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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded

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ArabellaSaurus · 27/09/2025 22:37

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/09/faith-school-which-bans-women-wearing-trousers-becomes-state-funded

'The National Secular Society has expressed alarm that a London faith school which bans women from wearing trousers and penalises families who attend non-kosher restaurants will now be funded by the state.
Nancy Reuben Primary School re-opened as a voluntary aided (VA) state school this month, after operating as an independent school for 26 years. Its decision to join the state sector follows the Government's move to charge VAT on independent school fees.'

'Women may not wear trousers, mini skirts, shorts, low necklines or sleeveless tops
The school's dress code for parents and visitors says men "must have their head covered at all times" and women "must wear skirts of knee length (a maximum of 2" above is acceptable)". It says trousers "may not be worn" by women.
Additionally, women must cover their underarms and may not wear cap sleeves. Women may not wear clothes with necklines lower than "4 fingers from the collar bone" either "in front or back of the garment".
Trousers are permitted for aupairs and nannies but they may not wear mini skirts, shorts, plunging necklines or sleeveless tops.'

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Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 08:57

Pharazon · 28/09/2025 08:51

Does the school enforce a dress code on parents and visitors too?

I'm imagining this is a fairly orthodox Jewish school in an area with a large Jewish population. If this is the case then the parents would most likely be orthodox themselves.

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 08:59

deadpan · 28/09/2025 08:50

The main thing appears to be that girls can't wear trousers. Yes that is regressive in this day and age but the plus side is they're probably going to enforce the skirts length as well and as long as they're knee length (and not long as in some very old fashioned Catholic schools in Ireland) I think that's a plus.
The other dress criteria isn't extreme and wouldn't be hard to follow if you either worked or visited there.
If you were of a different faith and were devout you'd have grounds to reject a place. To be honest I have no religion, but have respect for others who are, if the school was a good one and my daughter was happy and made friends I wouldn't have a problem.

You only need to look at the website to see the girls are wearing ordinary school dresses, looks like the regular checked summer dresses, with bare legs and ankle socks, hardly restrictive. Looking at the parent / visitor criteria they’re basically saying, wear a skirt which isn’t a mini skirt and you can wear a tshirt but not a vest top. It’s not a big deal. And it’s perfectly normal for men to wear a kippah in a Jewish building, they wouldn’t expect non Jewish men to. Also, I would say that even the least religious men tend to keep on in their glove compartment. Don’t ask me why, I guess it’s if they’re quickly called to a funeral or want to go to a graveyard. Even DP who couldn’t be less interested in religion if he tried has one there, random useless fact for Jewish men

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 08:59

Aitchemarsey · 28/09/2025 08:57

I feel more sorry for the little boys having tzitzit on all day, tbh...

Yes, it's rough for the boys in other ways. There was a great but sad BBC programme recently about teens going 'Off The Derech' (leaving).

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p04n1x7p&ved=2ahUKEwi56I6l_vqPAxXqQUEAHRFnBbgQFnoECCIQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1uI19jIIdBUd9IgTAqxV4l

https://www.google.com/url?opi=89978449&rct=j&sa=t&source=web&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bbc.co.uk%2Fsounds%2Fplay%2Fp04n1x7p&usg=AOvVaw1uI19jIIdBUd9IgTAqxV4l&ved=2ahUKEwi56I6l_vqPAxXqQUEAHRFnBbgQFnoECCIQAQ

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 08:59

Pharazon · 27/09/2025 23:59

I’m amazed at some of the responses. Do people on a feminist board really support the state funding institutions that police women’s dress?

Most schools have uniform requirements. I'm imagining people who are not supportive of the school ethos would not choose to send their children there.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:00

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 08:57

I'm imagining this is a fairly orthodox Jewish school in an area with a large Jewish population. If this is the case then the parents would most likely be orthodox themselves.

Ofc. It still seems wrong though...

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:00

Aitchemarsey · 28/09/2025 08:54

But this school isn't saying that. The girls can wear jogging bottoms for PE, and can wear shorts or leggings under skirts if they want. It wasn't long ago that plenty of secular schools didn't have trousers as part of the girls' unform, or indeed let boys wear skirts.

