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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Town Vs Country and believing in GI.

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CassOle · 10/05/2026 08:52

I was reading the posts of one of our delightful ploppers, and they commented something like 'what world do you live in? The more I read, the more I wondered if they had ever spent time lambing (or similar). Or whether they were someone who had always lived in a town/city.

The fashion choices are all ones that fall away to nothing when you are checking your animals are OK, have water and forage during a long, wet, cold winter. You (regardless of your sex) need proper outdoor clothing for the weather.

The 'sex is bimodal' idea is just stupid when you are selecting Rams, having the vet scan pregnant ewes, and working hard when the ewes are lambing.

So, I'm wondering whether where you live (and what you do) has any impact on how beliveable gender identity ideology is to an individual?

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borntobequiet · 10/05/2026 22:15

Captainaircoolplatini · 10/05/2026 18:40

Luckily no one on here is a biologist or vet then isn't it? Oh wait

I expect TransBiologist and TransVet will be popping by sometime soon.

HoppityBun · 10/05/2026 22:18

I like to imagine there’s a secret society of trans shepherds

CassOle · 10/05/2026 22:26

How would they sort the wethers from the ewes? It would be very triggering.

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PrawnAgain · 10/05/2026 23:24

Captainaircoolplatini · 10/05/2026 17:56

And yet astonishingly this quiet group of people who just want to quietly live their life have managed to persuade - checks notes - political parties, the civil service, the BBC, the NHS, local government, pretty much every large charity, most of the big finance and legal firms and universities that they are the most marginalised and vulnerable group ever and that language, policy abd practice must be rewritten to accommodate them

good thing they're so quiet and just want ti live their life eh? God knows what they would have done if they had really wanted ti change things

There are some trans activists pushing an agenda of course. Just as there are some people on the GC side of things who work tirelessly to promote what they think is right (for example, Kelly Jay Keen, Helen Joyce). However, these people aren't the norm.

The average person is not an activist, whether they are trans or not. For most people the trans argument is pretty far down the priority list.

toomuchcardboard · 10/05/2026 23:41

HoppityBun · 10/05/2026 22:18

I like to imagine there’s a secret society of trans shepherds

There's been a local non-secret one here for years - he wears ordinary work clothes when working in the fields but dresses in female clothing otherwise.

borntobequiet · 11/05/2026 07:54

toomuchcardboard · 10/05/2026 23:41

There's been a local non-secret one here for years - he wears ordinary work clothes when working in the fields but dresses in female clothing otherwise.

He’s missing a trick

Town Vs Country and believing in GI.
TheHereticalOne · 11/05/2026 08:47

AllTheChaos · 10/05/2026 22:12

So my understanding of it is based in part on reading things like ‘Making Sex: Bodies and Gender’, also Judith Butler etc on gender performativity etc, also my time spent studying sex and gender at university for my first degree a million years ago. My understanding is that sex in humans is broadly binary, with a few outliers like people who are hermaphrodites, and we term that binary ‘male’ and ‘female’. Gender is the performance of that binary in terms of things like clothing, hairstyles, things that are essentially optional, and which are also largely socioculturally determined - eg are trousers ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’? What about dresses? In some cultures trousers are worn primarily by women, and robes are worn by men. There is nothing intrinsically ‘male’ or ‘female’ about these things. Long hair goes in and out of style for men, at one point high heels were for men not women, blue was for girls and pink was for boys, etc etc. As something that is culturally determined rather than immutable, gender can be fairly ‘fluid’ for the same person over their lifespan, sometimes embracing a more feminine style, other times a more masculine style, and so on. Sex however is determined biologically, and cannot be changed. A transvestite is a person who performs the gender that isn’t considered to match their physical sex in the culture in which they reside. A transsexual is someone who chooses to have their body modified to match the appearance of the sex they truly feel themselves to be, which isn’t the sex they were born as, and was always rare and a very big decision needing years of counselling first (obviously that has changed!), and usually happened somewhat later in life, certainly well past puberty, when someone had felt that way from early childhood, had been living as the opposite sex, and often experiencing self harm linked to this (for instance boys who had been deliberately mutilating their penis because they despised it so much). Having ‘gender’ and ‘sex’ used effectively interchangeably makes no sense, and actually makes it much harder to discuss these issues. A man can be a transvestite without being gay, and without secretly wanting to be a gay lesbian* for instance. To say that a person who isn’t performing the gender attributed to their sex ‘properly’, ie who isn’t conforming to strict (and arbitrary, and socioculturally determined and changeable) gender ‘norms’, is somehow no longer actually the sex they are, and must be physically mutilated to look like the sex that matches the gender they are performing, is reactionary to say the least.

