“Heated Rivalry” author Rachel Reid on J. K. Rowling - “the bar is pretty high in how evil you have to be,” “ I’m extremely the opposite of everything she believes”

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Well, this is disappointing.

”[Reid] has a keen desire not to disappoint her fans, especially when they’re sending her photos of freshly inked tattoos of her words on their skin. ‘I know of another author that a lot of people got tattoos of but then wanted them gone. Like, J. K. Rowling,’ she says. ‘The bar is pretty high for how evil you have to be, but I don’t want to let a single person down.’ I ask if she’s a TERF. ‘No, I’m extremely the opposite of everything she believes,’ she replies.”

Well, too late, she let me down. “Extremely the opposite of everything she believes,” huh? I guess Rachel Reid thinks teenage girls should be forced to undress after PE in front of naked male classmates who gawp as their dicks get hard. Or that female inmates should be locked in cells with male inmates serving time for serial rape.

I don’t expect Reid to agree with Rowling on trans issues. It’s the monstering of Rowling that I take issue with - the “evil,” and the framing of Rowling as so extreme that Reid feels the need to be extremely the opposite of everything she believes.

Edit: title should read “on how evil you have to be”

It's long overdue that these people were just told NO. Men aren't women no matter what surgery they have or drugs they take or how much they drone on.

We've let too many anti social, anti democratic, anti safeguarding and anti women men run amok in society causing immense harm - especially to children and young people.

No more pandering. No more giving in to coercive control. No more letting them running amok in the NHS and schools. No more keeping silent as they trash their way through institutions. No more tortuous language that confuses, obfuscates and hides reality.

NO.

Well, being male people, they find it all too easy to ignore women saying 'NO'. They want, so they get.

And then they declare that they are 'women' and know all about 'misogyny'. Which is very clear that some of them are masters at behaving misogynistically while gaslighting people.

I know you're right. 😄

I'm just exasperated at all the oxygen these men use up in trying to dominate women - they take up so much energy.

The Mumsnet mantra - "No is a complete sentence" needs to be used far more often.

I know exactly what you mean. I join you in that exasperation. I agree with the other post too, of course.

They all have incredibly similar (eerily similar) origin stories (and prose style too) that they try out on us for the sympathy vote at first, to get us to give into them.

And it never takes them long to change their tune and get to the bald truth of the matter: they really don’t care what women want, they’re going to keep being obdurate in refusing to acknowledge material reality, and they’re going to keep doing what they want to do anyway unless other men act to prevent them. (And behind every word they type dwells the sentiment, ‘…and you annoying bitches can’t stop me’).

The anti-reality, truth denying forcefield that surrounds their brains is almost impressive in a twisted way - very solipsistic and extremely male behaviour.

Ironically, they all perfectly illustrate the concept of the ‘male gaze’.

Yes. This whole discussion is an example of what Gavin de Becker says in The Gift of Fear.

He points out that when a woman says NO, "If a man aggressively debates, doubts, negotiates, or attempts to change her mind, it should be recognized for what it is. It should be clear that: 1) She said no; 2) He heard it and didn't accept it; 3) He is trying to control her." This is predatory behaviour.

The thread is also a great reminder of how female-only spaces and discussions change when a man enters.

As a previous poster said, men (identifying as TW) will NEVER know what it's like to be in a female only space, because that space changes as soon as they enter it.

“He points out that when a woman says NO, "If a man aggressively debates, doubts, negotiates, or attempts to change her mind, it should be recognized for what it is. It should be clear that: 1) She said no; 2) He heard it and didn't accept it; 3) He is trying to control her." This is predatory behaviour.”

It cannot be said enough.

I actually think that some of these male people who do keep trying to force people to accept them as being female when it is impossible, do understand that it is predatory behaviour. That is why they desperately try to use any tactic to prove they are female people. Because then it isn’t predatory male behaviour. It then becomes ‘righteous’ behaviour instead.

Also why there are so many attempts to then frame women pointing out that those male people are not female has to be designated as bigoted.

Most of the female posters on this thread know this and recognise it clearly. Still, the wheedling and manipulation continues though.

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 22:09

Trans women don't feel entitled, we are women.

Ha hah! 2 lies in one sentence!

These adult makes do not feel any sense of identification with females. If they did, they would recognise female vulnerability and female rights. They would want to support them, not subvert them. They would want to participate in service and in mothering. No, their entire sense of identification is as females, not with females.

Even considering a language variation as a thought experiment, you need to recognise and include in your experiment the fact that these men want whatever women have, including any language that describes women as a group. They won’t accept having a different name to women, just as they won’t accept third spaces.

Applying your definition 2 to antibody who has not declared a gender identity, who does not have a gender identity, or whose gender identity is unknown, simply supports the quasi-religious belief in gender identity and imposes it on all.

The women here don't represent women. They are a conservative christian funded trans conspiracy-generating coterie. The majority of women and the rest of the planet support and respect trans people (with the exception of a handful of other countries with dodgy human rights records).

What a fantasist 🤣🤣🤣

There are billions of women. Most of them you have never met and never will meet and don't have a clue about.
Most of the ones you have met, you don't know what they really think and you never will. Some, for social reasons, will say what it pleases you to hear, whether they really believe it or not.
You are not qualified to speak for "the majority of women", or about them, and are talking through your hat. It just makes you look silly.

We are in for another night of complete bollocks!

Hey, that reminds me, where are those wives we were promised so long ago! And where is the cash we were all supposed to be be receiving?

Yes hon. Of course they are.

These adult makes do not feel any sense of identification with females.

That's an acute point, and something I think many women take time to realise. It isn't about wanting to join women at all. The derision and despising of women is front and centre, like all the sexually violent ideation.

Considering how many times women have posted on this board and across the internet that they will use demanded female pronouns for male people because they don’t want to offend those male people because socialisation, fear of repercussions or because they think those male people are mentally ill and don’t want to add to their mental illness, and those posts are very easy to find here and all over the internet I find it rather ironic that some male people really do believe that the majority of female people genuinely believe that those male people are female in anyway.

It is significant because it really does show that some male people choose to live in a controlled environment where they can then deny whatever they want to that will cause them dissonance with their belief about themselves.

This, of course, is your belief.

I think if those male people knew exactly what motivates some or many of the female people around them to treat those male people as if they were female, they wouldn’t be so keen on making such baseless claims.

And yet to be able to publish a sfudy on why female people acted the way they did around those male people, it would be considered hateful and would not be funded. Because I don’t believe those male people actually want to know at all. They want to live in ignorance and make absurd claims.

Sex realists do not speak on behalf of women, they speak on behalf of conservative groups who use sex realists in their quest to remove rights from all women.

Oh bless you, you mean you typed that with a straight face? I assumed you were an FWR regular writing a spoof post.

No, it's just that most people can tell the difference between male and female, and when it matters, it matters.

I've lived non trans life for over forty years. I am just as qualified as you to determine how men and women live amongst each other. The sex realist need to ignore that doesn't make my experience or understanding untrue, it makes you seem unable to assimilate facts that do not align with your ideology.

And yet it’s men telling us what we can talk about, who we can meet, the words we must use. It doesn’t seem like sex realists are taking women’s rights away.

this is your belief.

Mmm

“I've lived non trans life for over forty years”

Your every single day since you started taking estrogen supplements has been lived as a male person with a transgender identity.

The cognitive twisting you seem to have to do to get through life is clearly an enormous everyday effort. Your account of your life is constantly full of contradictions and inconsistencies.