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MyAmpleSheep · 16/02/2026 16:37

MinervaBoudicca · 16/02/2026 14:47

yes but RMW is now pushing for his favoured solution:
men who think they're women can enter women's facilities
any women who have a problem with undressing in front of men like robin and katie can be offered a 'sensitive women' changing room or loo

[NB this option is beneath men who think they're women, who are very important and apparently hard to spot with normal eyesight]

NOTHING must stand in the way of the frisson of affirmation that the MEN require from entering a service signposted as WOMEN ONLY

I think you’ll find there are many sensitive TiMs who want to use the sensitive women’s facilities. Being around the sensitive women gives a better thrill.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 16:50

MinervaBoudicca · 16/02/2026 15:16

The fact that even now, after the EHRC won the JR, Robin and Katie are still maintaining their entitlement to enter women only spaces is so disturbing.

If they surrender on that, then they are using facilities that constantly remind them that reality is what it is.

Sadly, that's the bottom line here; this alternative reality's freedom has to end at other people's rights and equality. It can't be absolute.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/02/2026 16:57

But they are entitled arseholes who think they can do what they like. They don’t care about any social contract, they’re more important.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 17:05

MyAmpleSheep · 16/02/2026 16:37

I think you’ll find there are many sensitive TiMs who want to use the sensitive women’s facilities. Being around the sensitive women gives a better thrill.

And that's the thing; the second you said 'this is for 'sensitive women'' the chaos goblins would arrive to start making clear that men are sensitive women too, and there are more hairs to split into atoms in achieving the goal.

Which is to get in with non consenting women in a state of undress, doing intimate things.

As with wanting lesbian women, and bisexual women won't do, only the women who sleep exclusively with other women. And gold star lesbians being the ultimate goal of a woman who has never slept with anyone but another woman.

It's Epstein level grot, it really is.

ProfessorBinturong · 16/02/2026 17:24

MyAmpleSheep · 16/02/2026 16:33

Was it Paul McCartney who said something about writing himself a pool? Maybe JM’s strategy is to to lose enough cases so he can campaign himself a pool.

The Michael Caine justification.

"Someone said to me, 'I saw that Jaws 4 - it stinks'. I said, 'I haven't seen it...but I've seen the house it bought my mother, and it's marvellous."

Rainingrain · 16/02/2026 17:46

If they surrender on that, then they are using facilities that constantly remind them that reality is what it is.

It is worse than that: it constantly reminds everyone else that reality is what it is and that they don’t need to pretend those TiM are not men.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/02/2026 17:57

Rainingrain · 16/02/2026 17:46

If they surrender on that, then they are using facilities that constantly remind them that reality is what it is.

It is worse than that: it constantly reminds everyone else that reality is what it is and that they don’t need to pretend those TiM are not men.

This.

Coatsoff42 · 16/02/2026 18:40

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/02/2026 17:57

This.

This 100% and the ‘outing’ where they are honest about their journey through life.

MinervaBoudicca · 16/02/2026 19:26

This was interesting from Michael Foran.
The idea that many men who think they're women believe that access to women's single sex spaces 'is an essential part' of what they 'win' from the State when changing gender.

He explains that the State is happy to let these men write F in a bit of paperwork
but the longed-for 'automatic access' is quite a different matter:-

'There is an interesting difference between how courts compare the relative weight of civil status and access to single-sex spaces and how many trans rights campaigners do. Courts are highly likely to consider civil status such as is reflected in state documentation to be the core of the right to gender recognition where there is limited discretion on the state. On that view, access to a single-sex facility which affirms a transgender person’s identity is a peripheral aspect of the right, if it is covered at all. In contrast, many campaigners and activists seem to presume that access to single-sex spaces is core to the right to gender recognition. Without any case law to support this contention, it is hard to see how it could be true, at least as a matter of the jurisprudence of the ECtHR.'

FranticFrankie · 16/02/2026 20:58

There are some very strange comments on that reddit thread linked above.....
Apparently TW can breastfeed!
And the world is upside down now

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 21:03

They can be medicated to produce a secretion which enables them to have the experience of a child sucking their nipple. It will not be sufficient to feed the child, nor nutritionally or immunologically of value as the mother's milk is, and the child will need to be heavily supplemented either by its mother or by bottle. So this is recreational only.

