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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Does the guardian really not see?

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Theeyeballsinthesky · 09/05/2026 07:37

"We work tirelessly to establish the facts – and when we get them wrong, we correct them. For democracy to survive, for society to progress, we need a shared foundation of facts. If we cannot broadly agree that the grass is green, we cannot have a conversation about what to do about the pollutants that are killing it"

https://www.theguardian.com/media/ng-interactive/2026/may/06/how-to-survive-the-information-crisis-we-once-talked-about-fake-news-now-reality-itself-feels-fake

this is a good article about the importance of facts, connection and how society might navigate the current crisis of mis and dis information

and yet Viner has written the above with clearly straight face while editing a paper that hounded out journalists who said that no one can change sex and continues to relentlessly push the TWAW/ppl especially women who don't believe are nasty bigots and to put it kindly misrepresent the law in this area

dors she reallly not see or is she just as much of a victim of all the things she points out in her article?

How to survive the information crisis: ‘We once talked about fake news – now reality itself feels fake’

In this age of crisis, technology is pulling us apart. At its best, journalism can bring us together again, writes Guardian editor-in-chief Katharine Viner

https://www.theguardian.com/media/ng-interactive/2026/may/06/how-to-survive-the-information-crisis-we-once-talked-about-fake-news-now-reality-itself-feels-fake

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Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 00:34

MouseQueen · 09/05/2026 10:53

You don't seem to understand that you're being horrifically sexist.

Being a woman has no 'typical behaviours'. Why? Because women aren't a monolith of femininity and each one has their own likes, dislikes, aspirations, hobbies, e.t.c. Women don't conform to the same neat little box, you can't be 'more' or 'less' womanly than another.

And when a TIM 'transitions', what do you think he does? He follows gendered stereotypes, and claims that makes him a woman. Because he thinks being a woman means following such stereotypes.

Now, some homework. What do you consider to be the typical behaviours of a woman, and what's your excuse for that not being misogynistic?

What do you consider to be the typical behaviours of a woman,

The evidence in terms of consumer, employment & life choices begs to differ in terms of average gendered behaviours. And if you think it doesn't you are as deluded as those that claim sex differences don't exist.

And when a TIM 'transitions', what do you think he does? He follows gendered stereotypes, and claims that makes him a woman. Because he thinks being a woman means following such stereotypes.

Is that what women do too? 'mimic' 'stereotypes' of women when they enjoy expressing feminine aesthetics? Same with butch women. Are they 'mimicking' what a man 'should be' because they 'secretly' want to be one? Or is that simply an organic personality choice by those with feminine/masculine inclinations? Its not different for trans.

Iv’e noticed one of the blind spots for GC ideology is a tendency to attribute everything they have a problem with to the patriarchy. Just because sexist/misogynistic expectations do exist doesn't mean they are the cause for all behaviours.

MyAmpleSheep · 10/05/2026 00:43

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 00:34

What do you consider to be the typical behaviours of a woman,

The evidence in terms of consumer, employment & life choices begs to differ in terms of average gendered behaviours. And if you think it doesn't you are as deluded as those that claim sex differences don't exist.

And when a TIM 'transitions', what do you think he does? He follows gendered stereotypes, and claims that makes him a woman. Because he thinks being a woman means following such stereotypes.

Is that what women do too? 'mimic' 'stereotypes' of women when they enjoy expressing feminine aesthetics? Same with butch women. Are they 'mimicking' what a man 'should be' because they 'secretly' want to be one? Or is that simply an organic personality choice by those with feminine/masculine inclinations? Its not different for trans.

Iv’e noticed one of the blind spots for GC ideology is a tendency to attribute everything they have a problem with to the patriarchy. Just because sexist/misogynistic expectations do exist doesn't mean they are the cause for all behaviours.

I think you are missing the point. Nobody objects to men displaying “typically” feminine behaviour. If Kevin wants to wear fishnets and platform heels in Tesco (which, by the way, nobody imagines is any kind of organic expression of personality except perhaps Kevin, and probably not even Kevin) then he shall. But it doesn’t augment his “womanhood” to do so.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 00:57

Shortshriftandlethal · 09/05/2026 11:55

You don't need to make things so complicated. A man is the word for an adult human male and a woman is the word we use for an adult human female. We don't need to mess around with the meaning of those words. It serves no useful purpose other than to obscure and confuse.

This confusion was a conscious contruction of post modernist theories which postulated that you could revolutionise society through the manipulation of language. That we could be anything we wanted to be through altering the social meaning of words.

