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Kamala Harris has a problem with men. Will misogyny cost her the election?

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IwantToRetire · 21/10/2024 18:01

There was an earlier thread about whether the Democrats would support a WOC candidate https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5124648-will-us-democrats-support-a-woc-as-their-candidate-or-will-they-by-pass-kamala-harris

And I think there were some later about her policies, but then maybe there weren't. https://kamalaharris.com/issues/

But was depressed to see this article Kamala Harris has a problem with men. Will misogyny cost her the election?
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/oct/20/kamala-harris-has-a-problem-with-men-will-misogyny-cost-her-the-election
(Should have been men have a problem, not making out she is the problem.)

Polls reflect this age-old dichotomy. Men are more likely to back Trump; women lean towards Harris. A recent New York Times-Siena poll put her 16 points ahead of Trump among female voters. NBC gave her a 14-point lead with women. Trump leads by up to 16 points among men.

Harris’s gender may be tacitly affecting or reinforcing attitudes in other voter categories. In the New York Times poll, 60% of white college-educated voters backed Harris, while 63% of white non-college-educated voters backed Trump. Likewise, Trump, who is white, has a significant advantage among white people while Harris, who identifies as black and Asian, leads among non-whites. Yet voters in two other key categories, blacks and Hispanics, are less supportive of Harris than of Biden in 2020, surveys show – a decline partly driven by younger, non-college-educated Hispanic males. Speaking in pivotal Pennsylvania, Barack Obama angrily castigated his black “brothers” for finding “all kinds of excuses” not to support a woman.

Its just really depressing to think this is the basis on which the decision about the next US President is taken. Because like it or not what the US does or doesn't do impacts on the rest of us.

Even though they are now talking about Trump's mental capacity Trump’s Unwieldy Speeches Raise Questions About His Mental Acuity https://www.forbes.com/sites/saradorn/2024/10/16/trumps-unwieldy-speeches-raise-questions-about-his-mental-acuity/ it doesn't seem likely it will change the minds of his supporters. And is already clear he doesn't feel the need to abide by accepted norms in terms of procedures.

Divisive politics in the UK seems to have lead to an apathy, disengagement (low turn out at GE) but it seems, if news channels are to be believed, that in the US the devisions are making people more active engaged. More oppositional

Or rather men not caring about women's issues, or even trusting a woman to be President.

Kamala Harris has a problem with men. Will misogyny cost her the election? | Simon Tisdall

After a rousing start to her campaign, the Democratic candidate is flatlining in the polls, and sexism could swing the vote in Donald Trump’s favour

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/oct/20/kamala-harris-has-a-problem-with-men-will-misogyny-cost-her-the-election

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TempestTost · 30/10/2024 17:56

biscuitandcake · 30/10/2024 15:10

To be fair, no-one knew that really before she was elected. She was a bit of an unknown and people wrote a LOT of speculation about what she would be like as a leader. Kamala Harris is also an unknown quantity as president, so are most people that run for president to begin with. I don't think everyone is motivated by outright mysogyny, but status quo bias is a very real phenomenon and affects almost anyone. Because there is only one job, and it has always been done by a man it makes psychological sense to pick someone similar out of 2 unknown entities. I am not in Kamala's fan club, but at least she doesn't seem to have a long trail of people behind her who hate her guts. Whereas everything Trump seems involved in (building a golf course in Aberdeen, his New York companies, his casinos, his first presidency) seems to have resulted in people that worked alongside him openly denouncing him. Whereas there aren't many people coming out of the woodwork to say Kamala is awful/incompetant/weak. Which maybe adds to the sense of her as an unknown entity ironically.

She's had a terrible reputation as a boss - worse staff turnover than even Trump IIRC.

And she's been the least popular VP too, so it's not quite like she's a totally unknown quantity.

To me it seems like the Dems screwed up royally trying to push Biden through, it completely backfired, and then when Harris was the only option they tried to create some buzz and excitement as if this was what people had chosen - but it fell flat within two weeks.