It is not meeting anyone's need but the adult man's. It uses the child for the man's experience, which makes it extremely questionable as to why an adult would wish a child to suckle on an erogenous zone when it provides the child with no nutrition. And it takes no account of the fact that the child's mother will have been discouraged from taking any medication at all while pregnant and breast feeding so as not to pass drugs to the baby that may cause harm, but that the man will be heavily drugged to force his body to do something for which it was never designed, and for which he lacks the necessary equipment. And this will pass to the baby.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 21:06

Sorry for that short lecture on the subject, it's suppressed rage as that's the second major safeguarding deluge of red flags for children by men with gender identities and their supporters that I've read in the past five minutes. Different subjects but oh spot the central theme.

DownhillTeaTray · 16/02/2026 21:10

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 21:06

Sorry for that short lecture on the subject, it's suppressed rage as that's the second major safeguarding deluge of red flags for children by men with gender identities and their supporters that I've read in the past five minutes. Different subjects but oh spot the central theme.

I hear ya. It's the new "But men are just women with less oestrogen!" argument.

FranticFrankie · 16/02/2026 21:45

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/02/2026 21:03

They can be medicated to produce a secretion which enables them to have the experience of a child sucking their nipple. It will not be sufficient to feed the child, nor nutritionally or immunologically of value as the mother's milk is, and the child will need to be heavily supplemented either by its mother or by bottle. So this is recreational only.

It is not meeting anyone's need but the adult man's. It uses the child for the man's experience, which makes it extremely questionable as to why an adult would wish a child to suckle on an erogenous zone when it provides the child with no nutrition. And it takes no account of the fact that the child's mother will have been discouraged from taking any medication at all while pregnant and breast feeding so as not to pass drugs to the baby that may cause harm, but that the man will be heavily drugged to force his body to do something for which it was never designed, and for which he lacks the necessary equipment. And this will pass to the baby.

Absolutely agree 100%- I was being a little sarky, apologies

It's just the way those redditors frame these comments- as if it's fact
People who don't know or don't understand, might believe this.

And as for "in human biology, sex is far more complex than primary school and bigot biology theory suppports" also bemoaning the notion that transition used to mean changing sex!
More sad times it seems

DrBlackbird · 16/02/2026 22:00

Also the activists who rushed to inform employers that to follow the guidance would be a really bad idea and legally dodgy

The strategy to be first out of the starting gate with the brave new gender world based on an incomprehensible word salad worked well the first time around. It makes sense they’d try again with every legal case they lose. Unfortunately it does confuse employers and service providers. I’d have been confused but for these well informed threads.

Still think there’s another book to be written.

Keeptoiletssafe · 17/02/2026 09:09

I have been struggling writing a report about non domestic toilet provision. I know I need to get this information to the HSE and EHRC but it’s really tough going. These are real stories and putting them together is getting to me a bit. Has anyone any tips? I am presuming a few of you work in safeguarding etc. I need to get on with it.

Gettingmadderallthetime · 17/02/2026 09:33

On trans UK Reddit there is a current thread about a couple of transwomen who, having been previously told not to use the ladies in their local Star/Heineken pub, were emboldened by by the High Court gains last week (!) to try using the ladies there again. Told that they should not. Well done to the management of that pub, but not unexpected that the posters on trans UK Reddit do not appear to understand that whatever GLP says the rights to access single sex toilets have not changed.

www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1r70c3y/mtf_couple_told_we_have_to_use_mens_toilets_by/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Brainworm · 17/02/2026 09:37

Keeptoiletssafe · 17/02/2026 09:09

I have been struggling writing a report about non domestic toilet provision. I know I need to get this information to the HSE and EHRC but it’s really tough going. These are real stories and putting them together is getting to me a bit. Has anyone any tips? I am presuming a few of you work in safeguarding etc. I need to get on with it.