*as opposed to all the non-gay ‘lesbians’ who still have penises they have no plans to get rid of..

Edited

Thanks for your interesting post.

Just a quick pernickity one to say that hermaphrodite is generally not a term used anymore for humans because there has been no human with both male and female reproductive organs (the pathways towards developing male gonads and developing female gonads are mutually repressive so you ends up with only one or the other) and it was causing confusion whereby people thought that's what it could/did mean.

Usually what was actually meant was, say, having testicles (primary male sex characteristic) but secondary female characteristics (in extreme cases, including a uterus) which might be caused by a total failure to process the testosterone produced by the testicles or failure to convert to DHT downstream so that testosterone works on the body as normal but doesn't cause a penis to develop / the testicles to descend fully or at all. Those are male disorders of sexual development and the human body is absolutely fascinating in that way, but they don't make a male the opposite sex (or an 'inbetween' sex).

The only condition including tissue of both ovaries and testicles is ovotesticular disorder which they used to call "true hermaphroditism" but again, gives the false impression that there are working sets of both gonads when in fact we are talking about streak tissue of one or both (approx. 500 ever known cases).

Just for interest.

TempestTost · 11/05/2026 11:09

I'm very rural, there is a tiny village but mostly we are dairy farms, forestry, and so on.

Despite being in Canada I would say most people here think GI is a load of tosh.

It's tricky though to parse it out. The area is very Tory, and like a lot of rural areas there are a lot of old people and not many younger ones. Though I would say that the younger people here are less enthralled to GI than in the city.

In general people don't have much time for "woke" politics. They are what I'd call old fashioned "small-c" conservatives in that they tend to let people be, not stick their noses in, they help out their neighbours, even if they think they are weird. The main people they object to is people who throw their weight around but don't contribute to community life. But they also expect others to mind their own business.

They don't particularly care about gender non-conformity though, there are plenty of women farmers and woods types.

HoppityBun · 11/05/2026 11:49

toomuchcardboard · 10/05/2026 23:41

There's been a local non-secret one here for years - he wears ordinary work clothes when working in the fields but dresses in female clothing otherwise.

That’s interesting, because I wear ordinary work clothes almost every day. I occasionally wear a skirt and almost never a dress, in fact I’m clearing out dresses . Am female.

Does he paint his toe nails? That was the clue for me, about someone I knew. Open toed men’s sandals.

iv no issue with that at all.

toomuchcardboard · 11/05/2026 12:06

HoppityBun · 11/05/2026 11:49

That’s interesting, because I wear ordinary work clothes almost every day. I occasionally wear a skirt and almost never a dress, in fact I’m clearing out dresses . Am female.

Does he paint his toe nails? That was the clue for me, about someone I knew. Open toed men’s sandals.

iv no issue with that at all.

No-one round here is bothered, he's from a local family and just regarded as a bit odd. I think this chap gives non-locals more of a surprise - but he's been around for years as well.
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InconvenientlyMaterial · 11/05/2026 12:39

Not my observation at all. I'm lifelong big city. Most friends and acquaintances I know that believe in GI are from countryside or small town backgrounds, regardless of where they live now.

I've wondered whether it's simply that they experienced less sexual assault and harassment when younger? Or perhaps it's in reaction to negative stereotypes about rural people, to become so vocally "inclusive" (new meaning of the word, obvs. As ever, people with disabilities remain somewhat sidelined).

Another slight correlation I've noticed is GI believers either choosing not to have kids or having them significantly later in life. So, if female, their careers have been far less impeded. Whereas experiencing maternity discrimination as a younger mother can be a radicalising moment.

The other thing though, is most GI believers I've met hold some distinctly terfy opinions. They just either can't, or won't, see it.

