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The Bluestocking, where Maud reigns supreme...

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 26/09/2025 22:08

... & Magpie regularly drains the hot chocolate bowser.

If you understand that, or you're just cool with it, come on in & bagsie a chair by the fire.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5410054-the-bluestocking-the-one-where-the-nights-start-to-draw-in?page=1

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DeanElderberry · 03/10/2025 11:19

@ErrolTheDragon I feel we need to know more about this dog and which chapter and verse you're alluding to.

The dog in Luke 16 was licking the wounds of Lazarus the beggar; the dog in Sardinia acted as diagnostician/interpreter by licking Fr X's injured knee, enabling the pharmacist to produce an appropriate remedy.

Good Dog!

(possibly an Italian greyhound)

I hope everyone is impressed by what close attention I pay to people talking about doggies in church.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/10/2025 12:38

Taztoy · 03/10/2025 10:15

Have any of youse bought wool / yarn from Ali Express?

I haven’t, @Taztoy - I mainly buy from Wool Warehouse.

Taztoy · 03/10/2025 12:46

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/10/2025 12:38

I haven’t, @Taztoy - I mainly buy from Wool Warehouse.

Thanks! Thats where I usually get from too so maybe I’ll just stick to them.

Britinme · 03/10/2025 13:15

Aside from long cold winters, we tend to escape some of the most extreme USian weather up here. Hurricanes that flatten places in Florida and the southeast have blown out to sea before they reach us. We did have one tornado a few years ago, but it affected a very small area. Even the winters aren’t quite as long and cold as when I first came here 23 years ago.

ErrolTheDragon · 03/10/2025 13:18

DeanElderberry · 03/10/2025 11:19

@ErrolTheDragon I feel we need to know more about this dog and which chapter and verse you're alluding to.

The dog in Luke 16 was licking the wounds of Lazarus the beggar; the dog in Sardinia acted as diagnostician/interpreter by licking Fr X's injured knee, enabling the pharmacist to produce an appropriate remedy.

Good Dog!

(possibly an Italian greyhound)

I hope everyone is impressed by what close attention I pay to people talking about doggies in church.

Edited

Dogs are good at diagnosing some conditions, never mind AIs maybe our doctors should use more CIs (canine intelligence, obviously). Their ability to warn people before an epileptic fit begins is amazing - I wonder if anyone has figured out yet what it is they’re detecting?

CautiousLurker01 · 03/10/2025 13:21

@ErrolTheDragon some dogs are credited with being able to smell when their owners are ill, specifically, when they have cancer. Amazing little souls 😍

MyrtleLion · 03/10/2025 14:04

Our local pharmacy is in Tesco, which is also our corner shop. It is massive, though, it just happens to be a few minutes' walk away.

Which is fortunate as I messaged the GP about my wound (as others saw on another thread) and sent a picture that wasn't advisable to be posted here.

Emergency nurse practitioner appointment.
Infection.
Antibiotics for 7 days.
Two pockets and a smaller area.
Iodoflex packing for the pockets and an iodine patch for the other areas.
Big foam dressing on top.
Return on Monday and twice weekly for professional dressing changes.
They will scar much more widely than a thin line.

Thank you Mr Consultant who thought he knew better than to place deep mattress stitching as requested.

I am actually really angry because of this. An alternative would have been to put me in a cast completely non-weight bearing because the wound would have completely healed before putting the usual ankle.movement on thin skin.

The Walrus has been a star, driving me around and will walk to said pharmacy to collect the prescription when it's ready.

DeanElderberry · 03/10/2025 14:10

Did you see the nurse practitioner? I've had good experience with them, and they all believed in the power of iodine dressings.

It's disgraceful this happened but I'm so glad you have supports.

The most scathing opinions I ever heard regarding surgeons en masse was ca40 years ago from the then Irish State Pathologist, who had seen far too many of their victims.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 03/10/2025 15:54

Taztoy · 03/10/2025 10:15

Have any of youse bought wool / yarn from Ali Express?

