are trying to centre in women's sport. Y'know women.

Idiots: But that's not fair! It's not that simple.

Us: I think you will find it is simple and fair for 50% of the population. Why are we trying to prioritise a teeny tiny number of men at the expense of 50% of the population.

Idiots: Because this group is super disadvantaged and should get special treatment.

Us: Why!? We are trying to centre women who always get sidelined in favour of males. Can't we just have a little bit of an opportunity.

Idiots: Wash waah waaaah. Stop being so mean and prejudiced. If they want something they should get it because they say so.

Us: How does that work? Are women not allowed to say what they want?

Idiots: See it's not a big deal to be kind

Us: Actually it is. We just want to do sport atbe competitive. Like men. Why are we supposed to put that aside just to be nice to males who aren't being very nice to us by not respecting the fact this really isn't a fair thing to allow males to enter and dominate womens sport just because they want to.

Idiots: You are so aggressive and talk in an unbecoming manner.

Us: Uh huh wat? You'd never say that to a man. Men are allowed to demand whatever they like and don't we just know it.

Idiots: Well cos science

Us: Flat earthing isn't science. It's woowoo bullshit just so men cheat.

Idiots: How dare you?!

Us: We dare quite a lot seeing as men can't be women. That's the point. We say no.

Helleofabore · 29/07/2026 00:48

You absolutely have NOT engaged in anyway with the points I’ve raised about a lack of scientific consensus that this test CAN prove sex in any useful way.

Coming back to this. Because I don’t believe this is quite an accurate framing of the process.

The SRY screen (as I pointed out pages ago it is more accurately a screening process) only detects athletes who require further investigation. I don’t believe any one on this thread believes that someone with a positive result of the screening sample will not then undergo further investigation.

And I haven’t ‘engaged’ with it, because there are numerous posts on that thread I linked up that go through the history of screening and the papers on how it works.

Many people on this thread have also already discussed the screens for thread after thread when the decision was announced to use them.

No one produced any links to discredit their reliability in detecting those who needed further investigation then. If you have anything, link it up.

Helleofabore · 29/07/2026 00:51

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 00:37

You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports.

We could consider how we fairly include wheelchair users and blind people in sports as a clue how to answer that. It’s certainly appropriate to identify which people have DSDs to know how fairly to include them, and this test is not an inappropriate way to get that under way.

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Indeed

Inclusive events can be introduced. But they will be specific events.

RedToothBrush · 29/07/2026 01:07

You have no real answer for how we can fairly include people with DSD in sports

Hang on a second.

Men's sport is competitive. There isn't any inclusivity going on. And men don't have to justify why they aren't inclusive. Because it's about which is the best.

Women's sport isn't allowed to be competitive. It has to justify why it's not inclusive. Why?

Why can't women's sport be competitive - for women?

If we have males entering women can't compete. So the whole purpose of sport, as it was designed for men, then doesn't exist. Women are just there for fun, not to be competitive or taken seriously as professionals. They are just there for the taking part.

Oh wait, they can't take part if enough DSD makes / trans identifying men decide they want to compete in women's competitions. They lose their entry space. And the professional income. And educational scholarships.

This is the ENTIRE point.

Either womens sport is aspirational to 50% of the population. Or it's just watching Greg down the park play netball because he feels like it. To hell with women who want to be taken seriously.

Just why do you want to center males in women's sport? Why aren't women's centred?

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 01:07

Deadlifter · 28/07/2026 23:31

Posting anything NOT gender critical on mumsnet IS waste of time, I’ve learnt. My disagreements were fairly mild. I’m sorry if I didn’t have time to post loads of links in between trying to answer relentless questions from about ten people at a time.

@JanesLittleGirl - the problem is that some scientists don’t think the test IS scientific. Some leading geneticists argue that screening for the SRY gene oversimplifies biological sex and fails to account for natural genetic diversity and intersex variations. There are also concerns from some academics that the new policy risks colliding with well-established legal frameworks that were erected in response to historical injustices caused by genetic testing. All this is Google-able!

Some leading geneticists argue that screening for the SRY gene oversimplifies biological sex and fails to account for natural genetic diversity and intersex variations.

I think you’ve misunderstood the point of the test(s) required to compete in the female category, which is only to determine and rule ineligible those who have had the advantage of male hormones and puberty.

Sport isn’t concerned with anything else as far as saying who’s a woman and who’s a man.

For its intended purpose, testing for the SRY gene and follow up enquiries is appropriate.

That’s as far as it goes. The female category is for those who haven’t had male mini-puberty or male adolescent puberty.

