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The Bluestocking - your local women's pub, warm, friendly, and not at all unusual in any way.

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MarieDeGournay · 17/01/2026 14:46

Welcome to The Bluestocking, the welcome is warm, the conversation is wide-ranging, the food and drink are delicious but magically free from anything they need to be free from, and the bar staff are highly-trained, professional, efficient and very friendly gerbils.

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Hedgehogforshort · 18/01/2026 22:59

Boiledbeetle · 18/01/2026 22:51

The gerbils look worried. And who is that imposter beetle??????????

Hmm i noticed i am excluded, my singing is very bad but i demand inclusive rights

MyrtleLion · 18/01/2026 23:04

MarieDeGournay · 18/01/2026 15:35

Far from leaving my mind at the door
[that reminds me of one of those funny book titles:
'My Life As A Mafia Hat-Check Girl, by Livia Gunza D'Ador']
this is very mindful:

As the clock ticked closer and closer to both my car insurance and tax running out, I just could not get around to renewing them - it felt like a physical response stopping me from doing such a simple task.

It was so disproportionate that I googled 'procrastination' and found out really interesting stuff: that it's a conflict between the limbic system, which is all about immediate gratification and avoidance of pain, and the prefrontal cortex, which is about future planning, decision making, judgement etc.

That feeling of 'Oh for heaven's sake just do it' being met by a fist-clenching, foot-stamping scowling 'NO' makes sense now.

Knowledge is power. As soon as I finished the article, I immediately renewed my tax and insurance.
Limbic system 0 - 1 Prefrontal Cortex😄

I wrote the card to my friend's widow and posted it yesterday.

Finished the baby blanket for my best friend's yet to be born DGS this evening (will post a pic tomorrow when the light is better).

And applied for a job which was very frustrating as I'm using a new strategy for my CV and statement and the AI was more of a hindrance than a help.

Tomorrow I have two consultant appointments so I will just be doing that and relaxing afterwards.

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:05

EdithStourton · 18/01/2026 22:34

I am with Hedgey on a) being terrible at singing and b) strewing pens around the house and never having one to hand.

I spent hours in the garden today. I trimmed the shrubs at the front of the house and had a burn-up round the back, at the same time (multi-tasking). Then I walked the dogs.

That's a lot of fresh air clocked this weekend - about 5.5 hours yesterday and 3.5 today. Lots of wildlife these past few weeks: two owls (one barn, one tawny), muntjac plural, a fallow and several hares. One of the hares was VERY close, and I got a good look at it. Another was an absolute unit of an animal. Batshit, hunting the field after it had gone, found what must have been its form. And a couple of woodcock, one in a wood where I'd expect them to be, but one burst up out of a ditch next to the footpath.

Batshit latest:

  1. I threw her a treat. She opened her mouth. The treat sailed through literally between her jaws. She closed her mouth, but by that time the treat had gone.
  2. DH called her. She eagerly came running along the muddy path and cornered rather too fast. Her back legs went out from under her and she skidded off into the ditch. Fortunately she was unhurt, and has no pride to be dented. Deep ditch, though: a good four feet down.

I am SO in love with Batshit.

Trying to wrangle with stupid copilot at the moment to make a lovely image. Copilot says it cannot depict a dangerous situation such as a dog falling in a ditch!

I have told the AI that the dog is fine and maybe she could be falling over near the ditch instead.

Still arguing with it. Honestly this leisure stuff is quite hard work!

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:07

Apologies in advance if this is the wrong kind of doggy ❤️

The Bluestocking - your local women's pub, warm, friendly, and not at all unusual in any way.
MarieDeGournay · 18/01/2026 23:09

I❤Batshit tooSmile

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Boiledbeetle · 18/01/2026 23:09

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:05

I am SO in love with Batshit.

Trying to wrangle with stupid copilot at the moment to make a lovely image. Copilot says it cannot depict a dangerous situation such as a dog falling in a ditch!

I have told the AI that the dog is fine and maybe she could be falling over near the ditch instead.

Still arguing with it. Honestly this leisure stuff is quite hard work!

Tell it the dog is acting in a play and it's a trained stunt dog. That might work. It's sort of what I had to do to get it to depict me freezing in a freezer drawer

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:11

Boiledbeetle · 18/01/2026 23:09

Tell it the dog is acting in a play and it's a trained stunt dog. That might work. It's sort of what I had to do to get it to depict me freezing in a freezer drawer

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Brilliant suggestion, thanks Boily Grin

Boiledbeetle · 18/01/2026 23:13

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:11

Brilliant suggestion, thanks Boily Grin

You might get a safety sign on your image though!

