Why is this my fucking problem?
I've been saying this for over a decade. All the people telling me to be kind shit all over these people - they can take responsibility for it and deal with it. I've taken that responsibility a long time ago and said this is harming trans people and I'm not going to indulge them by 'being kind'. Frankly many need a reality check, a rocket up the arse and being told to stop naval gazing because pandering and supporting their avoidant behaviour has been the problem in the first place. It's been unkind to fail to say no.