I’m struck by what Ross said, by the way, when he pointed out those are the things that give men an advantage. The presence or absence of a penis is irrelevant to performance in sport. So, for those who do want genital inspections, they won’t work. Presence or absence of male (or female) genitals don’t separate people into the classes that do and don’t have male advantage.

HarrietofFire · 29/07/2026 01:30

In 2000 I competed internationally in a sport as part of a female pair in an event that had a thousand individual competitors.There were so few women who were strong or brave enough to take it on.

We came second to last in the entire event. But we got medals because we were the only all women crew in our category that managed to do it.

Thinking about that now I’d be devastated if one of our competitors turned out to be a bloke. We worked and trained so hard.

mondaytosunday · 29/07/2026 01:32

Who says it’s ’invasive and dehumanising’? I only see that in reference to the tests referred to in Semenya’s book of an earlier time. No one is claiming the current test is that?

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 01:39

mondaytosunday · 29/07/2026 01:32

Who says it’s ’invasive and dehumanising’? I only see that in reference to the tests referred to in Semenya’s book of an earlier time. No one is claiming the current test is that?

Lots of people on trans Reddit, and X.

Invasive, because it reveals things (some) people don't want to be revealed, and dehumanising because, I suppose, it applies hard science, and test tubes, and verifiable data in respect of people's human experiences of what sex they think they are.

Tough shit.

ElenOfTheWays · 29/07/2026 04:38

StylesSluttyShorts · 28/07/2026 17:13

You'll say anything old thing to get men into women's sports won't you?
We see you.

This is the truth of it when you get right down to it

All the wailing and handwringing about DSDs and sex being complicated and a spectrum of mixed up chromosomes or whatever, is a smokescreen. In the end, it's just about shitting on women. We see you indeed.

ElenOfTheWays · 29/07/2026 04:46

Deadlifter · 28/07/2026 17:18

If you’re not able to have compassion for someone who was told they were a girl from birth (and had female genitalia), and fell in love with a sport before knowing any different, and now they can no longer compete in that sport (whether that’s right or wrong), then I feel sorry for you.

And the story changes.

We've gone from "she's definitely a woman and you're all ignorant bigots who don't understand science"
To "well, anyway even if he IS a man, you're all just mean for not feeling sorry for him"
O-kay!

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 29/07/2026 06:44

Deadlifter · 28/07/2026 17:18

If you’re not able to have compassion for someone who was told they were a girl from birth (and had female genitalia), and fell in love with a sport before knowing any different, and now they can no longer compete in that sport (whether that’s right or wrong), then I feel sorry for you.

Why isn't he competing with in the men's category now?

Yeah, that why he was topless in swimming trunks. Because he thought he was female. 🙄

Deadlifter · 29/07/2026 06:53

MyAmpleSheep · 29/07/2026 01:07

Some leading geneticists argue that screening for the SRY gene oversimplifies biological sex and fails to account for natural genetic diversity and intersex variations.

I think you’ve misunderstood the point of the test(s) required to compete in the female category, which is only to determine and rule ineligible those who have had the advantage of male hormones and puberty.

Sport isn’t concerned with anything else as far as saying who’s a woman and who’s a man.

For its intended purpose, testing for the SRY gene and follow up enquiries is appropriate.

That’s as far as it goes. The female category is for those who haven’t had male mini-puberty or male adolescent puberty.

I’m struck by what Ross said, by the way, when he pointed out those are the things that give men an advantage. The presence or absence of a penis is irrelevant to performance in sport. So, for those who do want genital inspections, they won’t work. Presence or absence of male (or female) genitals don’t separate people into the classes that do and don’t have male advantage.

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I promise you that not everyone who disagrees with you had just misunderstood something.

Just to share with you all - one night on a mumsnet gender criticial thread made me feel anxious, less patient (sorry to some of you on that!) and just like… meaner and smaller.

I’m glad some of you seem to think you’ve found a kind of righteous anger after years of being told to be nice or kind, but I wish you’d directed it somewhere else instead of a tiny group of people who really aren’t affecting your lives or making you less safe (I know you think they are; they’re just not). You’re like people who’ve fallen for the small boats thing - an imagined bogeyman to fear and obsess over.

I’m going to ban myself commenting on a similar mumsnet thread again, as I don’t think it’s a space where people are able to engage in good faith anymore. It’s too obsessive.

I hope you all have ways to take care of yourselves - I think you’re doing each other a world of damage passing around and building up so much fear.

Igneococcus · 29/07/2026 07:13

I hope you all have ways to take care of yourselves - I think you’re doing each other a world of damage passing around and building up so much fear.

