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Guardian briefing against Baroness Falkner & the EHRC

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GreenUp · 26/05/2025 20:20

The Guardian's TRA journalists Libby Brooks and Peter Walker have today published two articles briefing against Baroness Falkner and the EHRC.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/may/26/uk-equality-watchdog-months-sign-off-gender-guidance-mps-fear

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/may/26/splits-labour-supreme-court-gender-ruling

It's concerning that they are still suggesting Harriet Harman will take over.

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PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:40

BezMills · 27/05/2025 14:35

Yeah I think men need to be a lot A LOT more accepting of each other. This kid on macho shit is exhausting and literally nobody needs it.

You can't wear a pink jumper without getting unsolicited fashion advice (ironically the Bog Code means that is the place you are least likely to get your fashion sense advisories)

I don’t understand this logic. Why do we want to force people with gender dysphoria and intense discomfort with their sex into a space that will make that worse?

Why don’t you say that person should use a gender neutral space?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 14:41

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:40

I don’t understand this logic. Why do we want to force people with gender dysphoria and intense discomfort with their sex into a space that will make that worse?

Why don’t you say that person should use a gender neutral space?

Obviously a gender neutral space is the best place for them, if one exists.

But if it doesn't, why do you think their discomfort matters more than women's?

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 14:44

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 14:37

For whom?

How many other laws do you unilaterally decide not to comply with because complying is more difficult than not complying?

I'm sure the ban on sending children up chimneys or under weaving machines caused problems, for the chimney sweeps.and factory owners. The drink driving laws cause problems for people who like to drive home after 12 pints in the pub, the marital rape law causes issues for men who want to have the right to use their wife's body whether she agrees or not, there are many laws which inconvenience people. Shall we all just obey the ones we fancy? I might start driving my sheep over the town bridge.

BezMills · 27/05/2025 14:53

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:40

I don’t understand this logic. Why do we want to force people with gender dysphoria and intense discomfort with their sex into a space that will make that worse?

Why don’t you say that person should use a gender neutral space?

I don't understand you not understanding

I don't think being sad about your body has much to do with it. You said your friend stopped using the gents because of other men and their comments. Then they are the problem yes?

Men need to man up and mind they business

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:03

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 14:38

Uh huh. He was uncomfortable in the men's, realised him being in the women's would make women (who had no other options unlike him) uncomfortable, and decided that his discomfort was more important than the discomfort of an uncounted number of women. As I said, very male coded behaviour. He matters more than the women whose space it is and have no safer option to decamp to. And again, no women confronting him absolutely doesn't mean they didn't mind. Women rarely confront unknown men.

There was no evidence at all that transwomen are at risk in men's toilets. Fionne Orlander has said that the most that happens is a man will see Fionne and double check the sign on the door. Fionne will confirm it's the men's and that he's aman, and everyone will go about their day.

Here's Fionne looking lovely and clearly safe in a mens toilet:

https://www.change.org/p/boris-johnson-a-plea-for-third-spaces-for-transgender-men-and-women

And here's Kathleen Root in his 1000th photo of himself safe in a men's toilet:

https://x.com/RocknRoller2019/status/1920553022347730977

Your friend will be just as safe as any other man in the men's.

She realised making women uncomfortable was a risk and did everything she could to be respectful and minimise the risk. Just because you disagree it doesn’t make her behaviour “male coded”.

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 15:07

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:03

She realised making women uncomfortable was a risk and did everything she could to be respectful and minimise the risk. Just because you disagree it doesn’t make her behaviour “male coded”.

The way to 'minimise the risk' was for him not to go into women's single sex spaces at all. He decided his comfort mattered more.

How come this woman's comfort is so much more important than all the other women's comfort, to you? If he was actually a woman and was being treated like a woman, he'd be told to suck it up. The only reason he's prioritised is because he's really a man.

Guardian briefing against Baroness Falkner & the EHRC
Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 15:11

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:40

I don’t understand this logic. Why do we want to force people with gender dysphoria and intense discomfort with their sex into a space that will make that worse?

Why don’t you say that person should use a gender neutral space?

If you think there should be more gender neutral spaces for your male friends who don’t want to use men’s toilets, you crack on then. It’s nothing to do with women.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 15:14

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:36

Because it will cause more problems to go back to the mens than just continuing as she has been doing for years.

If your friend genuinely passes to everyone as female then no one will notice, but don’t expect us to be happy with being deceived against our consent. But I suspect that isn’t actually the case, like it isn’t for 99% of these male people.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 15:21

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:03

She realised making women uncomfortable was a risk and did everything she could to be respectful and minimise the risk. Just because you disagree it doesn’t make her behaviour “male coded”.

No.

If your friend realised this was a risk, "everything [she] could to be respectful and minimise the risk" would have been not using women's spaces.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:29

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 15:14

If your friend genuinely passes to everyone as female then no one will notice, but don’t expect us to be happy with being deceived against our consent. But I suspect that isn’t actually the case, like it isn’t for 99% of these male people.

Edited

I don’t see why it’s deceptive for her to exist without telling every woman she comes across that she was born male

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 15:38

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:29

I don’t see why it’s deceptive for her to exist without telling every woman she comes across that she was born male

If your friend isn't somewhere men aren't allowed to be, it's none of anyone's business what sex they are.