No, but I've been tempted by the photos of Chinese yarn. I use WW & Lovecrafts, or ebay for discontinued yarns etc. I no longer have a local yarn shop, so I'm reliant on t'internet.

There are people asking your question on reddit (it has its uses), e.g.
https://www.reddit.com/r/crochet/comments/123v89a/has_anyone_tried_buying_yarn_on_alibaba/

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 03/10/2025 16:00

.... aaaaand relax, Myrtle!

Thanks for your sterling work on the Kelly thread. And kudos to Marie for her Tweet of the Day on there (I'll be your Myrtle for this trib).

The Bluestocking, where Maud reigns supreme...
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Taztoy · 03/10/2025 16:01

ifIwerenotanandroid · 03/10/2025 15:54

No, but I've been tempted by the photos of Chinese yarn. I use WW & Lovecrafts, or ebay for discontinued yarns etc. I no longer have a local yarn shop, so I'm reliant on t'internet.

There are people asking your question on reddit (it has its uses), e.g.
https://www.reddit.com/r/crochet/comments/123v89a/has_anyone_tried_buying_yarn_on_alibaba/

Thanks!!

I bought new wool for the baby but obvs more things will have to be knitted and crocheted.

(K-nitted and crotcheted is how we say it in my house for some reason now lost in the mists of time)

Taztoy · 03/10/2025 16:02

MyrtleLion · 03/10/2025 14:04

Our local pharmacy is in Tesco, which is also our corner shop. It is massive, though, it just happens to be a few minutes' walk away.

Which is fortunate as I messaged the GP about my wound (as others saw on another thread) and sent a picture that wasn't advisable to be posted here.

Emergency nurse practitioner appointment.
Infection.
Antibiotics for 7 days.
Two pockets and a smaller area.
Iodoflex packing for the pockets and an iodine patch for the other areas.
Big foam dressing on top.
Return on Monday and twice weekly for professional dressing changes.
They will scar much more widely than a thin line.

Thank you Mr Consultant who thought he knew better than to place deep mattress stitching as requested.

I am actually really angry because of this. An alternative would have been to put me in a cast completely non-weight bearing because the wound would have completely healed before putting the usual ankle.movement on thin skin.

The Walrus has been a star, driving me around and will walk to said pharmacy to collect the prescription when it's ready.

Oh god Myrtle!

MarieDeGournay · 03/10/2025 16:03

Chersfrozenface · 03/10/2025 09:47

The French take their health very seriously. Hypochondria is a national sport.

Who else could call indigestion a "liver crisis"?

(I've lived in France. And the UK has approx. 20 pharmacies per 100,000 people, whereas France has 34.

And a practice nurse once told me, having found that my blood pressure was lowish, "If you lived in France, you'd get medication. Here, we just go 'Oh, it's fine'." )

True, but if you have a 'liver crisis', the cure is to go out to the garden, grab a handful of mint leaves, and make a tisane.
If you can't sleep? tilleul - lime/linden tisane.
Lacking magnesium? Drink Contrexeville mineral water, it is the highest in magnesium content!
Lacking other things? There's a mineral water to suit you!

I found that natural, close-at-hand remedies were often the first port of call.

MyrtleLion · 03/10/2025 16:08

ifIwerenotanandroid · 03/10/2025 16:00

.... aaaaand relax, Myrtle!

Thanks for your sterling work on the Kelly thread. And kudos to Marie for her Tweet of the Day on there (I'll be your Myrtle for this trib).

It's eerie that you picture me so perfectly.

Cake came round for a natter.

[Checks for secret cameras]

ifIwerenotanandroid · 03/10/2025 16:13

Yes, it was meant to be a 'huge cake' for you to eat, but AI made it Cake for company. Hope you feel better soon.

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MarieDeGournay · 03/10/2025 16:15

On reflection, what most struck me about medication in France was the widespread use of suppositories - I had never experienced them before I moved to France and was a bit 😧at how commonplace they were.

