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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

The latest fallouts in GC world

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Pluvia · 11/12/2024 11:06

My terfing energy has been focussed elsewhere in recent months and I haven't been here or on TwiX or social media much. Now I've taken responsibility for tweeting/ comms on behalf of a small but potentially significant LGB group and I discover that there seems to be something going on — another schism — in GC world. Jane Clare Jones's name seems to be coming up a lot. Something seems to have gone on but I can't work out what.

If it was my own account I'd just ignore, but the followers of this account are bringing it up and seem to expect an opinion to be expressed or a side to be taken. Also I'm seeing a lot about 'ultras' and 'lites', which is new to me. Can anyone enlighten me? I need to tread carefully.

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BackToLurk · 16/12/2024 11:21

@Ereshkigalangcleg

As you seem to be determined to come back to this 'throwaway remark'. Yep I said "feel there is now a bit of back pedalling", and I'm quite happy to stand by that. The comment was "No men belong behind a make up counter, none." To me, and presumably lots of others, that goes beyond just saying "I personally don't want a man to touch my face", which is how it is how it is now being positioned. I consider that back pedalling, you don't. That's fine.

I'm not really sure what you mean by the accusation that I disapprove of "women like KJK". Women like what?

UrsulasHerbBag · 16/12/2024 11:34

Is KJK back pedalling? I hadn’t seen that. I would be interested to see what she is saying. The posters here are discussing their interpretations and thoughts surrounding her post and JCJs insinuation that we (GC women) are soon to be saying all men in eyeliner are a danger to children.

UrsulasHerbBag · 16/12/2024 11:34

Not interested enough to reinstall x though! It drains my will to live.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/12/2024 11:36

I consider that back pedalling, you don't. That's fine.

I consider that just like JCJ you are making something out of absolutely nothing, in the way that always happens on these threads, and trying to draw women here into it too. You don't. That's fine.

Brefugee · 16/12/2024 11:42

I'm a bit confused by this though.

(Although not her hair - and for me I find the whole groin next to face aspect of a male hairdresser quite invasive).

(not the only pp to say this)

I don't recall ever having a hairdresser's groin near my face at a salon

LilyBartsHatShop · 16/12/2024 11:50

I was wondering if perhaps English hairdressers sort of stooped as they cut your hair!

AlisonDonut · 16/12/2024 11:55

DrLouiseJMoody · 16/12/2024 05:56

This.

It's a little odd to see Jane, and possibly others, frame me as "conservative" and "aligned with the far right" when I'm still a left - wing lesbian who likely agrees with them on many things. I simply take a pragmatic approach about speaking to, and yes sometimes working with, those with radically different views: it's also thought - provoking and ensures we don't live in silos.

I just find that crowd despicable in their character and behaviour. Their politics are notable insofar as they are used as a shield to disguise abusing KJK and similar.

There's also the issue that academics have been paid from the public purse and from private fees and government loans poor people take out, all of which are there because everyone paid into the system that they are capitalising off of.

Half of the people at least will be on the right. I say at least because as was previously pointed out, the working class don't often make it to university. It does tend to be people who want to go on to actually make some serious money that go to university.

So not only are the feminists who flick shit at the likes of KJK for talking out of turn paid by capitalists, they are supposed to serve their often capitalist students and yet they espose about how socialist they are and hate anyone who doesn't bow down to the leftist way of thinking.

It is all utter bullshit. University lecturers are benefitting from capitalism just like everyone else. And yet, a woman dares to sell a few tshirts to pay for security and she is hounded for it.

They betray women, the ones who need it, time and time again. Talk about throwing the working class under a bus.

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:02

AlisonDonut · 16/12/2024 05:44

And utopia studied feminism at university? Hardly a working class thing to do? Or not my kind of working class anyway

Stay in your lane Utopia.

I find it fascinating that so called left leaning academics who are the proper feminists can't type sentences that a normal woman might be able to understand, and yet when someone comes along that can, they do everything in their power to destroy them. Such feministing.

And then they accuse people of moving to the right. No, they are just moving away from you.

I am not an academic as I keep saying. I am low paid. And many of the women critical of KJK are not academics.
Why are you using academic as an insult anyway? Do you buy into the centuries old prejudice against women being educated? You know the first women at universities in the UK were ridiculed for daring to attend?

AlisonDonut · 16/12/2024 12:05

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:02

I am not an academic as I keep saying. I am low paid. And many of the women critical of KJK are not academics.
Why are you using academic as an insult anyway? Do you buy into the centuries old prejudice against women being educated? You know the first women at universities in the UK were ridiculed for daring to attend?

You were the one that stated earlier that someone who did Feminist Theory at university couldn't be working class. You may not be an academic but at least read what it is you type before pressing 'post'.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:06

Xiaoxiong · 15/12/2024 22:41

@illinivich it may be a stereotype but it is an established fact that some gay men are much better than me at hair and makeup than me. Doesn't make them women, nor me a man. It also doesn't mean they're in woman face or cosplaying women just by virtue of wearing makeup and being good at it too. If they claim to be female or women then that's a different kettle of fish of course but it reinforces sexist stereotypes to say that makeup is only for women.

I guess I always thought KJK was gender critical in the sense that she was critical of gender ie that it is all bullshit and sex is what matters, but I am now having to reclassify her in my mind as the "sex is real and non changeable, but gender is edifying and innate" bit of the gender critical Venn diagram.

Why does it have to be either/or?

