Looking at men differently now I know too much?

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In recent years I've seen so much in the news and online about men's abuse and violence towards women. A man who looks totally normal and pleasant and is perhaps in many ways a good man might still be going home and creating fake AI nudes of women he knows or watching extreme porn or abusing his wife or kids or using prostitutes or cam girls or has a fetish that degrades and dehumanises women or is a complete misogynist.

There is a post on the relationships board now where a married man is hoping that just because a mum of his sons friend has been friendly towards him she might fancy him and be up for it.

Then looking at many of the men I know day to day how they talk to and interact with their wives and families is depressing to see, almost like they don't care at all.

I know its not every man, I know some men who I do think are good. I do look back to the rose tinted days of my teens when I would idealise boys and think they were so amazing and now knowing what I do about general trends and some men in particular its quite a disappointment.

Radfems and Female Dating Strategy advocates alike characterise many men's view of women as "bangmaids" and "wife appliances" for this exact reason. They don't see us as fellow humans, but as an unfeeling appliance for housework and sex acts.

This article is depressing interesting

Woman left traumatised by swinging says website 'facilitated abuse' - BBC News https://share.google/vyWKkCq3jnqxMgYrL

'Martin' sounds like an absolute hero . Reminds me of an account I read of a woman who'd been trafficked. One of her customers seemed nice, saw her tears and promised to help her but still fucked her.

It also pisses me off that ordinary good blokes seem to think they are saints. DH thinks he is absolutely marvellous for just being an averagely good person, like most women are. He is SO PROUD of being nicer than most men he knows. But the bar is so low. Compare him with most women and he's staggeringly average.

You can never know 'too much', facts are facts and knowledge is knowledge; but sometimes I wish facts like this didn't exist to be known:
INVESTIGATION. "Younger and more dangerous": the DGSI's alert on the masculinist threat – franceinfo
A "strong terrorist potential", more numerous, younger and more dangerous radicalised profiles. The radical fringe of the masculinist movement is of concern to the General Directorate of Internal Security.
[I hope it posts in the English translation, which was offered when I opened the page.]