By 'your' community, do you mean the LGBT 'community'?
That's not a real community.
Communities share some identity or interest or experiences, but LGB people and T people are two disparate groups, not the same people, not the same issues, not the same histories [though the T love to appropriate LGB history].
Lesbian and gay people are a varied group, so I wouldn't even use the word 'community' to describe us, but what we share is sexual orientation which is same-sex attracted.
Trans people are also a varied group, but their shared characteristic is a belief that they are not the sex - or the gender - they were born into. Nothing to do with sexual orientation.
So I reject the word 'community' when it refers to a forced teaming of transpeople with lesbian and gay people - different issues, difference people, different 'communities'.
Nobody asked us if we wanted the T glommed on to the LGB.
Most LGB people probably weren't even aware it was happening - there wasn't a referendum or anything; some LGB people weren't all that bothered; some - the ones you rightly take issue with - became enthusiastic trans allies; and others so vehemently objected to the forced teaming of the T with the LGB that they formed the LGB Alliance.