There are many women who do conform to certain gender stereotypes ( well at least some of them): who enjoy dressing up; wearing make-up; making home; baking; having children.....and given that it is females that become pregnant, get the nesting instinct, and have the closest bond with a new-born it would be rather odd if lots of women did not find something edifying in all of the above.

The point about gender roles is really about not being forced to comply, not that they exist. There will always be masculine men and feminine women - because many 'gender' constructions are extrapolations that do have roots in sex - even if not rigidly fixed.

It still does not mean that a 'masculine' woman is male, though, or a 'feminine' man is female. A lot of gay men do enjoy stereoptypical 'girly' things, and a lot of lesbians enjoy more 'masculine' things.

It seems to me that there are some feminists who don't like that KJK has blonde hair and a glamorous presentation or that she makes a big thing about being a wife and mother. They see that as unfeminist, or that she is somehow cos-playing womanhood.

AlisonDonut · 16/12/2024 12:12

It is absolutely an issue that a very striking looking feminine woman with kids opens her mouth and says unapproved things.

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:13

AlisonDonut · 16/12/2024 12:05

You were the one that stated earlier that someone who did Feminist Theory at university couldn't be working class. You may not be an academic but at least read what it is you type before pressing 'post'.

The woman who said she read feminist theory at university dismissed my opinions by saying I was middle class, and those who agreed with KJK were working class. That is simply not true.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:18

JumpingPumpkin · 15/12/2024 09:34

CJC seems to think that all women who support KJK's activism regard her as a messiah whose every word must be taken as gospel.

I have met the odd woman like that (she was pretty odd) but most women I've met who support KJK think she's broadly right but not in every statement.

Maybe that's what riles JCJ so much, she wants everything she says to be pored over as the final word?

That's because she is a career feminist who has carved out a very specific academic niche and she doesn't want it compromised.

She is also obsessed with eye-liner wearing Prince, and nobody can say a word about him......What is that all about?

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:21

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:18

That's because she is a career feminist who has carved out a very specific academic niche and she doesn't want it compromised.

She is also obsessed with eye-liner wearing Prince, and nobody can say a word about him......What is that all about?

I find supporters of KJK tend to react very harshly to the slightest criticism of KJK.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:21

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:13

The woman who said she read feminist theory at university dismissed my opinions by saying I was middle class, and those who agreed with KJK were working class. That is simply not true.

What is working class and how does one define it? Lots of people claim working class identities....and I wonder on what it is they base this claim? Their parents' jobs? Their current occupation? Their salary? Their level of education?

One turns someone from working class to middle class? Are there specific criteria?

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:23

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:21

I find supporters of KJK tend to react very harshly to the slightest criticism of KJK.

What about the people who are not fans of anyone in particular, but still feel they have a comment to make, or an observation?

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:25

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:23

What about the people who are not fans of anyone in particular, but still feel they have a comment to make, or an observation?

You mean like me? I have referred to as a fan of CJC on this thread. I am not a fan of anyone. Why do you think people here assume I am a fan?

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:29

@Shortshriftandlethal anyone can claim to be working class or middle class. Kemi Badenoch claimed to have become working class when she worked at McDonalds for a short while. But just sex, class is a materialist reality. You can pretend to be whatever sex or class you like, but reality is a different story.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:29

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:25

You mean like me? I have referred to as a fan of CJC on this thread. I am not a fan of anyone. Why do you think people here assume I am a fan?

Actually I was thinking of myself.......given your slightly incongruent response to my post. It felt as if you were suggesting I was a fan of KJK because I'd commented on JCJ's academic career and her love of Prince.

TBH, I pay little attention to either woman. I'm not on twitter. Though i did attend a Let Women Speak event once.

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:32

@Shortshriftandlethal If I thought you were a fan, I would have said that.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:33

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:29

@Shortshriftandlethal anyone can claim to be working class or middle class. Kemi Badenoch claimed to have become working class when she worked at McDonalds for a short while. But just sex, class is a materialist reality. You can pretend to be whatever sex or class you like, but reality is a different story.

I'm asking you...for your definition or usage? Are you defining class purely in material terms ( money/house/ job?)

(Did you used to post under a different user name...but with the same CM initials?)

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:35

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:32

@Shortshriftandlethal If I thought you were a fan, I would have said that.

It just seemed like an odd response - to my response to another poster. You didn't seem to be addressing my points at all.

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:41

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:33

I'm asking you...for your definition or usage? Are you defining class purely in material terms ( money/house/ job?)

(Did you used to post under a different user name...but with the same CM initials?)

Edited

No I did not post under another name. I have no idea who you are referring to.
I tend to stay away from this board as I believe in feminism, rather than conservative gender critical ideas.
Why do you want to know my definition?

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/12/2024 12:42

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:41

No I did not post under another name. I have no idea who you are referring to.
I tend to stay away from this board as I believe in feminism, rather than conservative gender critical ideas.
Why do you want to know my definition?

It's a discussion board......I find it helps to further discussion if ideas, beliefs and claims can be unpacked.

CandyMaker · 16/12/2024 12:45

@Shortshriftandlethal My comment was in response to the comment above claiming that KJK supporters are working class and those who agree more with CJC are middle class.
That untrue statement is the one that needs to be unpacked. I have seen this idea before. That KJK and those who agree with her are ordinary working class people, and those who disagree are middle class academics who are stuck in their ivory towers divorced from reality.
Why do you think that false characterisation keeps being repeated?

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