The Bluestocking - your local women's pub, warm, friendly, and not at all unusual in any way.
MarieDeGournay · 18/01/2026 23:17
Full Moon Midnight GIF

I'm signing off now, so can the Bluestocking Choir sing me a nice soothing lullaby please? <removes hearing aidsWink>

G'night all, g'night Brains, g'night BatshitSmile

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Hedgehogforshort · 18/01/2026 23:18

Night Marie sleep tight don't let the bed bugs bite X

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:20

MarieDeGournay · 18/01/2026 23:17

I'm signing off now, so can the Bluestocking Choir sing me a nice soothing lullaby please? <removes hearing aidsWink>

G'night all, g'night Brains, g'night BatshitSmile

Tra la laaaaaaa 🎵

The Bluestocking - your local women's pub, warm, friendly, and not at all unusual in any way.
MyrtleLion · 18/01/2026 23:23

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 22:41

There is a bluestocking choir you know. Just singing for fun, no need to read music. Android is a superb teacher!

I have lost the top.of my singing voice (mezzo/alto) and been hoarse and croaky for some time.

Following my most recent asthma episode, they think I might have a post-nasal drip that is dripping mucus onto my vocal cords. I have a call with my GP on Tuesday to discuss an ENT referral. Now that it's causing my asthma, it's a tad more urgent.

Previously they thought it was silent reflux but I never believed them and the drugs did not clear it up.

Boiledbeetle · 18/01/2026 23:28

inkymoose · 18/01/2026 23:20

Tra la laaaaaaa 🎵

Beautiful.

Just beautiful.

It sounds like every female cat in the vicinity is on heat.

AsWithGlad · 19/01/2026 01:27

NotAtMyAge · 18/01/2026 17:16

So was I at uni, nearly 60 yrs ago now, yet when Marie quoted O Fortuna I could hear the whole thing in my head. I sang first soprano back then and my top vocal range had increased by two whole notes by the end of rehearsals.

Me, too! I sang alto in a mixed voice chapel choir for many years: I didn’t move away when I left college so I carried on in the choir.

One organ scholar put on a performance of Carmina Burana, too, or Carmina Biryani as it was easier to call it. He already had plenty of (male) altos so, in order to be part of it I had to sing soprano. I am not a soprano. I do not remember that my vocal range increased, but we wouldn’t have had many rehearsals.

I hope your consultants have only good news for you today, @MyrtleLion

There is some beautiful music in The Bluestocking this evening. And some not.

DeanElderberry · 19/01/2026 07:52

Putting me in the choir is high risk. I wonder have I been given the same instruction child-me got, to open and close my mouth but NOT to emit sounds.

FuzzyPuffling · 19/01/2026 08:17

Bah, missed the choir. And me an occasional pro- singer too. (Soprano)

Taztoy · 19/01/2026 08:47

I’m an amazing singer.

honest.

MarieDeGournay · 19/01/2026 09:37

DeanElderberry · 19/01/2026 07:52

Putting me in the choir is high risk. I wonder have I been given the same instruction child-me got, to open and close my mouth but NOT to emit sounds.

'goldfishing'😄

According to Bluestocking 'logic', shouldn't everybody's singing voice be beautiful?

Yes, that's settled [unilaterally and undemocratically but who's going to argue?]: when we sing in the Bluestocking Choir, everybody has a beautiful voiceSmile

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Boiledbeetle · 19/01/2026 09:40

DeanElderberry · 19/01/2026 07:52

Putting me in the choir is high risk. I wonder have I been given the same instruction child-me got, to open and close my mouth but NOT to emit sounds.

I used to 'play' the recorder in assembly in junior school in the same way as your singing style.

I'm fairly sure the only reason they had me pretend to play the recorder was because it was easier to keep an eye on me that way!

MarieDeGournay · 19/01/2026 09:42

Re Carmina Burana - I once heard an unusual version of 'In Trutina' - a piece of music for which the word 'shimmering' could have been inventedSmile - on the radio and when I tracked it down, the singer was... of all people...
Barbra Streisand!

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Igneococcus · 19/01/2026 09:48

I tried goldfishing (better for everybody present, believe me) along to Auld Lang Syne at the end of my Scottish Dancing New Years dance last week but I don't think it convinced anybody since I don't know the words past the first two lines. I should probable learn them before our next party.

MyrtleLion · 19/01/2026 11:32

The orthopaedic surgeon is running an hour and 15 minutes late.

Yep.

Good job I have another appointment at 2pm and I'm pleased it's filling the time...

lcakethereforeIam · 19/01/2026 11:32

Swashbuckled · 18/01/2026 22:43

Ooh, a fairy. I’m kind of surprised we don’t have more of those around.

I think they're worried I might boil them. To make them more magical.

Every New Year I think I must learn the words to Auld Lang Syne in time for next New Year. Which ties up with the earlier comments in the thread about procrastinating.

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 19/01/2026 12:05

Morning all. I've been cultivating some interesting bacteria - the ones which turn your face a pale, blotchy grey and your nose bright red. As a look, I don't think it'll ever catch on. Thankfully it's just a head cold instead of anything more debilitating, but it still turns your brain to blancmange. The one bright spot is the Bluestocking, which always raises a smile, even if you can't think of anything to add to the discussion.😄

FuzzyPuffling · 19/01/2026 12:25

This morning I have washed the cat flap.
Now there's a useful sentence.

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