TempestTost · 30/10/2024 17:59

GillBeck · 30/10/2024 14:05

Many on the left throw ‘facist’ and ‘far right’ at anyone who doesn’t support uncontrolled immigration.

That does seem to be what is happening a lot of the time. Even if it's pretty moderate.

I think it's a dangerous thing to do.

Hoardasurass · 30/10/2024 18:42

@biscuitandcake I'm sorry but she's been vp to Biden for 4 years and as such she's not an unknown we can all see and judge her on her behaviour over that period and because she helped cover up his cognitive decline most people (whether pro or anti Harris) think she's the 1 behind all the decisions. This rightly or wrongly then leads anyone who has concerns about the way the Biden administration has acted around boarders, the economy or the trans takeover are now looking at her and thinking how much worse it will get with another 4 years of her. Now whilst only a few will likely think Trump is the solution (I question their sanity) the real worry is how many will hold their nose and vote Trump and how make just won't vote

TempestTost · 30/10/2024 20:12

Thinking about it - the tendency from a women's issues standpoint is to look at her and think, ah, a real female candidate for president, if it fails it says something about America.

I'm not sure that's really fair though. She didn't go through the normal processes a candidate would to get the party nomination. She's more representative of who the inner circle wanted, or thought they could put in place in time, rather than anything else.

So it just might not tell us much whether she does well or not.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/10/2024 20:13

XChrome · 30/10/2024 17:46

@Shortshriftandlethal said;

Meloni is not 'neo fascist' at all

https://foreignpolicy.com/2023/02/06/why-giorgia-meloni-wont-distance-herself-from-italys-fascist-past/

www.cbsnews.com/news/giorgia-meloni-italy-election-results-brothers-of-italy-far-right-wing-government/

you cannot dismiss her in such a way.

As far as I know stating my views on a politician does not violate the rules of MN, so yes, I can.

I suggest an element of tribal bigotry - which of course you are entitled to - but it does your cause no favours.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/10/2024 20:15

XChrome · 30/10/2024 17:52

@bundevac said;

why is it not misogyny to call female leaders fascists if they are right-wing?

Are you saying it's automatically misogyny to criticize any woman?
I think you need to revisit the definition of that word.
It's actually quite paternalistic to say female leaders should be exempt from criticism just because they are female.

Yet you seem very touchy when anyone says that Kamala Harris comes across as a bit of a lightweight - without much credibility.

biscuitandcake · 30/10/2024 20:42

TempestTost · 30/10/2024 20:12

Thinking about it - the tendency from a women's issues standpoint is to look at her and think, ah, a real female candidate for president, if it fails it says something about America.

I'm not sure that's really fair though. She didn't go through the normal processes a candidate would to get the party nomination. She's more representative of who the inner circle wanted, or thought they could put in place in time, rather than anything else.

So it just might not tell us much whether she does well or not.

I think that's true! But I also think that if she doesn't get in it will be taken that way unfortunately. And then any future female candidate for leader will be up against the curse.
I also don't think it will help that the person she is up against is Trump, not a competent politician who just happens to be (the better) man so it looks more like its her sex. But of course not everyone in the US sees him as a terrible choice anyway and to some he is the best man for the job.

biscuitandcake · 30/10/2024 20:43

Hoardasurass · 30/10/2024 18:42

@biscuitandcake I'm sorry but she's been vp to Biden for 4 years and as such she's not an unknown we can all see and judge her on her behaviour over that period and because she helped cover up his cognitive decline most people (whether pro or anti Harris) think she's the 1 behind all the decisions. This rightly or wrongly then leads anyone who has concerns about the way the Biden administration has acted around boarders, the economy or the trans takeover are now looking at her and thinking how much worse it will get with another 4 years of her. Now whilst only a few will likely think Trump is the solution (I question their sanity) the real worry is how many will hold their nose and vote Trump and how make just won't vote

Good point. Is it too wildly optimistic to say that Biden was a popular vice-president who was a not great president so maybe the opposite will be true in Kamala's case?