Why do TRAs always wrap their barbs in some sort of pseudo-caring language?

Helleofabore · 29/07/2026 07:14

This thread turned into a head fuck.

But I think it became illustrative of why reasoning based on vague claims and the emotionally manipulative catch all of

be kind!

fails.

So far, we have seen plenty of noise using fallacious argument points that all end up showing the person arguing does not understand competition. We have seen this with some expert activists regular in media or social media. It is a script that covers the following :

‘sex categories in humans are complicated’

’sport is for all people, it is a human right’

’but whatabout all these other competitors, they have natural advantages too?’

‘it is only a few, why is this considered an issue at all!’

’but sometimes they lose to female athletes’

’not all female athletes agree that this group should be excluded’

‘But these athletes can’t compete with male athletes!’

All of these fail because they are based on fallacies, are factually incorrect or they fail even at a philosophical level.

’sex categories in humans are complicated’

For the purpose of who gets access to protected category of sport, sex categorisation in humans is based on whether or not the human has the ability to produce and/or process testosterone in the typical male range.

This is reliably done with the SRY screen and then with any further investigation that is also going to produce a reliable result.

Sport categories that are protected to allow that protected group to have fair competition have defined boundaries that are outlined in regulation. That is their exact nature of protection.

If a protected category exists at all, it must be for a purpose and definable. Entry to that category is also not based on beliefs that are not measurable.

The female sports categories are protected to allow female people to have fair competition and for physical safety.

Other protected categories in sport are: age group, country specific, sports for athletes with specified disabilities, skill levels. amateur vs professional.

’sport is for all people, it is a human right’

This one is a misrepresentation and is often misused. Sport access is a human right but no person has the right to compete in a protected category that they have been assessed not to belong to.

This argument continually ignores that part.

There is also limitations to human rights claims where that claim will cause harm to others. Male people claiming it is their human right to play sport in a protected category they don’t qualify for, also ignore the limitations that define this ‘rights’ claim.

Those athletes can still play sport! They are not ‘banned’ from sport.

Juat like every other person though, they have to play sport in the category they belong in.

If they have to accept they cannot play in the category they wanted to, so too do many other people who also have to deal with the same news that a protected category is not available for them to compete in.

’but whatabout all these other competitors, they have natural advantages too?’

This is the Phelps fallacy. It is a fallacy because it ignores that natural body variation within a sports category is allowable and that even Phelps was beaten. Just because someone has an extraordinary naturally derived feature doesn’t mean that another person within that category doesn’t have a feature or combination of feature that will also produce a performance to compete.

The key for sex categories is that no female person will have access to the advantages derived from having a male body producing and utilising typical levels of testosterone even from early childhood.

I posted quite a few expert explanations about why this is a fallacy upthread that explains this far better than I can.

‘it is only a few, why is this considered an issue at all!’

It only takes a ‘few’ to cause significant harm to others.

It only takes ‘one’ to set a record that no female athlete will be able to break.

It only takes one to displace thousands of female athletes to get to an elite competition. Semenya displaces thousands of female athletes in his own country to get to international representation level.

It only took 3 to take all podium places in one race at the 2016 Olympics.

It only takes one to cause injuries to other players that a female person would not be likely to have the physical advantages to cause. One male player in a Sydney football league causes numerous reported injuries to female players in one season. One was career stopping for that female player, I believe. It was preventable.

’but sometimes they lose to female athletes’

Another fallacy because it fails to consider the protected category boundary.

As Ross Tucker says, if a Tour de France cyclist rides an electric powered cycle and still doesn’t win, did that cyclist have an advantage? Of course they had a fucking advantage.

Having an unfair competitive physical advantage doesn’t mean you are going to win! But ‘winning’ is not the over riding definition for whether a competitive advantage should be allowed or not into a protected characteristic.

Should a mediocre competitor get to compete in a protected category just because they may not win? Should a mediocre adult runner compete in the under 12 race ‘because they don’t win’???

’not all female athletes agree that this group should be excluded’

This is an irrelevant argument because consent is not transferable.

There is no democratic decision either as to whether a person outside the protected sports category should or should not access that sports category.

‘But these athletes can’t compete with male athletes!’

This is a falsity for several reasons. Including that there is no recognised reason that a group of male people cannot perform at an elite level with 5ARD as an example. There has not been found to be a limiting factor physically.

If also is a falsity because for that statement to be meaningful, what it requires is more detail.

But these athletes can’t compete with male athletes = But these athletes can’t compete with male athletes and win.

