You don’t really come across as wanting to listen or discuss, and it is perhaps a language thing.
If the main content of your posts is rooted in social justice language cliches, it becomes hard to understand what you are really saying. It comes across as not wanting real dialogue with other people, but just pulling out well-rehearsed phrases that ultimately dehumanise other sections of the population.
I can see that you have a lot to carry from your racial and sporting background, and that this is bound to make you more sensitive to Caster’s situation. But you seem to have come on here in a very defensive mode, assumed some quite offensive things about all the women on here, and are working on the assumption from the off that we are all “white feminists” who are inherently bad people.
It doesn’t always help women to be divided into camps or to be in a competition for who is the most oppressed.
In the end, just because a white woman cannot understand first-hand your own experience of racism, it doesn’t make her hateful, unkind, racist or anything else.
But if you denigrate people that you don’t know by repeatedly telling them that they don’t and can’t possibly care about racism because they are white (not true), or accuse them of applying white beauty standards when correctly judging the sex of a black male (no-one here has said anything judgemental about any black woman’s appearance) then dialogue becomes much harder to achieve.