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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

TRA Trolls - can we just say NO?

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BlueEyedBogWitch · 06/10/2025 08:24

A full thread of NO’s might be more powerful than trying to reason with someone who is not interested in reason.

Just one ‘NO’ each, until they get bored and go away. Every time.

After all, it sums up our arguments very succinctly.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:16

The reason women get “radicalised on Mumsnet” as it were is that gender identity ideology makes zero sense, and is entirely lacking in consideration or empathy for anyone who doesn’t subscribe to it 100%. Seeing genderist arguments against people advocating for women and girls, and seeing how inadequate and callous those arguments are is enlightening to many. I don’t care whether you agree, and your insults are just deflection.

murasaki · 09/10/2025 18:17

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:15

No I'm saying your question was complete bollocks as you well know. Plus the "make it make sense".

Of course that's not what I said - as you well know.

Your previous question was about the justification for medical intervention where there is nothing "wrong" with the body. So I gave some examples of other cases, where yes there is justification for this.

Gender dysphoria is a medical problem certainly. However, there is nothing "wrong" medically with the body. What is wrong is that the is acute psychological distress associated with having a body with physical characteristics that "looks" wrong to the person based on their neurodevelopmental understanding of their sex.

Only if you assume it's neurodevelopmental, which is a bit of a leap. It's quite often bog standard agp.

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:17

Ricecrispiesatsix · 09/10/2025 17:52

Haven’t read the full thread (I mean it is 32 pages!) but wanted to pop on and say that reading the arguments with TRAs on here is what peaked me. The arguments of the gender critical mumsnetters just made more sense, whereas every argument from a TRA didn’t hold much water. They really do themselves no favours! I was 100% “be kind” when I discovered mumsnet - do not underestimate the impact your reasoned and thoughtful replies have. I know it’s exhausting but I’m grateful.

Yep, similar.

My peaking was realizing that gay and straight people are - by definition - transphobic bigots or not really gay or straight.

But this was quickly followed by a week or two or reading and watching and realizing TRAs have absolutely nothing. 6 years on and I have literally never heard an even vaguely decent argument about any aspect of the ideology.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:18

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:17

Yep, similar.

My peaking was realizing that gay and straight people are - by definition - transphobic bigots or not really gay or straight.

But this was quickly followed by a week or two or reading and watching and realizing TRAs have absolutely nothing. 6 years on and I have literally never heard an even vaguely decent argument about any aspect of the ideology.

It’s quite stark as a realisation, I think.

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:19

Bombshelter · 09/10/2025 17:59

You don’t get what I’m trying to say.

plenty of women have had my experience. millions and millions. And many have died because of it.

no transwoman ever born has had it. None. No matter what cognitive experience they have.

And no trans'woman' fears going through your experience, hell they don't even fear pregnancy (but pushing a pillow up their cardigan and pretending can be a fun game to play, lololol)

Love to you, tkae care.

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:21

murasaki · 09/10/2025 18:17

Only if you assume it's neurodevelopmental, which is a bit of a leap. It's quite often bog standard agp.

It's quite often bog standard agp.

This is a transphobic narrative. Please stop sexualising trans women.

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:22

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:07

But we could have had that experience.

So what? Why is what could have been more important than what is? What is the relevance of it?

I could have had that experience if one of my pregnancies had gone differently, I'm so lucky that they didn't.

A woman who was 'socially infertile' could have had that experience if only her circumstances were different/ she was in a position to have a baby.

An infertile woman could have had that experience if only she had not been infertile or fertility treatment had worked for her.

A woman with swyers syndrome or CAIS could have had that experience if only she were born with a uterus.

A trans women could have had that experience if only she weren't trans.

And what?

Edited

Most women with Swyers have a uterus. For an academic / scientist over 20 years in you do seem to lack a little knowledge.

spannasaurus · 09/10/2025 18:22

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:21

It's quite often bog standard agp.

This is a transphobic narrative. Please stop sexualising trans women.

Debbie Hayton says he AGP are you saying he's not really a transwoman

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:24

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:15

No I'm saying your question was complete bollocks as you well know. Plus the "make it make sense".

Of course that's not what I said - as you well know.

Your previous question was about the justification for medical intervention where there is nothing "wrong" with the body. So I gave some examples of other cases, where yes there is justification for this.

Gender dysphoria is a medical problem certainly. However, there is nothing "wrong" medically with the body. What is wrong is that the is acute psychological distress associated with having a body with physical characteristics that "looks" wrong to the person based on their neurodevelopmental understanding of their sex.

So you support cosmetic medical interventions for people who have nothing wrong with their bodies, but to relieve mental distress?

Do you support any interventions that go beyond purely cosmetic?