KG74 · 11/05/2026 13:05

I worked on a farm growing up and it changed my view of sex and gender quite a lot. When lambing, we always had a male, female, 'not sure' pen as it wasn't always easy to tell the sex of some lambs. We also had 'lesbian' cows and a bull who had to be destroyed because it was exhibiting female traits and was also just 'hanging with the other cows' rather than mating, so it was sadly commercially not viable. So for me, I saw LGBTQ+ in the animal kingdom, which made things around me such as homophobia (it was when Section 28 was in play) even harder to understand. So i think I took that into my adult life and just realised we aren't all in neat boxes so may as well celebrate that rather than make it sound bad or nasty.

thirdfiddle · 11/05/2026 13:55

How do you tell a cow is lesbian given - as I understand it - mounting other cows is a normal sign of being in heat? And cows don't afaik pair up.

Lesbian cows is a cute idea, but in evolutionary terms it seems a more likely adaptation in animals that forage or hunt for food where having a few spare adults can help survival of the wider genetic line.

WydeStrype · 11/05/2026 14:36

KG74 · 11/05/2026 13:05

I worked on a farm growing up and it changed my view of sex and gender quite a lot. When lambing, we always had a male, female, 'not sure' pen as it wasn't always easy to tell the sex of some lambs. We also had 'lesbian' cows and a bull who had to be destroyed because it was exhibiting female traits and was also just 'hanging with the other cows' rather than mating, so it was sadly commercially not viable. So for me, I saw LGBTQ+ in the animal kingdom, which made things around me such as homophobia (it was when Section 28 was in play) even harder to understand. So i think I took that into my adult life and just realised we aren't all in neat boxes so may as well celebrate that rather than make it sound bad or nasty.

Why were you sexing and separating lambs during lambing?

We have always just numbered them and penned them with their mothers? Castrating (and tail docking) with an elastrator where testicles visible.

I have never seen lambs split by sex during lambing, ever?

WydeStrype · 11/05/2026 14:40

KG74 · 11/05/2026 13:05

I worked on a farm growing up and it changed my view of sex and gender quite a lot. When lambing, we always had a male, female, 'not sure' pen as it wasn't always easy to tell the sex of some lambs. We also had 'lesbian' cows and a bull who had to be destroyed because it was exhibiting female traits and was also just 'hanging with the other cows' rather than mating, so it was sadly commercially not viable. So for me, I saw LGBTQ+ in the animal kingdom, which made things around me such as homophobia (it was when Section 28 was in play) even harder to understand. So i think I took that into my adult life and just realised we aren't all in neat boxes so may as well celebrate that rather than make it sound bad or nasty.

And what is a female trait in a cow?!

How are you in any way attributing 'not mating' to 'female bovine traits'

And there's a healthy market in bovine artifical insemination so no need to destroy a healthy bull of decent lineage at all?

CassOle · 11/05/2026 14:42

Someone is extracting the urine.

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thirdfiddle · 11/05/2026 14:43

CassOle · 11/05/2026 14:42

Someone is extracting the urine.

Doh! And I completely fell for it. So hard to pick up tone online.

CassOle · 11/05/2026 14:51

thirdfiddle · 11/05/2026 14:43

Doh! And I completely fell for it. So hard to pick up tone online.

It is hard to tell. They could be trying a 'gotya'. However, you want the lambs to stay with their Mum (unless there is a serious reason why this cannot happen). Splitting brother and sister lambs into different pens rather ruins that.

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InconvenientlyMaterial · 11/05/2026 15:49

Surely the existence of homosexuality and disorders of sexual development is irrelevant to any argument about gender identity, regardless of whether in humans or animals?

Easytoconfuse · 11/05/2026 16:00

CassOle · 10/05/2026 10:13

"school and uni insist on it"

This is definitely a huge problem.

I would like some clarification on what people believe if they don't believe GC or GI.

My understanding is that GC means that people are critical of gendered sterotypes and that sex is real, immutable and that it sometimes matters. This may have been an assumption on my part, but I always saw that as a pretty standard, common or garden opinion before 2016.

As far as I could work it out while I lurked, it was like believing that the sun would come up and set in the evening. Men were men, women were women. What was there to debate about it? One interesting viewpoint from a mum was that it was cruel to let people pretend to be something they weren't because reality wouldn't change.

SadSadTimes · 11/05/2026 17:47

I live in a tiny village half an hour from any larger center. It is a lovely village so many of the houses are second homes or now permanent homes of London escapees. Of the ones I know, most of the moneyed incomers believe or nod towards GI. Believe it or 'just be kind'.