MarieDeGournay · 03/10/2025 16:23

MyrtleLion · 03/10/2025 16:08

It's eerie that you picture me so perfectly.

Cake came round for a natter.

[Checks for secret cameras]

I'm glad you posted that, Myrtle, I had missed Android's post and wouldn't have seen the compliment about the Tweet of the Day thank you😊
I sat up late last night reading and was a bit sleep-deprived and buzzy this morning, which helped the silliness😄

You manage to look impressively imperious even when poorly, Myrtle, and even though you are having to try very hard to keep your eyes off that cake on your right..
I hope you have a good rest this evening and the anti-bios kick in soon.

CautiousLurker01 · 03/10/2025 16:56

I woke up to stomach ache followed by D&V. Currently cuddling the dogs (spaniel cuddles are 200x better than buscopan) and looking at the Book Nook box.

DH and DS away as there is a uni open day in Manchester tomorrow and I am home alone with season 4 of Criminal Minds (watching with DD at a distance) … I can park the novel for a weekend and open the box, can’t I?

Britinme · 03/10/2025 17:02

I want a day when I can just curl up and read things and not have to think about what anybody else wants.

CautiousLurker01 · 03/10/2025 17:07

Britinme · 03/10/2025 17:02

I want a day when I can just curl up and read things and not have to think about what anybody else wants.

I Love You Hug GIF

Sounds like you need a hug!

Britinme · 03/10/2025 17:13

Aww thanks @CautiousLurker01 :-)

No it's not that bad - just have a lot of things (not distressing things, just busy things) going on at the moment. I'm heading a committee that is trying to pull together entries from our state's poets society for our 90th anniversary next year, and keeping on top of the spreadsheet has meant a certain amount of attention needed to that, plus figuring out an agenda for a Zoom meeting tomorrow and what I would like the outcome to be, and a time frame.

I also need to get on top of work I haven't done yet to promote my own book, which is being published in February but the publisher wants to build up a certain number of pre-orders. However, he doesn't ship outside the US, which means I have to organize any pre-orders from the UK among my own contacts there who might just be interested in a book of poems by me despite the fact that exorbitant postage costs from the UK will make it about £25 a book despite the pre-order discount price. I have done nothing about this so far.

Magpiecomplex · 03/10/2025 17:20

After handing back multiple assignments for reworking today, you will be able to find me in close proximity to the hot chocolate bowser.

DeanElderberry · 03/10/2025 17:44

You know I don't complain, but really, if someone declines to eat her dinner because she doesn't like mince, and doesn't eat her breakfast because she doesn't like catfood, and is hungry because all she ate in 24 hours was the bit of chicken she was given for supper, and the bit of chicken her brother was given for supper, how is that MY fault?

SeptemberIRemember · 03/10/2025 18:24

The conversation has moved on a long way while I have been watching a tribunal and reading those threads, but I want to add my experience at a girls-only school in the Swinging Sixties.

I don't think periods were ever mentioned. In Biology, up to age 14, we only got as far as cockroaches. Nothing about reproduction, theirs or anyone's. I didn't do Biology O level, anyway only the lower sets were allowed to take 'Human Biology' - what a useful course that would have been.

We had one lesson in the sixth form labelled "Sex Education" or similar. It was given by the unmarried Headmistress, a former Biology teacher, and was wholly about Venereal Disease, or STIs. We were not told how to avoid them, but I imagine total abstinence was implied.

There were at least two girls in my year who became pregnant. I still remember their names. They left the sixth form without explanation, but I saw them later.
One was probably the cleverest girl in the year. She got a full-time job at the shop where I worked on Saturdays. I hope she got a chance at higher education later, if she wanted it.

Britinme · 03/10/2025 18:44

@SeptemberIRemember my experience was much like yours, and I did not only Biology O level but Biology A level. I don't even remember a sex education lesson.

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