An adult male, a man is free ( in our society, anyway) to express all of his potential - within the bounds of social rules of behaviour - as is a woman. We can do this without having to so self consciously role play opposite sex 'performances' - but we are also free to do that should we like ( within certain social constraints)

What you seem to be trying to do is to detach the Self from biological reality, as I suggested earlier, by saying that we are not our bodies; that our bodies and our biology has no material or meaningful impact on us at all. I can see how this is an off-shoot and outgrowth of certain strands of feminism in which the female body and female biology, in particular, is seen as oppressive.....and of western concepts of individualistic, free expression and free choice.

But I suggest that denying the reality of biological sex and the consequences of it is a fool's game. To a large extent we are our bodies; we are our circumstances. We are not all 'free spiritual beings' or 'souls' floating around in a world of dense and restrictive matter looking for a place to call home. We are all born into a certain set of conditions which shape our experience. We didn't 'choose' any of them.

Sex Matters, and it matters to women, especially......which is why we have developed certain protections and safeguards. You cannot change your sex...though as you intimate....our sex does determine and shape our life experiences and choices...no matter how much we long to be transcendent beings with no restriction.

At the level of sex we are creatures like any other.

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"This confusion was a conscious contruction of post modernist theories which postulated that you could revolutionise society through the manipulation of language. That we could be anything we wanted to be through altering the social meaning of words."

This comment shows a profound misunderstanding of what post modernism is which is basically a critique of how narrative is exploited by the powerful …so the opposite of what you are claiming. And in any case, the fact 'trans' is a word that distinguishes females at birth from males doesn't in any way conflate the two.

"An adult male, a man is free ( in our society, anyway) to express all of his potential - within the bounds of social rules of behaviour - as is a woman. We can do this without having to so self consciously role play opposite sex 'performances' - but we are also free to do that should we like ( within certain social constraints)"

The fact that you consider organic personality inclinations/preferences as a 'performance' is more a reflection of your own rigid expectations of conformity rather than any credible analysis of human behaviour. That you seriously believe there's no biological naturally occurring autonomy that drives preferences is quite the tell.

But I suggest that denying the reality of biological sex and the consequences of it is a fool's game. To a large extent we are our bodies; we are our circumstances. We are not all 'free spiritual beings' or 'souls' floating around in a world of dense and restrictive matter looking for a place to call home. We are all born into a certain set of conditions which shape our experience. We didn't 'choose' any of them.

Sex Matters, and it matters to women, especially......which is why we have developed certain protections and safeguards. You cannot change your sex...though as you intimate....our sex does determine and shape our life experiences and choices...no matter how much we long to be transcendent beings with no restriction.

Noone is denying the reality of biological sex. If trans people did they wouldn’t need to go to the extent to change their bodies medically. What you are attempting to do here is conflate this strawman with conflicting rights. Again as mentioned upthread, groups experiencing conflicting rights isn't a licence to deny their existence nor is there an inability to manage them.

MyAmpleSheep · 10/05/2026 01:02

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 00:57

"This confusion was a conscious contruction of post modernist theories which postulated that you could revolutionise society through the manipulation of language. That we could be anything we wanted to be through altering the social meaning of words."

This comment shows a profound misunderstanding of what post modernism is which is basically a critique of how narrative is exploited by the powerful …so the opposite of what you are claiming. And in any case, the fact 'trans' is a word that distinguishes females at birth from males doesn't in any way conflate the two.

"An adult male, a man is free ( in our society, anyway) to express all of his potential - within the bounds of social rules of behaviour - as is a woman. We can do this without having to so self consciously role play opposite sex 'performances' - but we are also free to do that should we like ( within certain social constraints)"

The fact that you consider organic personality inclinations/preferences as a 'performance' is more a reflection of your own rigid expectations of conformity rather than any credible analysis of human behaviour. That you seriously believe there's no biological naturally occurring autonomy that drives preferences is quite the tell.

But I suggest that denying the reality of biological sex and the consequences of it is a fool's game. To a large extent we are our bodies; we are our circumstances. We are not all 'free spiritual beings' or 'souls' floating around in a world of dense and restrictive matter looking for a place to call home. We are all born into a certain set of conditions which shape our experience. We didn't 'choose' any of them.

Sex Matters, and it matters to women, especially......which is why we have developed certain protections and safeguards. You cannot change your sex...though as you intimate....our sex does determine and shape our life experiences and choices...no matter how much we long to be transcendent beings with no restriction.