They enforce this because their religion has these beliefs about why girls should dress this way.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:01

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 08:59

You only need to look at the website to see the girls are wearing ordinary school dresses, looks like the regular checked summer dresses, with bare legs and ankle socks, hardly restrictive. Looking at the parent / visitor criteria they’re basically saying, wear a skirt which isn’t a mini skirt and you can wear a tshirt but not a vest top. It’s not a big deal. And it’s perfectly normal for men to wear a kippah in a Jewish building, they wouldn’t expect non Jewish men to. Also, I would say that even the least religious men tend to keep on in their glove compartment. Don’t ask me why, I guess it’s if they’re quickly called to a funeral or want to go to a graveyard. Even DP who couldn’t be less interested in religion if he tried has one there, random useless fact for Jewish men

That sounds fine. Probs would be better to have a thread about issues in Hasidic schools than this one..

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 09:01

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 08:53

No school says girls must wear miniskirts for men. In your quest to defend this, you are agreeing that 3 year old girls are sexual temptation for grown men. Stop that. That's not who you want to be.

Of course loads of secondary school communities send that message to girls. No teenage girl wears a skirt up to her crotch that she constantly has to pull down through individual choice. A strictly enforced knee length skirt would come as a huge relief to many girls in schools. Choice is only an illusion when all your peers are doing something and there is overwhelming social pressure to follow.

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:01

Aitchemarsey · 28/09/2025 08:57

I feel more sorry for the little boys having tzitzit on all day, tbh...

Literally isn’t a big deal. My boys just saw them as part of uniform, different school and pulled them off when they left the building. My issue was that they were constantly covered in wee as they never put them out of the way when they went to the toilet.

AMansAManForAllThat · 28/09/2025 09:01

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 08:44

In this country, we are supposed to have universal values that we uphold in all areas. Dressing 3 year old girls in tights so they arent arousing for men should be firmly against said values. We seem to get it when we speak about burkhas. We don't get it when we are speaking about little Hasidic girls (probably because they are white and we think white people can never be wrong).

I would suggest this is taught to midwives and health visitors as a neglect issue- inappropriate clothing for the weather.

Then you risk those families being unable to access services because of the fear of censure. So maybe as part of the antenatal classes, these issues could be raised?

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:02

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 09:01

Of course loads of secondary school communities send that message to girls. No teenage girl wears a skirt up to her crotch that she constantly has to pull down through individual choice. A strictly enforced knee length skirt would come as a huge relief to many girls in schools. Choice is only an illusion when all your peers are doing something and there is overwhelming social pressure to follow.

Hearing that makes me grateful I went to a girls' school. It actually had no uniform but nobody dressed like that apart from a few edgy people.

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:02

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:01

That sounds fine. Probs would be better to have a thread about issues in Hasidic schools than this one..

I totally agree. Lack of secular education in the Hasidic community is a very serious problem and something to be properly concerned about.

BundleBoogie · 28/09/2025 09:02

Leoari · 28/09/2025 00:12

So Jewish orthodox school....enforces Jewish orthodox dress code?! I actually don't agree with government funded religious schools at all but if the government are funding Catholic, CoE and Muslim schools which all have "rules" I don't agree with, I'm not sure what the difference is, are you are only objecting to Jewish tradition?

Muslim (or Christian, Jewish/whatever), state schools shouldn’t be allowed to have such a dictatorial dress code.

We are often not allowed to talk about Muslim dress codes though and the Muslim Council are working to get criticism of Islam into the definition of Islamophobia which could result in criminal convictions. This may not be explicitly in the guidance but it will be loosely worded enough that activists can have it enforced to ‘set an example’ and a chilling effect will ensue.

Trans activists have used this approach very successfully. We should be very wary and push back against all such dictatorial dress codes.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:03

Octavia64 · 28/09/2025 05:05

It’s not enforceable.

as they tacitly accept by saying that Nannies and au pairs can wear trousers.

By recognising that non family members may not be orthodox and so do not have to adhere by the strict rules?

This is clearly an orthodox jewish school. I'm not seeing the issue, myself.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:03

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:01

Literally isn’t a big deal. My boys just saw them as part of uniform, different school and pulled them off when they left the building. My issue was that they were constantly covered in wee as they never put them out of the way when they went to the toilet.

