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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Biological sex is a multidimensional variable with various components" - Thread 2

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:33

The last thread ended with Tandora attempting to sidestep the question about what she would say if her daughter had been raped by a trans woman in a female only space and no longer believed that trans women should be in female only spaces as a consequence.

Her last reply was along the lines of, "The same thing I would say if she had been bullied by a green person at school and said she no longer wanted to go to school with green people."

@Tandora can we have a serious answer?

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VoulezVouz · 25/07/2025 08:50

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:46

thank you xx We can disagree with each other without resorting to this

You’d think so, but it seems few here can hold a discussion without it becoming vicious.

Igneococcus · 25/07/2025 08:50

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:45

That's really not why the EA allows for single sex spaces - it's got nothing to do with men being 'not nice' lol. It's about effective service delivery - (due to social norms).

"effective service delivery" What?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

I think prisons is an exceptional case. We don't build general rules about society around prison security systems.

I do not think a person who has been jailed for sexual assault should be jailed in a place where they have access to people who they can further assault.

By the way, men and boys can also be victims of sexual assault and rape.

My understanding about the way prisons work - although I don't know a huge amount about prison security - is that an individual risk assessment is conducted on an individual basis as to where they should be placed for the sake of everybody's security. I think this is exactly appropriate.

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

Igneococcus · 25/07/2025 08:50

"effective service delivery" What?

Have you read the relevant part of the Equalities Act. Let me see if I can link it for you.

NecessaryScene · 25/07/2025 08:52

The existence of some criminals who happen to be trans, says nothing about trans people as a group.

Note the carefully chosen word 'existence' to distract from what is salient: prevalence.

It is extremely stark that trans-identifying males have offending patterns at least as bad as other men, if not worse, and a very long way away from female.

To the extent that many headlines about a 'woman' committing a violent crime are a pretty safe bet to actually be a trans-identifying man, despite the huge gap in population size between them and actual women.

Statistics like these demonstrate why it makes absolutely no sense to treat trans individuals as the opposite sex - they don't exhibit opposite-sex behaviour!

Igneococcus · 25/07/2025 08:52

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

Have you read the relevant part of the Equalities Act. Let me see if I can link it for you.

Well, that would be the first link from you.

BackToLurk · 25/07/2025 08:53

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:21

A trans woman cannot be reduced to "a man saying he is a woman". That is not a reasonable characterisation of what it is to be trans, and demonstrates a complete lack of understanding.

Trans women are not threats. They are not a threat to woman: ethnic minority, religious, abused or otherwise.

What is it about the trans woman advised to use condoms for contraception that makes them less of a threat than any other person for whom the appropriate form of contraception would be condoms?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:53

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

Have you read the relevant part of the Equalities Act. Let me see if I can link it for you.

Here you go:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/notes/division/3/16/20/7

"A provider can deliver separate services for men and women where providing a combined service would not be as effective. A provider can deliver separate services for men and women in different ways or to a different extent where providing a combined service would not be as effective and it would not be reasonably practicable to provide the service otherwise than as a separate service provided differently for each sex. In each case such provision has to be justified."

Equality Act 2010 - Explanatory Notes

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/notes/division/3/16/20/7

WarrenTofficier · 25/07/2025 08:53

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:35

What is you evidence that trans identifying men are any less of a threat than other men?

Violence against women and girls is not a natural phenomenon driven by chromosomes.

Violence against women and girls is a social problem, rooted in inequality, power, misogyny and patriarchy.

So why do you believe that men with a trans identity are immune to these factors? They remain physically bigger, stronger and more powerful (as a class) than women (as a class), they have grown up with the social pressures and influence and they figures from the MoJ show they offend at the same rate as other men.

DialSquare · 25/07/2025 08:54

VoulezVouz · 25/07/2025 08:50

You’d think so, but it seems few here can hold a discussion without it becoming vicious.

Few here? Really? You think the majority of the posters here are viscous?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:54

BackToLurk · 25/07/2025 08:53

What is it about the trans woman advised to use condoms for contraception that makes them less of a threat than any other person for whom the appropriate form of contraception would be condoms?

Violence against women and girls is not a natural phenomenon driven by chromosomes, or reproductive anatomy, or the wearing of condoms.

Violence against women and girls is a social problem, rooted in inequality, power, misogyny and patriarchy.

Igneococcus · 25/07/2025 08:54

Actually, I haven't read the EA, but nevertheless:

  1. Men are not women.
  2. Men can't become women
  3. Women are allowed to prefer single sex spaces without having to explain why over and over again
  4. That is really all that there is.
Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:54

DialSquare · 25/07/2025 08:54

Few here? Really? You think the majority of the posters here are viscous?

Yes.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/07/2025 08:55

VoulezVouz · 25/07/2025 08:42

I read her reply to you. That is not exactly what she said, was it?

This is not about whether I agree with her. I think what you said about her daughter above was terrible.

That was how I interpreted her multiple replies. I did ask her to confirm whether that was actually what she meant and she continued to be evasive.

For what it's worth, IF Tandora is actually a woman and IF she does actually have a (real, female, not TIM) daughter, and IF that daughter had the misfortune to be raped in a female only space by a TIM, I do not actually believe that she would continue to gaslight her daughter about TIMs not presenting the same risk to women as other men. I do not think her luxury beliefs would be able to withstand her own daughter being harmed in such a way.