A couple of things that work for me……

  1. maintaining boundaries about when and where I do the work. I’m not sure if you have this luxury, but I don’t work with/ on any heavy safeguarding material at home, despite it being accessible remotely. I always go in to the office. If you don’t have those option, perhaps create a single room where you work on it, which isn’t your bedroom or room where you unwind.
  2. remind yourself that your work will make a positive difference. It will bring attention to what needs attending to and you are in a fortunate position to be able to do this. I caveat the last bit as I don’t know your situation but in my case my ‘fortuitousness’ is linked to the power that comes with my profession and role and in my resilience - which is heavily supported by good colleagues and effective clinical supervision. If you don’t have these, it might be that the ask of yourself is too big - and if it is, there is no shame in stepping back
Keeptoiletssafe · 17/02/2026 10:04

Thank you @Brainworm . I read a BBC story about a man who was trying to help find a girl and a few points felt familiar and overwhelming. However I must remember his situation was different - it was happening at the time. The incidents I am writing about have all happened. I can’t change them. ‘It will bring attention to what needs attending to and you are in a fortunate position to be able to do this.’ This is what I need to focus on. Prevention for the future. The frustration comes from the not knowing if my work will make any difference. I also want it to be the best it can be but may have to settle for as good as I can do at this moment to get it in asap.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 17/02/2026 10:11

Keeptoiletssafe · 17/02/2026 10:04

Thank you @Brainworm . I read a BBC story about a man who was trying to help find a girl and a few points felt familiar and overwhelming. However I must remember his situation was different - it was happening at the time. The incidents I am writing about have all happened. I can’t change them. ‘It will bring attention to what needs attending to and you are in a fortunate position to be able to do this.’ This is what I need to focus on. Prevention for the future. The frustration comes from the not knowing if my work will make any difference. I also want it to be the best it can be but may have to settle for as good as I can do at this moment to get it in asap.

I have the same problem Keep - I constantly have to remind myself “perfect is the enemy of done.”

You can do this!

DownhillTeaTray · 17/02/2026 10:11

Keeptoiletssafe · 17/02/2026 10:04

Thank you @Brainworm . I read a BBC story about a man who was trying to help find a girl and a few points felt familiar and overwhelming. However I must remember his situation was different - it was happening at the time. The incidents I am writing about have all happened. I can’t change them. ‘It will bring attention to what needs attending to and you are in a fortunate position to be able to do this.’ This is what I need to focus on. Prevention for the future. The frustration comes from the not knowing if my work will make any difference. I also want it to be the best it can be but may have to settle for as good as I can do at this moment to get it in asap.

Not trying to kick you off this thread, PP! But might I suggest you start a thread about wht you are trying/need to do? As you may get a lot of relevant support that will help you, rather than being in the middle of this thread where fewer relevant people will see it💐Hope you get it done, it sounds very challenging.

Seriestwo · 17/02/2026 10:13

I’d join that thread, @Keeptoiletssafe - I have similar issues but different field

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 17/02/2026 10:19

@Keeptoiletssafe I am retired and no longer in the Corporate world but I can re-assure you on one point at least. The work you are doing has already made a difference, in that you have brought the issue of toilet safety to notice. I have seen your posts on the tribunal and other threads, as well as being quoted on other platforms and I have seen the posts where others have specifically asked for your advice. I'm sure many of us on Mumsnet have used public toilets in the past without giving a thought to the work that goes into designing them, but you have opened our eyes and we are passing our concerns about safety to others, including those who are in the field. You should be very proud of the contribution you have made Flowers

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 17/02/2026 10:20

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 17/02/2026 10:19

@Keeptoiletssafe I am retired and no longer in the Corporate world but I can re-assure you on one point at least. The work you are doing has already made a difference, in that you have brought the issue of toilet safety to notice. I have seen your posts on the tribunal and other threads, as well as being quoted on other platforms and I have seen the posts where others have specifically asked for your advice. I'm sure many of us on Mumsnet have used public toilets in the past without giving a thought to the work that goes into designing them, but you have opened our eyes and we are passing our concerns about safety to others, including those who are in the field. You should be very proud of the contribution you have made Flowers

100% this!

Lilyfreedom · 17/02/2026 10:26

Gettingmadderallthetime · 17/02/2026 09:33

On trans UK Reddit there is a current thread about a couple of transwomen who, having been previously told not to use the ladies in their local Star/Heineken pub, were emboldened by by the High Court gains last week (!) to try using the ladies there again. Told that they should not. Well done to the management of that pub, but not unexpected that the posters on trans UK Reddit do not appear to understand that whatever GLP says the rights to access single sex toilets have not changed.

www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1r70c3y/mtf_couple_told_we_have_to_use_mens_toilets_by/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I see PTD being downvoted to oblivion for being the voice of common sense again...