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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded

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ArabellaSaurus · 27/09/2025 22:37

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/09/faith-school-which-bans-women-wearing-trousers-becomes-state-funded

'The National Secular Society has expressed alarm that a London faith school which bans women from wearing trousers and penalises families who attend non-kosher restaurants will now be funded by the state.
Nancy Reuben Primary School re-opened as a voluntary aided (VA) state school this month, after operating as an independent school for 26 years. Its decision to join the state sector follows the Government's move to charge VAT on independent school fees.'

'Women may not wear trousers, mini skirts, shorts, low necklines or sleeveless tops
The school's dress code for parents and visitors says men "must have their head covered at all times" and women "must wear skirts of knee length (a maximum of 2" above is acceptable)". It says trousers "may not be worn" by women.
Additionally, women must cover their underarms and may not wear cap sleeves. Women may not wear clothes with necklines lower than "4 fingers from the collar bone" either "in front or back of the garment".
Trousers are permitted for aupairs and nannies but they may not wear mini skirts, shorts, plunging necklines or sleeveless tops.'

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Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:10

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:07

And? The whole point is that apparently often they do not provide an adequate education, and that is morally wrong. Teens shouldn't be struggling to speak English, for one thing, as apparently is the outcome or some of these schools.

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Yes, I'm aware of that. I'm not disputing its problematic nature. I'm pointing out that this is a state school and so will be subject to over-sight.

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:11

AMansAManForAllThat · 28/09/2025 09:01

I would suggest this is taught to midwives and health visitors as a neglect issue- inappropriate clothing for the weather.

Then you risk those families being unable to access services because of the fear of censure. So maybe as part of the antenatal classes, these issues could be raised?

They have their own antenatal classes run by their community doulas. Newly married couples have these kinds of classes to teach them about sex and babies. The men know quite a bit more than your average British man about menstrual cycles, conception and birth due to this input.

Nobody sees a major issue with the Hasidic communities and we are told to respect how they do things and find ways to still provide holistic care. And please, please, make sure they are discharged on a Friday before Shabbos (even if it means others have to wait).

Delphin · 28/09/2025 09:11

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 08:59

Yes, it's rough for the boys in other ways. There was a great but sad BBC programme recently about teens going 'Off The Derech' (leaving).

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p04n1x7p&ved=2ahUKEwi56I6l_vqPAxXqQUEAHRFnBbgQFnoECCIQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1uI19jIIdBUd9IgTAqxV4l

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04n1x7p
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BBC World Service - Heart and Soul, Off the Derech

The charity helping Orthodox Jews who want to break away from their faith

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04n1x7p

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:12

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:00

Ofc. It still seems wrong though...

Why?

Non orthodox parents don't have to send their children there?

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:12

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:09

A bit like the religion of 'Gender Identity' then?

I dont get the similarity, no.

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:13

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:12

Why?

Non orthodox parents don't have to send their children there?

Because we are a country with set values and many aspects of their lifestyle are simply not compatible with those values. We just choose to ignore it when it comes from some communities.

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 09:14

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:07

You realise the girls roll their skirts up , right? I used to do it too. No school has made any girl wear a miniskirt,n this school makes the students and visitors adhere to misogynistic dress codes. Youre not going to be chucked out a secular school for wearing a full length skirt. You will be chucked out of this school if your mum wears a vest. Or your nanny for that matter.

Why do you think girls roll their skirts up? (And actually no, the little elasticated tube skirts don’t need rolling up). Do you think they feel they have a choice? Don’t you realise these peer-imposed dress codes are also misogynistic?

Where are these secular schools you keep talking about? Most of the UK just has non-denominational Christian schools.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:16

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:10

Yes, I'm aware of that. I'm not disputing its problematic nature. I'm pointing out that this is a state school and so will be subject to over-sight.

Edited

Sorry to be sharp, I misunderstood. Yes, ir will be harder to influence non-state schools.

Aitchemarsey · 28/09/2025 09:16

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:01

Literally isn’t a big deal. My boys just saw them as part of uniform, different school and pulled them off when they left the building. My issue was that they were constantly covered in wee as they never put them out of the way when they went to the toilet.

Lol, I've always wondered how they don't get grubby!

Friendlygingercat · 28/09/2025 09:16

Surely trousers are more modest than skirts? They cant blow up on a windy day or reveal anything if the wearer has to climb a ladder or step into an akward space.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:17

Delphin · 28/09/2025 09:11

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04n1x7p
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Thank you, sorry about that!

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:18

For instance, when the benefit fraud thing came out, more people were saying that what they do/did shouldn't be illegal than worrying about the fraud of it all.

Basically, they get a family member or friend to buy their house in their name and then they "rent" it to the couple (who secretly own it) and claim full housing benefit to pay off the mortgage.

They claim benefits because the man doesn't work, he studies religious text and gets a small allowance for doing so. The woman may work as a "teacher" and they often fiddle the wages paid to ensure it keeps within UC parameters, or likely a SAHM on full benefits. So yeah, they essentially get the benefit system to pay off their mortgage.

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:19

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 09:14

Why do you think girls roll their skirts up? (And actually no, the little elasticated tube skirts don’t need rolling up). Do you think they feel they have a choice? Don’t you realise these peer-imposed dress codes are also misogynistic?