Noone is denying the reality of biological sex. If trans people did they wouldn’t need to go to the extent to change their bodies medically. What you are attempting to do here is conflate this strawman with conflicting rights. Again as mentioned upthread, groups experiencing conflicting rights isn't a licence to deny their existence nor is there an inability to manage them.

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Noone is denying the reality of biological sex. If trans people did they wouldn’t need to go to the extent to change their bodies medically.

You are quite quite wrong. Many many people are denying the reality of biological sex - it’s the new “science”.

Go and read TransUK Reddit for a few days.

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:08

Aisha176 · 09/05/2026 08:30

You seem to be confusing objective facts with subjective views. Whether trans women are women is a subjective question that's based on a value system rather than facts as in reproductive biological characteristics verses social ones.

Fact. Transwomen are adults who were born male
Fact. An adult human male is called a man
Fact. Human beings cannot change sex.
Fact. Transwomen are men.

These are the objective facts about Transwomen.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk Bear

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:11

Aisha176 · 09/05/2026 08:37

A person born male who identifies behaviourally, psychologically & culturally with the typical behaviours of women.

I so want the laugh reaction back 😂

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:16

Aisha176 · 09/05/2026 08:51

On average behaviours that differentiate them from men. For example, like the violence that GC women like to claim should disqualify men from using their spaces.

Are you suggesting that male violence SHOULDN'T disqualify men from entering women's single sex spaces (leaving aside the fact that transwomen are just as likely to be violent offenders as other men for now)?

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:16

Catiette · 09/05/2026 13:37

Do you agree then, Aisha, that it must be difficult to "tackle conflicting interests" if one group is left without the language necessary to distinguish themselves and name their needs? Your analogy falls down the moment you type it because "minors" exists, as a word, to describe a sub-group. Women no longer have the equivalent.

There's this word called 'trans' that we use to distinguish the two. Hope that helps.

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:20

Aisha176 · 09/05/2026 08:55

TWAW is a slogan so by virtue of that it's a vague statement. The sentiment clearly isn't they are identical to women rather they associate to women more than men hence they come under the umbrella hood of women.

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So wait... trans is an umbrella and now woman is also an umbrella?
Is man an umbrella too?
If so, I feel that transwomen should sit under the man umbrella.

Ok. The word umbrella has now lost all meaning to me. Confused

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:22

Catiette · 09/05/2026 13:40

OK. So given that research indicates fairly unambiguously that transwomen share male patterns of violence...?

I notice you've not yet generalised typical female behaviours. Is that because it's difficult to do so without resorting to stereotype?

As mentioned upthread, there's no evidence that trans women share male pattern violence because:

A. Incarceration/reporting is not the same as offending & we don't know offending rates.
B. trans people are statistically too insignificant to make any meaningful conclusions
C. group dynamics matter (straight/gay/poor/wealthy/ young old)

In terms of typical gendered behaviours, the indisputable evidence is in consumer, employment, life & special interest choices.

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:28

Aisha176 · 09/05/2026 09:21

This is silly because they no longer are maintaining that association as trans people do by their associated behaviours.

What behaviours?
I mean specifically.

All you seem to have is violence and it's a fact well evidenced that transwomen display the same violent behaviour as other men not the same as women.
So... what else have you got?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 10/05/2026 01:29

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 00:34

What do you consider to be the typical behaviours of a woman,

The evidence in terms of consumer, employment & life choices begs to differ in terms of average gendered behaviours. And if you think it doesn't you are as deluded as those that claim sex differences don't exist.

And when a TIM 'transitions', what do you think he does? He follows gendered stereotypes, and claims that makes him a woman. Because he thinks being a woman means following such stereotypes.

Is that what women do too? 'mimic' 'stereotypes' of women when they enjoy expressing feminine aesthetics? Same with butch women. Are they 'mimicking' what a man 'should be' because they 'secretly' want to be one? Or is that simply an organic personality choice by those with feminine/masculine inclinations? Its not different for trans.

Iv’e noticed one of the blind spots for GC ideology is a tendency to attribute everything they have a problem with to the patriarchy. Just because sexist/misogynistic expectations do exist doesn't mean they are the cause for all behaviours.

"Is that what women do too? 'mimic' 'stereotypes' of women when they enjoy expressing feminine aesthetics?"

YES!!!

That is exactly what becoming "a woman" is for many female people! It's a constant stream of a million tiny decisions in a million moments whether to play "woman" and be acceptable or challenge stereotypes and make a social interaction harder, till eventually you don't know what is accommodation and what is you.