Of course I don't go about canvassing opinions but where I do know, most others have no time for it. Many are farmers but there are a variety of jobs, education, backgrounds.

We are a tiny village but we do have some council housing. We have had two cases of men who claim to be women housed here by the council -- not locals. I mean...what are the chances?

BonfireLady · 12/05/2026 05:28

TransRuralLife · 10/05/2026 17:19

"queers the pitch" is a well-known British saying. The meaning of 'queer' has changed over the last couple of hundred years.

Thanks, I know, I speak English. The word "queer" has multiple meanings, one of which remains a derogatory way to refer to LGBT+ people and that commenter used the word in the same sentence in which they were clearly intending to be derogatory about my trans friends which provides some unfortunate context. As I said, I hope it was not deliberate.

This is your original comment:

*I was reading the posts of one of our delightful ploppers, and they commented something like 'what world do you live in? The more I read, the more I wondered if they had ever spent time lambing (or similar). Or whether they were someone who had always lived in a town/city.

The fashion choices are all ones that fall away to nothing when you are checking your animals are OK, have water and forage during a long, wet, cold winter. You (regardless of your sex) need proper outdoor clothing for the weather.

The 'sex is bimodal' idea is just stupid when you are selecting Rams, having the vet scan pregnant ewes, and working hard when the ewes are lambing.
So, I'm wondering whether where you live (and what you do) has any impact on how beliveable gender identity ideology is to an individual?*

I admit I found your post quite hard to understand because it was so full of non-sequiturs but this is what I took from it:

  • by "ploppers" you mean "person who doesn't agree with me" (rude, but ok)
  • You wondered for some reason if this person who didn't agree with you had ever done any lambing or whether they lived in a town/city (never mind that the two aren't mutually exclusive, or that many rural people have never done any lambing either)
  • You then talked about fashion choices. I'd love it if you could explain this one because it was baffling - how are the clothes one might need to wear when working with animals relevant to a belief in "gender ideology" or trans status or anything related? Do you think there's something in the wellies that would cause an allergy or something?
  • I was further puzzled by this statement as a general stereotype of rural people that I don't find to be true, I know some very glam farmers, just because they wear appropriate clothes at work doesn't mean they don't ever dress up in other contexts. The person I know in the world who is most interested in fashion is my cousin who's a pig farmer.
  • You then announced for some bizarre reason that the bimodality of sex is irrelevant when separating breeding stock - in fact it couldn't be more relevant to this activity.
  • You wondered whether where you live has an impact on belief in "gender ideology". I assume you would include anyone who is trans in your bucket of people who believe in "gender ideology" which is why I inferred from this you thought there weren't any trans people in rural locations or industries. Admittedly, this is a tricky one - personally I don't actually think there is any such thing as "gender ideology", I think it's become a buzzword like "gay agenda" in the 90s intended to make the existence of a group of humans sound more sinister or organised than it actually is. But I accept that you believe there's such a thing, so perhaps you could explain what you meant by this category of people and who you'd include in it, if not trans people?

I appreciate your post is directed at the OP and you've already had a response to it. I was on the Guardian thread that inspired this exploration of "what world do you live in?" (perhaps you were too?) - but I'm back to my normal bonfirey self on this thread**

Firstly, I think it was a great opening question/theory posed by the OP so I'll give my own thoughts on it before picking up on your points below. @CassOle I personally don't think it makes a difference whether someone is exposed to lambing (or similar) or has always lived in the town/city. Gender identity belief seems to be the default setting in centre or centre left circles regardless, perhaps because most people don't really think about these things much and take things like "sex change operation" at face value. I'm a centre left (probably liberal TBH) type and it was my exposure to the impact of gender identity belief that made me realise I no longer believe that everyone has a gender identity. I think it takes some level of impact exposure in a way that feels personal (it doesn't have to be personal e.g. a non-sporty woman can feel pissed off that women's sports are being destroyed without being impacted herself) for people to question whether they believe in it or not. I suspect exposure to its impact is not directly related to town v country. Also on the lambing point, plenty of medical professionals seem to be fully signed up to gender identity belief, despite its cognitive dissonance with biological fact... so I don't think that it helps to have a first hand experience of animal biology any more than human biology.