Where are these secular schools you keep talking about? Most of the UK just has non-denominational Christian schools.

They do it because they want to. Not because there is a school rule saying they have to. Youre talking about peer pressure vs a rule stating that you or your mum cant a short skirt.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:20

deadpan · 28/09/2025 09:10

I used to work for a Jewish couple and now work for a local Evangelical church in one of the many charitable projects they have. Maybe it's because I'm not bothered about other people having religions even though I don't have one, but I've never felt intimidated or offended.

Presumably they're not asking you to follow a strict dress code?

I'm Christian myself, I'm not intimidated by religion (and I doubt pps are) but I am however offended by people using any religion as a shield for sexism or other stuff like poor education. This particular case seems OK though

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:22

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:09

A bit like the religion of 'Gender Identity' then?

Good point - the dreadful stuff like that in schools now is just making it more likely that conservative religious people will seek out faith schools & grow more insular

soupyspoon · 28/09/2025 09:23

Stichintime · 27/09/2025 23:35

I really don't see the problem. If you work or visit a religious school, you expect to follow the rules and customs. Secular society shouldn't expect to enter and not do whats required. Some Church and Islamic schools are also L.A schools, and I don't think it causes major problems!

Its illegal. It doesnt comply with discrimination rules. Fine if its private, do want you want but not if its state funded.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:24

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:12

I dont get the similarity, no.

Very firm ideas about what males and females should wear or look like. TW often dress in hyper-sexualised or 'feminised' ways, for example.

MaxieRose · 28/09/2025 09:26

I think it’s a real scandal that any faith school is state funded in the first place. When my kids were small our closet primaries were CofE and Catholic. Very nice schools but selective. The game was to start attending church when they were born to get them in. I refused to do this and my oldest was allocated a school in the other side of town, despite the schools being something like 95% council funded.
Anyway, aside from that, the fact that any school can mandate what people wear to this degree feels like a regressive and isolationist move. We seem to be heading more and more to a divided society, with communities able to separate and never mix, and away from the idea of an integrated one.
My grandfather grew up in a Jewish ghetto, his father was a Rabbi. Not Frum but normal orthodox.
He spoke no English when he started school but went, as all the neighbourhood kids did, to the local schools, learned English and lived normally in a mixed community (Temple on Saturdays etc).
I think he would be really surprised if still alive that we seem to have rolled backwards.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:27

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:22

Good point - the dreadful stuff like that in schools now is just making it more likely that conservative religious people will seek out faith schools & grow more insular

Due to Covid and the lockdown....a lot of people became very radicalised and started taking their children outside of mainstream education. Either homeschooling or setting up their own schools....a bit like those undocumented schools for Jewish boys - in poor conditions and with extreme curricula

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:28

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:24

Very firm ideas about what males and females should wear or look like. TW often dress in hyper-sexualised or 'feminised' ways, for example.

Edited

Yeah but that's not shared by all trans people though and it isn't written in any rule book. I dont see the point of trying to force trans issues on this one. The kids often have their educational and fictional books defaced to stop them learning Science or seeing "immodest" women. That's the priority here.

CurlewKate · 28/09/2025 09:30

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:04

So you want the state to dictate that faith schools cannot themselves dictate their own rules?

If the school is state funded then yes, that is exactly what I want.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:33

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:13

Because we are a country with set values and many aspects of their lifestyle are simply not compatible with those values. We just choose to ignore it when it comes from some communities.

You seem to be trying to make a point about what you perceive as double standards when it comes to Jews ( because they are "white").

Where I live there is to be a new state funded Muslim girls school created shortly - due to demand for such a school. It will have an 'muslim' ethos and there will be strict uniform rules. You don't have to be muslim to apply, but you will have to accept its ethos and follow its rules.

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:34

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:33

You seem to be trying to make a point about what you perceive as double standards when it comes to Jews ( because they are "white").

Where I live there is to be a new state funded Muslim girls school created shortly - due to demand for such a school. It will have an 'muslim' ethos and there will be strict uniform rules. You don't have to be muslim to apply, but you will have to accept its ethos and follow its rules.

Very much doubt it will enforce rules on visitors and we are constantly talking about these super Muslim schools that are very very new when we've had these illegal Jewish schools and the dodgy legal ones for decades. None of these schools should exist.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:36

CurlewKate · 28/09/2025 09:30

If the school is state funded then yes, that is exactly what I want.

So, I presume you'd like for the many thousands of Cof E and catholic schools to be closed down? Even though many parents actively like and choose them?
There would be few schools left in the city in which I live if you did this.

I used to be a teacher, and even though i'm not of a particular faith myself, I generally liked and preferred working in catholic schools, particularly. Also you'll find children of other faiths attend in quite large numbers for the same sorts of reasons.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:36

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:33

You seem to be trying to make a point about what you perceive as double standards when it comes to Jews ( because they are "white").

Where I live there is to be a new state funded Muslim girls school created shortly - due to demand for such a school. It will have an 'muslim' ethos and there will be strict uniform rules. You don't have to be muslim to apply, but you will have to accept its ethos and follow its rules.

I myself wouldn't support that either. A lot of these types of schools have not proved trustworthy...

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