Yes, I mean they surely aren't very heavy for boys of that age?

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:04

BundleBoogie · 28/09/2025 09:02

Muslim (or Christian, Jewish/whatever), state schools shouldn’t be allowed to have such a dictatorial dress code.

We are often not allowed to talk about Muslim dress codes though and the Muslim Council are working to get criticism of Islam into the definition of Islamophobia which could result in criminal convictions. This may not be explicitly in the guidance but it will be loosely worded enough that activists can have it enforced to ‘set an example’ and a chilling effect will ensue.

Trans activists have used this approach very successfully. We should be very wary and push back against all such dictatorial dress codes.

So you want the state to dictate that faith schools cannot themselves dictate their own rules?

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:04

BundleBoogie · 28/09/2025 09:02

Muslim (or Christian, Jewish/whatever), state schools shouldn’t be allowed to have such a dictatorial dress code.

We are often not allowed to talk about Muslim dress codes though and the Muslim Council are working to get criticism of Islam into the definition of Islamophobia which could result in criminal convictions. This may not be explicitly in the guidance but it will be loosely worded enough that activists can have it enforced to ‘set an example’ and a chilling effect will ensue.

Trans activists have used this approach very successfully. We should be very wary and push back against all such dictatorial dress codes.

Yes, dress codes in Muslim schools should be questioned if draconian not just fobbed off like that...

CurlewKate · 28/09/2025 09:05

If you want your child educated in a very specific restrictive exclusionary way they you are free to do so. You should not expect the tax payer to pay for it for you.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:06

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:02

I totally agree. Lack of secular education in the Hasidic community is a very serious problem and something to be properly concerned about.

But that is not in the context of a state school. The schools you are talking about tend to be for boys, and are run outside of the state system.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:06

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:04

So you want the state to dictate that faith schools cannot themselves dictate their own rules?

I don't personally believe we should have faith schools at all. Synagogues/mosques etc can have weekend classes. Besides, plenty of religious people manage to teach their children their religion & send them to a secular school.

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:07

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 09:01

Of course loads of secondary school communities send that message to girls. No teenage girl wears a skirt up to her crotch that she constantly has to pull down through individual choice. A strictly enforced knee length skirt would come as a huge relief to many girls in schools. Choice is only an illusion when all your peers are doing something and there is overwhelming social pressure to follow.

You realise the girls roll their skirts up , right? I used to do it too. No school has made any girl wear a miniskirt,n this school makes the students and visitors adhere to misogynistic dress codes. Youre not going to be chucked out a secular school for wearing a full length skirt. You will be chucked out of this school if your mum wears a vest. Or your nanny for that matter.

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 09:07

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:03

Yes, I mean they surely aren't very heavy for boys of that age?

No they don’t really weigh anything.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 09:07

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:06

But that is not in the context of a state school. The schools you are talking about tend to be for boys, and are run outside of the state system.

And? The whole point is that apparently often they do not provide an adequate education, and that is morally wrong. Teens shouldn't be struggling to speak English, for one thing, as apparently is the outcome or some of these schools.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 09:09

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 09:00

They enforce this because their religion has these beliefs about why girls should dress this way.

A bit like the religion of 'Gender Identity' then?

deadpan · 28/09/2025 09:10

Yadsevet · 28/09/2025 08:59

You only need to look at the website to see the girls are wearing ordinary school dresses, looks like the regular checked summer dresses, with bare legs and ankle socks, hardly restrictive. Looking at the parent / visitor criteria they’re basically saying, wear a skirt which isn’t a mini skirt and you can wear a tshirt but not a vest top. It’s not a big deal. And it’s perfectly normal for men to wear a kippah in a Jewish building, they wouldn’t expect non Jewish men to. Also, I would say that even the least religious men tend to keep on in their glove compartment. Don’t ask me why, I guess it’s if they’re quickly called to a funeral or want to go to a graveyard. Even DP who couldn’t be less interested in religion if he tried has one there, random useless fact for Jewish men

I used to work for a Jewish couple and now work for a local Evangelical church in one of the many charitable projects they have. Maybe it's because I'm not bothered about other people having religions even though I don't have one, but I've never felt intimidated or offended.

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