Dammit. Giving in entirely, and adding the very last thing I've been wanting to say in half an hour of appalled dipping in and out, for better or for worse...
I do, like so many others, have serious concerns about the messages being given to vulnerable young people by Butterfly. @ButterflyHatched, please, please separate fact and perception in any counselling or similar. References to bigots are emotive, unprofessional and, fundamentally, driven by your own perceptions and needs as opposed to the young people you should be foregrounding.
On this thread, you have message upon message from women, gay and lesbian lesbian posters, lifelong LGB "allies", hardened left-wing campaigners and loving mothers, all telling you that this isn't what's driving their concerns.
You have, to put it bluntly, no right to filter all these different voices and experiences through your own prejudices to present them, reductively, to any possible young charges as quite simply hatred-filled.
And you have absolutely no right to advise these young people to break the law and, potentially, put themselves at physical risk by being exposed as a different sex in the most vulnerable of circumstances, in support of your own, personal convictions.
If nothing else you'd written had convinced me of the limitations of your arguments, then your confident defence of such behaviour would have done so. It's unethical.
Suggest how to navigate difficult conversations - yes.
Advise caution - absolutely.
Discuss the nature and ethics of consent, including in this difficult context - of course.
But to model reductive emoting and all-or-nothing thinking? Again, even if we take your posts at face value (and as others have expressed my feelings in appropriately strong terms elsewhere, this is what I'm trying to do as an alternative approach), this really does suggest that you don't fully appreciate your responsibilities in a role of this kind.