But if she did tell her traumatised daughter that her being raped had nothing to do with the fact that a TIM was in a female only space and continued to spout her usual rubbish, then I stand by what I said. A parent who reacts like that in that situation does not deserve to have a daughter, and should not be in any way surprised if their daughter goes no contact and never speaks to them again.

And it means that she can only maintain her pretence that what happened to Katie Dolatowski's preteen victims is unfortunate but can't be helped, and that they are acceptable collateral damage for being trans inclusive, because neither of Katie Dolatowski's preteen victims is her own daughter.

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ItsCoolForCats · 25/07/2025 08:57

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

I think prisons is an exceptional case. We don't build general rules about society around prison security systems.

I do not think a person who has been jailed for sexual assault should be jailed in a place where they have access to people who they can further assault.

By the way, men and boys can also be victims of sexual assault and rape.

My understanding about the way prisons work - although I don't know a huge amount about prison security - is that an individual risk assessment is conducted on an individual basis as to where they should be placed for the sake of everybody's security. I think this is exactly appropriate.

I do not think a person who has been jailed for sexual assault should be jailed in a place where they have access to people who they can further assault.

Right, but before they are jailed, they can access any women's single sex spaces they want because we should dismantle all safeguarding if a man says he identifies as a woman. Where did Katie Dolatowski access his victims?

Can you genuinely not see the flaws in your arguments?

NecessaryScene · 25/07/2025 08:58

Violence against women and girls is a social problem, rooted in inequality, power, misogyny and patriarchy.

All of which arose in a vacuum and there's absolutely no reason why the same structures couldn't have been sex reversed.

It's just a coincidence that in every society in history men have overpowered women.

There could be societies where sexual assault and unwanted pregnancies are a female-on-male phenomenon.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/07/2025 08:59

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

Have you read the relevant part of the Equalities Act. Let me see if I can link it for you.

I'd be highly surprised if you could, given that there is no piece of legislation on our statute books called the "Equalities Act".

What with that and being unable to spell "judgment", I don't understand why you think we should give your opinions on matters of law any weight.

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DialSquare · 25/07/2025 08:59

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:54

Yes.

I wasn’t asking you but as you’ve responded so will I. This is where words mean something different to you again isn’t it? I would say brutally honest not vicious.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/07/2025 09:00

WarrenTofficier · 25/07/2025 08:53

So why do you believe that men with a trans identity are immune to these factors? They remain physically bigger, stronger and more powerful (as a class) than women (as a class), they have grown up with the social pressures and influence and they figures from the MoJ show they offend at the same rate as other men.

Exactly this.

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Tandora · 25/07/2025 09:00

ItsCoolForCats · 25/07/2025 08:57

I do not think a person who has been jailed for sexual assault should be jailed in a place where they have access to people who they can further assault.

Right, but before they are jailed, they can access any women's single sex spaces they want because we should dismantle all safeguarding if a man says he identifies as a woman. Where did Katie Dolatowski access his victims?

Can you genuinely not see the flaws in your arguments?

Anyone can access any single sex space they want, regardless of equalities law about the provision of single sex services. these things are not rationally connected.

If a man wants to rape a woman in a toilet he will do so - he does not need to pretend to be trans. If a trans woman wants to rape a woman in a toilet she can do so, regardless of what the Equalities Act says about the definition of sex as a protected characteristic in law.

VoulezVouz · 25/07/2025 09:00

DialSquare · 25/07/2025 08:54

Few here? Really? You think the majority of the posters here are viscous?

I didn’t say the posters themselves were “vicious”, but the discussion inevitably turns vicious. There’s a distinction. However, I would say that most posters here have an edge to them.

BTW: ‘Viscous’ means ‘thick’.

BackToLurk · 25/07/2025 09:01

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:54

Violence against women and girls is not a natural phenomenon driven by chromosomes, or reproductive anatomy, or the wearing of condoms.

Violence against women and girls is a social problem, rooted in inequality, power, misogyny and patriarchy.

Nor really an answer. What is it about the individual in question’s ’transness’ that makes them less of a threat?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/07/2025 09:01

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:53

Here you go:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/notes/division/3/16/20/7

"A provider can deliver separate services for men and women where providing a combined service would not be as effective. A provider can deliver separate services for men and women in different ways or to a different extent where providing a combined service would not be as effective and it would not be reasonably practicable to provide the service otherwise than as a separate service provided differently for each sex. In each case such provision has to be justified."

But that's only one justification. There are others, including where members of one sex "might reasonably object to the presence of" a member of the opposite sex.

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ItsCoolForCats · 25/07/2025 09:01

@Tandora Are trans women who commit sexual offences women? If so, then why do you not think they should be in a women's prison with other women?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/07/2025 09:01

Tandora · 25/07/2025 09:00

Anyone can access any single sex space they want, regardless of equalities law about the provision of single sex services. these things are not rationally connected.

If a man wants to rape a woman in a toilet he will do so - he does not need to pretend to be trans. If a trans woman wants to rape a woman in a toilet she can do so, regardless of what the Equalities Act says about the definition of sex as a protected characteristic in law.

So why is rape even illegal?

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