I'm really interested to see what response this thread will get

[WallaceinAnderland]

It's just been posted on Reddit and I'm interested to see the views of posters on that forum:

Hi everyone, an older XY woman here (I'm approaching 40). Back in February I heard a voice in my head, it was a little girl's voice and it promised happiness and 'real feeling'. Once I realised that it was my 'feeling voice' there was an explosion of emotion which came with symptoms of CPTSD (or masked autism?) eg light/music/taste sensitivity etc. I was also able to see people in an emotional light without the need for alcohol, which I now have no need for as I used it primarily to feel emotions. As part of the dialogue with this voice, I thought I had sorted out my identity as the voice readily said that I was 'a boy'. (The symptoms have settled down, now.)
Recently, after 3 months of therapy and prompted by my therapist asking after the gender of my 'inner parent', I asked my feeling voice what I meant by 'boy' and I said 'not mum'. I asked it what I looked like, and was shocked to find that I looked like a woman. I don't physically look like my mum, being an XY woman, but my emotional body is that of her gender. With the techniques from therapy, combined with a heady dose of my own, my emotions are now settled and I can eat and sleep and function again... so I'm preparing to meet the practical challenges of being an XY woman.
So, firstly, hey! I guess you're my folk, now :) The only stuff I know about trans people is what I learned during suppression, so I don't know much at all, really, and I have no trans friends or any friends I'm really close enough to to talk about trans stuff in detail, readily. Oh, also, I tend towards the term XY-woman. Is that okay?
Secondly, I have seen some posts about suppressed emotion on here pre-realisation and about emotional release. Given what happened to me, I would be very interested to hear about any similar instances of suppressed emotion and emotional release. Thanks for reading.

If you're interested in views of people on Reddit why have you copied the post here? Why aren't you on Reddit?

So, a man writing about having a psychotic episode.

Reads like a lot of word salad to say he’s an AGP man.

Why bring it over here from Reddit?

I’ve never met anyone who describes themselves as an XY woman. I stopped reading after that.

Oh I saw that, the argument over whether it’s ok to assume that becoming ‘soppy’ & liking Bridgerton are down to identifying as MTF.

Oh, also, I tend towards the term XY-woman. Is that okay?

well it’s bollocks but whatever. Honestly it’s a waffly load of nonsense and anyone talking about voices in their head probably needs some therapy.

I asked my feeling voice what I meant by 'boy' and I said 'not mum'. I asked it what I looked like, and was shocked to find that I looked like a woman. I don't physically look like my mum, being an XY woman, but my emotional body is that of her gender.

emotional body?! Yeah, no. Whatever this is, I don’t have the energy or inclination to try and decipher it. Sounds like self indulgent tosh to me.

"hi, I'm interested in seeing how much attention I can get and also whether I can wind up people on Mumsnet!" 🤗

It was posted an hour ago and so far has no responses and some downvotes so at this point it doesn't look like there's going to be much discussion at all if any.

Why are you so interested in conversations on a trans support reddit sub? Why are you even looking on there in the first place?

Sounds mentally unwell / like they are having an episode.

I'd also want to see the therapists qualifications too 😵‍💫

Older woman approaching 40??

I'm wondering if anyone will say something about that. Here on mn we would and we would suggest talking to a GP or other appropriate professional. I'm interested to see if they also do that on Reddit or whether they always affirm.

Generally speaking, no middle aged women ( and certainly not working class ones) have the time to navel gaze to that extent. Plus of course, the world tells them every second of every day that no-one gives a shit about what they feel. So it would be entirely pointless.

That's my main reaction.

All that word salad to confirm he's a man.

Incidentally, Trans Reddit know perfectly well that we discuss their threads. They even wave to us sometimes.

And they’ve been known to discuss our threads too.

That's a different thread.

If there is a real therapist, they're almost certainly 'affirmative' and of course that will keep the money flowing in, so why not.

GP appointment would be a good idea.

Oh sorry @WallaceinAnderland, so it is.

Yes, it's a two way street and they are public forums.

I know, right? I was having a baby at 39 ffs.

If a post goes over an hour on reddit without any responses it's not likely to get any at all as the algorithm will drop it down in people's feeds in favour of posts that are getting traffic.

Certainly the fact no one has responded so far suggests no one's rushing to affirm this person.

Again, really unclear on what you're trying to achieve/prove or why you're even looking in the first place.

@WallaceinAnderland is a regular MN poster, fwiw.

This post is obviously batshit but so is this comment. Plenty of women see therapists or engage in weird alternative therapies (which this post sounds like rather than a "proper" therapist) for all sorts of reasons, including working class women, and plenty of women have leisure time in which to navel gaze if they happen to want to. Do you think all working class women are chained to a cook stove all day or something? It's 2026 ffs.

There's no reason why I shouldn't look or talk about it. It's good to see other people's point of view and consider all sides to an argument. I've not seen this type of post before as it's sort of articulating that inner feeling of gender but the way it is described definitely sounds like a mental health issue.

You're obviously free to, it's just a bit of a weird way to spend your time. Especially if you're just sitting around waiting with baited breath for someone to respond to a post that's obviously being soundly ignored so you can confirm your stereotypes about how you think trans people might respond to such a thing.

It also does quite honestly give the impression you might have posted that on reddit yourself to troll, are disappointed that it didn't get any responses, so now you've brought it over here to try and drum up some attention.