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:25

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:22

Most women with Swyers have a uterus. For an academic / scientist over 20 years in you do seem to lack a little knowledge.

Of course you are right, apologies, I am tired. I was thinking of a particular case of a woman who was wrongly diagnosed with swyers and had no uterus talking about being wrongly send to a course about IVF.

eatfigs · 09/10/2025 18:25

The trans movement would have been better off not trying to build an incoherent ideology with outlandish demands around all this, instead just asking for reasonable accommodations like third spaces (as already exists in many places) and legal recognition (like the "gender reassignment" characteristic in the EA).

It's like trying to force everyone to convert to your religion rather than just asking them to be tolerant of your beliefs.

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:25

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:24

So you support cosmetic medical interventions for people who have nothing wrong with their bodies, but to relieve mental distress?

Do you support any interventions that go beyond purely cosmetic?

To enable sexual function? Yes, of course. Same goes for people with variations in sex development.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:26

They wouldn’t, because it’s mostly about control.

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:26

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:16

The reason women get “radicalised on Mumsnet” as it were is that gender identity ideology makes zero sense, and is entirely lacking in consideration or empathy for anyone who doesn’t subscribe to it 100%. Seeing genderist arguments against people advocating for women and girls, and seeing how inadequate and callous those arguments are is enlightening to many. I don’t care whether you agree, and your insults are just deflection.

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And it's precisely why TRAs hate twitter and mumset - the ideology is vampiric and dies in sunlight

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:27

eatfigs · 09/10/2025 18:25

The trans movement would have been better off not trying to build an incoherent ideology with outlandish demands around all this, instead just asking for reasonable accommodations like third spaces (as already exists in many places) and legal recognition (like the "gender reassignment" characteristic in the EA).

It's like trying to force everyone to convert to your religion rather than just asking them to be tolerant of your beliefs.

Being trans is not a religion, any more than autism and the "neurodiversity movement" is a religion.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:27

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:26

And it's precisely why TRAs hate twitter and mumset - the ideology is vampiric and dies in sunlight

Absolutely Wine

JamieCannister · 09/10/2025 18:27

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:21

It's quite often bog standard agp.

This is a transphobic narrative. Please stop sexualising trans women.

Why did you TRAs tell us to listen to trans'women' if you didn't want us to listen to trans'women'?

eatfigs · 09/10/2025 18:29

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:21

It's quite often bog standard agp.

This is a transphobic narrative. Please stop sexualising trans women.

You might find this interesting, there's a forum on Reddit called r/askAGP which has a lot of males, mostly trans-identifying, who readily admit they are autogynephilic and discuss it with each other.

MurkyWeather2 · 09/10/2025 18:30

MurkyWeather2 · 09/10/2025 18:11

So you believe that a male who was completely unaware of the existence of females could still look at his body and 'know' that he was female?

You deflected from this @Tandora Any chance you could answer, please?

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:30

spannasaurus · 09/10/2025 18:22

Debbie Hayton says he AGP are you saying he's not really a transwoman

Auto-gynophilia is a completely separate condition.

potpourree · 09/10/2025 18:31
  • *I don't think "gender" is separate to "sex".
  • Rather, "sex", has several layers/ components (with variations across each layer).
  • One of these layers is what stonewall call "gender" - which is the neurodevelopmental/ psychological aspect of sex.*

I think this thread has moved on far too much for me to keep up with, but refreshing to note that you reject many trans people's assertion that their gender is different from their sex (rather than a layer of their bodily sex, as you characterise it).

I don't necessarily disagree with you on this point (although would need more discussion than this thread could hold to work out exactly what you mean in practice) but you do realise that rejecting this widely used notion of transhood would be called extremely transphobic in many spaces?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 18:31

Datun · 09/10/2025 17:02

Bloody hell, Tandora . You do realise that this bollocks was taught to children in schools, don't you!

You've spent days of your life, and hundreds of thousands of words and it's still incoherent, inconsistent, unscientific jibber jabber.

Sex is about reproductive potential. That's what it is.

It's about bodies.

If a man is convinced he's a woman, he's wrong.

In a nutshell.

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:31

MurkyWeather2 · 09/10/2025 18:30

You deflected from this @Tandora Any chance you could answer, please?

Of course I can't answer that question - it's not the world we live in. It's a complete counterfactual, I don't have any data points to answer it.

spannasaurus · 09/10/2025 18:31

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:30

Auto-gynophilia is a completely separate condition.

Debbie Hayton says that he's a transwomen because of AGP. Why do you not believe his cognition of himself?

eatfigs · 09/10/2025 18:32

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:27

Being trans is not a religion, any more than autism and the "neurodiversity movement" is a religion.

Would you agree that there is a belief system around it though? For example the idea that "gender identity" rather than sex is what defines someone as a woman or a man.

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