Of course those male athletes can compete in male sporting events. Mediocre male athletes enjoy sport all the time.

It is the unsaid bit, the ‘and win’, that makes all the difference.

This argument revolves around providing a male athlete with the opportunity to ‘win’.

For all of the above, if none of those flawed and false arguments work, the activist script then resorts to ad hominem attacks, name calling, insults etc.

The script hasn’t changed much over the years I have watched it.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 29/07/2026 07:15

"Oh you poor obsessed dears. Fancy imagining that men have been successfully taking places from women in sport? How could you think that men want access to women's changing rooms? small boats, bogeymen, right wing etc etc
Rest your fevered little brains and sit back while the men make all the decisions for you. Sleep now......."

😁

What would this tactic be called in the long list of manoeuvres displayed on this thread? Patronising? Through gritted teeth? Desperation?

Having started with the it's "your failure of understanding / curiosity / openness" it's ending with toxic little barbs about "meaner and smaller"

7/10 for effort though.

Seethlaw · 29/07/2026 07:16

@Deadlifter

I'm trans. I haven't found a more open-minded space to discuss being trans, the effects it has on my life, and the effects it has on other people's life, than here.

Women here are incredibly compassionate towards other women.
They are smart and educated, and systematically back their claims up with scientific evidence.

When I made my first thread, I was asked plenty of questions, just like you, but I enjoyed it, because it forced me to think about what I was saying, to think through what I believed, and to articulate my feelings and understanding.

This forum is not a bubble. Quite the contrary: it's a window. A window into the world of women who don't just submit when men ask them to. Yes, it's a wild world this window opens onto. It can be very overwhelming, and certainly feel incredibly alien, because we're not used to women saying No to men.

But ask yourself: do you really not want to explore the myriads of possibilities in a world when women don't have to submit to men?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/07/2026 07:20

Deadlifter · 29/07/2026 06:53

I promise you that not everyone who disagrees with you had just misunderstood something.

Just to share with you all - one night on a mumsnet gender criticial thread made me feel anxious, less patient (sorry to some of you on that!) and just like… meaner and smaller.

I’m glad some of you seem to think you’ve found a kind of righteous anger after years of being told to be nice or kind, but I wish you’d directed it somewhere else instead of a tiny group of people who really aren’t affecting your lives or making you less safe (I know you think they are; they’re just not). You’re like people who’ve fallen for the small boats thing - an imagined bogeyman to fear and obsess over.

I’m going to ban myself commenting on a similar mumsnet thread again, as I don’t think it’s a space where people are able to engage in good faith anymore. It’s too obsessive.

I hope you all have ways to take care of yourselves - I think you’re doing each other a world of damage passing around and building up so much fear.

Yeah yeah yeah were such big nasty meanies aren't we? 🙄

all the signs saying decapitate - oh no wait that was trans activists

or that time when we said we'd pour piss ourselves if we didn't get our own way - oh no trans activists again

or that time when we besieged meetings banging on the windows and screaming - oh no you'll never guess who that was again

if you cannot understand that redefining women away from meaning "adult human female" and towards "adult human female oh and some men who feel like women" (cos all women feel the same amirite?) means that there is in effect nothing just for women then I can't help you with comprehension. How can we for example decide how many maternity beds we need to provide in an area if the numbers of women includes 'and some men'? How can we research the effect of a particular policy on women if it includes 'and some men'? How can we ensure a rape survivors support group for women is only for women if the definition includes 'and some men'?

all of this, this redefining of women to include 'and men performing female stereotypes' was done without anyone asking women if it was OK. Did you know risk assessments on transferring male prisoners to women's prisoners because they identified as women was only done on the man being transferred and not on the woman being locked up with him?

angry?? I'm absolutely fucking furious!

Deadlifter · 29/07/2026 07:20

Igneococcus · 29/07/2026 07:13

I hope you all have ways to take care of yourselves - I think you’re doing each other a world of damage passing around and building up so much fear.

Why do TRAs always wrap their barbs in some sort of pseudo-caring language?

Because whilst you’re used to this space, looking in it from the outside, it is genuinely distressing and painful to see.

one of you is describing the ‘head fuck’ of being disagreed with fairly mildly by one single person. There are lots more dissenting voices outside of this forum, and you’ve stopped being able to see it at all. People DO feel sorry for people who have fallen into an online rabbit hole or conspiracy theory etc, and whilst it might make you uncomfortable and I’m sure you don’t want my sympathy - I do feel sorry for you.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/07/2026 07:28

Yes yes we get it

you will always privilege male feelings over female reality - well done you