That's what we mean when we talk about socialisation. Not pretending to be someone else, but that the pretending changes who you are.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:37

Catiette · 09/05/2026 14:37

I do see where it's going.

A nihilistic pomo nightmare in which Trumpian post-truth rules because there's no longer any basic consensus about fundamental truths definining humanity's existence. A Butlerian nightmare of subjective perception "progressively" (ironic pun totally intended) dissolving the structures and boundaries society needs to function. From counting the female population accurately to provide local maternity services, to recognising that male-led car design is killing them in their thousands even in the West.

Do you see where that goes?

Without debate and majority consensus leading to agreement about the language we use to define the objective physical realities we face (whether this agreement comes about through the natural evolution of language in response to life-and-death imperative or through democratic mechanisms), the most powerful/cynical/aggressive voices win out, and the more vulnerable have no voice with which to resist this.

I've genuinely struggled to have conversations with children about the state of women in Afghanistan that they struggled to understand, because their definition of women was different to my own.

It's a very, very dangerous approach.

(Or a very clever one, depending on from where you're coming).

It's also an argument whose existence alone is evidence of the need for females to retain their words, because it shows how little female needs are acknowledged even when these can be named.

ETA: Even your post above shows the risky subjectivity of your approach. Your references to population-level trends (eg. crime in the context of trans/lesbian/wealth) expose your own biases as you require/reject/ignore parameters according to their utility in supporting or undermining your own subjective views. This undermines ever your own arguments made in support of the demographic you're seeking to defend. And trans people are losing out because of the weakness of the foundations on which the arguments supposedly made in their name are founded. I'd say the most vulnerable (the post-op transsexual who just wants to keep their head down; the confused teenage child) most of all. Again, ultimately, in a post-truth world, the most vulnerable suffer.

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You don't seem to understand how words come into being which is by social usage. Whilst I appreciate your point about words needing to have utility that's not necessarily always aligned with how natural human categorisation works which is via associations hence trans women being 'classed' as women because of the association to common behaviours.

Just because categorisations come with challenges in efficiently dividing resources & addressing competing rights that doesn't mean its impossible to achieve particularly given human sophistication in dealing with much more complex problems.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:50

GCScot · 09/05/2026 16:16

@Aisha176 if I understand you rightly, you are saying that whether we define 'woman' by gender identity or by biological sex is a matter of personal preference?

Choosing biological sex to define women rather than gender identity is not just personal preference, it has solid advantages:

Biological sex is universal. All humans (including those with differences in sex development) have a biological sex

Biological sex is constant. Humans' biological sex remains the same throughout their lifetime. No human has ever changed from producing eggs to producing sperm (or vice versa)

Biological sex can be objectively measured. It can be deduced from appearance alone with near 100% accuracy by most casual onlookers. A scientist or doctor in possession of the full facts will be able to determine it with 100% accuracy

Gender identity has none of these advantages:

Gender identity is not universal. Many people (including me) don't have a gender identity

Gender identity is not constant. As evidenced by gender fluid people and detransitioners

Gender identity cannot be objectively measured. Because is supposedly someone's internal sense of their gender, it can't be determined by objective bystanders

Scientists use biological sex to define women and men. So do the vast majority of ordinary people. And the UK Supreme Court ruled in 2025 that it is the legal definition.

Biological sex evolved 1.2 billion years ago. Denying its reality is akin to being a flat earther. You can argue it is subjective all you like, but when humanity ceased to exist the world will keep spinning and animals will keep shagging

What bizarrely eugenicist view. We don't tend to accept the existence of groups based on their societal convenience unless we are nazis who rejected & exterminated gays, disabled, mentally ill & socialists for the same reason.

Again, competing interests don't render managing them impossible.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:59

MyAmpleSheep · 10/05/2026 00:43

I think you are missing the point. Nobody objects to men displaying “typically” feminine behaviour. If Kevin wants to wear fishnets and platform heels in Tesco (which, by the way, nobody imagines is any kind of organic expression of personality except perhaps Kevin, and probably not even Kevin) then he shall. But it doesn’t augment his “womanhood” to do so.

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Again, you're entitled to your opinion even if its saturated in perverse police bias.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 10/05/2026 02:01

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 01:50

What bizarrely eugenicist view. We don't tend to accept the existence of groups based on their societal convenience unless we are nazis who rejected & exterminated gays, disabled, mentally ill & socialists for the same reason.

Again, competing interests don't render managing them impossible.

In that case, why do you require that the word you want to use to label "people of either sex expressing social stereotypes associated with women" has to be the exact word that previously meant "adult human female", and only that word will do?