Anyway to the points on this comment:

by "ploppers" you mean "person who doesn't agree with me" (rude, but ok)

A plopper is someone who posits an argument on a thread - often a shit one with no substance - but never comes back when challenged on it. Generally, they are putting forward TRA points.

You wondered for some reason if this person who didn't agree with you had ever done any lambing or whether they lived in a town/city (never mind that the two aren't mutually exclusive, or that many rural people have never done any lambing either)

Yes. It was a reasonable point to wonder, as per my comment to CassOle above. You're right that the two aren't mutually exclusive, but that doesn't stop it being a reasonable thought to test out.

You then talked about fashion choices. I'd love it if you could explain this one because it was baffling - how are the clothes one might need to wear when working with animals relevant to a belief in "gender ideology" or trans status or anything related? Do you think there's something in the wellies that would cause an allergy or something?

I took the fashion point to be about whether exposure to the reality of sex differences in a farm setting (and the reality that fashion is pointless in this regard) means someone is less likely to be invested in a belief that everyone has a gender identity. It's a reasonable idea, as the more grounded someone is in reality, the less likely it is that they will look to a belief to explain the many mysteries of life. However, I think you're right that fashion is probably a red herring here: as you said in your next point, there are some very glam farmers who wear all sorts of things when not working on the farm.

You then announced for some bizarre reason that the bimodality of sex is irrelevant when separating breeding stock - in fact it couldn't be more relevant to this activity.

Sex is not bimodal. Therefore, its "bimodality" is completely irrelevant because its bimodality doesn't exist. This video debunks the bimodality point very well: https://theparadoxinstitute.org/videos/is-sex-bimodal

You wondered whether where you live has an impact on belief in "gender ideology". I assume you would include anyone who is trans in your bucket of people who believe in "gender ideology" which is why I inferred from this you thought there weren't any trans people in rural locations or industries.

I would assume the same thing, because if someone says that they are trans, they would have to believe that they have a gender identity. Specifically, they would have to believe that they have a gender identity that differs from their sex (whereas those who describe themselves as "cis" would believe that they have one that matches their sex).

Admittedly, this is a tricky one - personally I don't actually think there is any such thing as "gender ideology", I think it's become a buzzword like "gay agenda" in the 90s intended to make the existence of a group of humans sound more sinister or organised than it actually is.

Perhaps you don't think "gender ideology" is a thing because to you (as a believer that everyone has a gender identity), it's just how you view reality. Similar to how a Christian's reality is that god exists. The main difference here is that Christians recognise that not everyone shares their belief, so they accept that other people's reality doesn't include god existing - and they don't force people to say he does. If you don't see your belief as a belief - if instead you see it as true, provable fact - this could explain why you find the OP's position tricky. It could also explain why you might find non-believers like me annoying or unkind when we say no to society organising itself around your belief e.g. allowing anyone who "identifies as" a woman into women's sports and spaces. That "identity" holds no meaning whatsoever for people who don't believe that everyone has a gender identity, so I'm not going to be forced (or more likely coerced through shaming, like being called a bigot etc) into accepting that it does. By all means live according to your own belief, and it's great that we live in a country where people can, just don't expect me to pretend that I believe it too. And yes, it is sinister and organised when enforced/coerced belief is pushed in schools, hospitals and other institutions as if it's factual. As for a "gay agenda", if that means equal rights for gay people that's good with me. If it means more rights or the taking away of others' rights, no thank you.

But I accept that you believe there's such a thing, so perhaps you could explain what you meant by this category of people and who you'd include in it, if not trans people?

As above. The category of people who believe in "gender ideology" is those who believe themselves to have a gender identity.

** to anyone else who was on the Guardian thread, I'm tempted to call this a detransition 🙃

Edited for typo

usernameinserthere · 12/05/2026 05:42

thirdfiddle · 10/05/2026 10:14

/Obviously/ trans sheep don't exist, they were genocided by inadequate levels of validation.

The farmer still using their ‘dead name’ was literal violence and they died. Poor sheep.

crawlingovertheline · 12/05/2026 07:19

Rural here - what is GI? (Serious Question)

EmpressaurusKitty · 12/05/2026 07:21

crawlingovertheline · 12/05/2026 07:19

Rural here - what is GI? (Serious Question)

Gender identity - the idea that whether you’re a woman or a man is about feelings rather than biology.

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