LittleBitofBread · 27/05/2025 15:52

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:29

I don’t see why it’s deceptive for her to exist without telling every woman she comes across that she was born male

Bingo! 'the right to exist'.

Isn't the issue more that your friend would have to tell every man he comes across in the men's toilets that he's a man?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 15:58

LittleBitofBread · 27/05/2025 15:52

Bingo! 'the right to exist'.

Isn't the issue more that your friend would have to tell every man he comes across in the men's toilets that he's a man?

I'm getting so naffed off with hearing "the right to exist" from people who literally think we don't need a word or a legally recognised category for "female people".

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 27/05/2025 16:08

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 13:28

It’s a nice idea but it doesn’t work in practice. My TW friend started using the ladies because they kept being told they were in the wrong toilet when using the mens.

That's a man problem then, it's not the purpose of women to solve men's problems for them.

Your friend should have just said 'no I'm not', not invade a space he had no right being in. Simples really.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 16:20

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:29

I don’t see why it’s deceptive for her to exist without telling every woman she comes across that she was born male

But your friend is a man, not a woman, and he knows the women’s space isn’t actually for him. So obviously it’s deceptive 🙄 in Tesco doing the shopping no one is going to care. But your friend isn’t welcome in spaces which for reasons of privacy and dignity are intended for women. Even if he sneaks in undetected.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 16:23

The Supreme Court has made it extremely clear that men are to be classified by biological sex, not identity.

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 16:28

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 27/05/2025 16:08

That's a man problem then, it's not the purpose of women to solve men's problems for them.

Your friend should have just said 'no I'm not', not invade a space he had no right being in. Simples really.

Like Fionne Orlander does, as I posted upthread and PP ignored. Men need to accept that gender non conformity is part of what it is to be a man,and accept transwomen in male spaces where they have the right to be.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:07

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 16:28

Like Fionne Orlander does, as I posted upthread and PP ignored. Men need to accept that gender non conformity is part of what it is to be a man,and accept transwomen in male spaces where they have the right to be.

If that’s what makes Fionne happy that’s great. It doesn’t mean it’s right for every trans person.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 19:12

It’s not about where men feel “happy”. Women’s spaces do not revolve around the feelings of men, however comfortable they’ve made themselves in our spaces. They are not welcome.

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 19:22

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:07

If that’s what makes Fionne happy that’s great. It doesn’t mean it’s right for every trans person.

You said it was impossible for your friend to use the mens. It clearly isn't as other transwomen do, including those who are very clearly wearing women's clothes, nails, makeup, and looking very groomed as Fionne is in that photo. Now you're saying it's because he's not happy in the men's? I expect lots of men aren't happy in the men's, they're still men just like your friend is so they use the men's.

So it's not about Fionne being happy, it's that Fionne's not a dick who thinks respecting women is unnecessary if it inconveniences a man.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:31

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 19:22

You said it was impossible for your friend to use the mens. It clearly isn't as other transwomen do, including those who are very clearly wearing women's clothes, nails, makeup, and looking very groomed as Fionne is in that photo. Now you're saying it's because he's not happy in the men's? I expect lots of men aren't happy in the men's, they're still men just like your friend is so they use the men's.

So it's not about Fionne being happy, it's that Fionne's not a dick who thinks respecting women is unnecessary if it inconveniences a man.

I didn’t say she is just unhappy about going to the mens. She was extremely upset at the thought of having to use the mens if a neutral toilet isn’t available. It’s a deeply distressing thought for her.

moggly · 27/05/2025 19:33

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 14:40

I don’t understand this logic. Why do we want to force people with gender dysphoria and intense discomfort with their sex into a space that will make that worse?

Why don’t you say that person should use a gender neutral space?

This is like the pro-prostitution argument that disabled men should have a right to buy sex. Everything focused on the desires of the man, with no thought given to how women are being harmed.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:36

moggly · 27/05/2025 19:33

This is like the pro-prostitution argument that disabled men should have a right to buy sex. Everything focused on the desires of the man, with no thought given to how women are being harmed.

No, it’s not. I was saying that instead of default position being that a TW should use the mens, we could say use a neutral toilet. It’s know that gender dysphoria can be very distressing, so why is everyone here so gleeful?

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 19:39

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:36

No, it’s not. I was saying that instead of default position being that a TW should use the mens, we could say use a neutral toilet. It’s know that gender dysphoria can be very distressing, so why is everyone here so gleeful?

Well no, you said that your friend had to use the womens because he was clocked in the men's and you didn't see why he should have to stop. You said nothing about him using a neutral toilet you specifically said he shouldn't have to stop using women's spaces because it works for him and you don't mind.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 19:44

nothingcomestonothing · 27/05/2025 19:39

Well no, you said that your friend had to use the womens because he was clocked in the men's and you didn't see why he should have to stop. You said nothing about him using a neutral toilet you specifically said he shouldn't have to stop using women's spaces because it works for him and you don't mind.

Can two things not be true at once? My friend experienced lots of discomfort using the gents , but dealt with it until she was sure she passed.

Like people have said, if a trans person passes, no one will know anyway. That’s why it’s fine for my friend to carry.

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