Surely if you genuinely believed that "We don't tend to accept the existence of groups based on their societal convenience" you would accept that the overlapping groups of "people of either sex expressing social stereotypes associated with women" and "adult human female" are both valid, and should have different names so that we can speak clearly about the different needs and rights of each group?

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:02

MyAmpleSheep · 10/05/2026 01:02

Noone is denying the reality of biological sex. If trans people did they wouldn’t need to go to the extent to change their bodies medically.

You are quite quite wrong. Many many people are denying the reality of biological sex - it’s the new “science”.

Go and read TransUK Reddit for a few days.

Go and read TransUK Reddit for a few days.

My mistake, you are right but not quite in the way you think given sex isn't binary but bi modal.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:06

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:16

Are you suggesting that male violence SHOULDN'T disqualify men from entering women's single sex spaces (leaving aside the fact that transwomen are just as likely to be violent offenders as other men for now)?

No. I'm only suggesting male violence shouldn't disqualify trans women in toilets. But I'm willing to concede that hospitals, DV hostels & prisons require a more nuanced approach.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:08

ElenOfTheWays · 10/05/2026 01:28

What behaviours?
I mean specifically.

All you seem to have is violence and it's a fact well evidenced that transwomen display the same violent behaviour as other men not the same as women.
So... what else have you got?

Gendered inclinations that are reflected in consumerist, employment, special interest & life choices.

Fidgetbreak · 10/05/2026 02:15

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:08

Gendered inclinations that are reflected in consumerist, employment, special interest & life choices.

If you are proposing an improved system, then you need to describe it. What are these gendered inclinations, and which groups are they assigned to?

TempestTost · 10/05/2026 02:18

nauticant · 09/05/2026 08:40

trans women are women is a thing once you've decided that the meaning of a word like "woman" (and its predecessors going back to the dawn of language) can simply be changed to mean something other than what it's meant for as long as we've had language.

That's more the work of someone working in the Ministry of Truth rather than a journalist.

It very much reminds me of the kinds of things Screwtape advised around making it difficult for people to focus on truth but instead turning their attention to what is modern or on trend or progressive.

He also pointed out that modern people are used to thinking a whole host of contradictory things, and so another one doesn't really raise an eyebrow. That was mid 20th century so it's been normal for over a generation now.

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:22

FlirtsWithRhinos · 10/05/2026 01:29

"Is that what women do too? 'mimic' 'stereotypes' of women when they enjoy expressing feminine aesthetics?"

YES!!!

That is exactly what becoming "a woman" is for many female people! It's a constant stream of a million tiny decisions in a million moments whether to play "woman" and be acceptable or challenge stereotypes and make a social interaction harder, till eventually you don't know what is accommodation and what is you.

That's what we mean when we talk about socialisation. Not pretending to be someone else, but that the pretending changes who you are.

This comment reminds me of anti feminist men who claim feminism is an expression of man envy rather than rooted in organic inclinations/preferences.

It's a kind 'monkey see monkey do' perverse view point that conservatives tend to need to believe to justify their aversion to non conformity. They will also assert gayness is a result of social 'grooming' rather than an organic gravitation to modelling. Yes there's an element of 'learning' but people mistake that for 'mimicry' rather than an authentic connection with what is before them. Same with contagion theory where the 'missing link' of connection is skipped over.

When it comes to fashion choices, its the same. Imitation is inextricably linked to connection & just because that happens to align with patriarchal expectations doesn't change that.

Heggettypeg · 10/05/2026 02:23

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:08

Gendered inclinations that are reflected in consumerist, employment, special interest & life choices.

So if I am naturally inclined to spend my money on beads, feathers and buckskins, have a special interest in spending my weekends on vision quests and sweat lodges, and choose to go to work in a casino on a tribal reservation, that makes me in fact a Native American and the actual Native Americans just have to suck it up and give me tribal privileges?

MyAmpleSheep · 10/05/2026 02:42

Aisha176 · 10/05/2026 02:02

Go and read TransUK Reddit for a few days.

My mistake, you are right but not quite in the way you think given sex isn't binary but bi modal.

Ok so sex is bimodal, is it?

Some bodies produce sperm, some produce eggs, and some produce spergs? And Speggs?

That you think so explains much of what you have posted, and why.

Fidgetbreak · 10/05/2026 02:43

Fidgetbreak · 10/05/2026 02:15

If you are proposing an improved system, then you need to describe it. What are these gendered inclinations, and which groups are they assigned to?

@Aisha176 Are you still typing or maybe you haven't properly thought this through?

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