XChrome · 30/10/2024 20:46

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/10/2024 20:15

Yet you seem very touchy when anyone says that Kamala Harris comes across as a bit of a lightweight - without much credibility.

What makes you say that? I don't have high regard for Kamala Harris. All I did was ask specifically why she would be "useless" in a crisis. I don't know what Harris might be like as President, so naturally, if anyone has factual information which could help me figure it out, I would like to see it.
I know some people say she's a lightweight. I would just like to see some solid reasoning for it. If you have any, feel free.

XChrome · 30/10/2024 20:48

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/10/2024 20:13

I suggest an element of tribal bigotry - which of course you are entitled to - but it does your cause no favours.

I suggest you are making baseless accusations towards me as a person because you have no solid argument.

Abhannmor · 30/10/2024 22:45

biscuitandcake · 30/10/2024 20:43

Good point. Is it too wildly optimistic to say that Biden was a popular vice-president who was a not great president so maybe the opposite will be true in Kamala's case?

Biden has been a much better president than Obama in terms of bread and butter issues. $1 trillion Reconstruction Bill, low unemployment, booming stock market . His foreign policy is shite but that's a given with any POTUS. Harris is obviously saner and safer than Trump. OK that's not a high bar . It remains to be seen whether the American public is ready for another white knuckle ride. Or Civil War.

Shortshriftandlethal · 31/10/2024 09:16

XChrome · 30/10/2024 20:46

What makes you say that? I don't have high regard for Kamala Harris. All I did was ask specifically why she would be "useless" in a crisis. I don't know what Harris might be like as President, so naturally, if anyone has factual information which could help me figure it out, I would like to see it.
I know some people say she's a lightweight. I would just like to see some solid reasoning for it. If you have any, feel free.

It is the impression a lot of people get when watching or listening to her speeches or her responses to questions. She doesn't seem either in command of her brief, fluent, coherent, convincing etc What else does the public have to go on when trying to assess a candidate's character or personality?

Regarding Georgia Meloni - other than via third hand media pieces what is your evidence that she acts like/or is a fascist, especially in her dealings with other EU leaders since her election? In what ways has she conducted herself like a fascist?

Viviennemary · 31/10/2024 09:39

Shortshriftandlethal · 29/10/2024 09:27

It isn't just because of her sex; it is because of her character and the way she expresses and presents herself. Georgia Meloni, is a far stronger character and is taken seriously on the world stage.

She won't be taken seriously. Like Liz Truss wouldn't have been taken seriously overseas. But at least we didn't really get the chance to find out. Harris just isn't a strong enough personality. IMHO. But she isn't a complete idiot like Truss. Such an embarrassing woman. She did it for the Tories.

Shortshriftandlethal · 31/10/2024 10:06

Viviennemary · 31/10/2024 09:39

She won't be taken seriously. Like Liz Truss wouldn't have been taken seriously overseas. But at least we didn't really get the chance to find out. Harris just isn't a strong enough personality. IMHO. But she isn't a complete idiot like Truss. Such an embarrassing woman. She did it for the Tories.

I suspect autism in Liz Truss.....which might explain a little, though does not excuse.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 31/10/2024 11:51

Liz Truss was found out immediately not just her disastrous mini budget but complete inability at public speaking or fending off difficult questions from journalists.

GillBeck · 31/10/2024 12:02

YourAmplePlumPoster · 31/10/2024 11:51

Liz Truss was found out immediately not just her disastrous mini budget but complete inability at public speaking or fending off difficult questions from journalists.

Hardly ‘immediately’; she was an MP for 14 years, serving in government for most of that time including as Lord Chancellor and Foreign Secretary.

bundevac · 31/10/2024 12:09

XChrome · 30/10/2024 17:52

@bundevac said;

why is it not misogyny to call female leaders fascists if they are right-wing?

Are you saying it's automatically misogyny to criticize any woman?
I think you need to revisit the definition of that word.
It's actually quite paternalistic to say female leaders should be exempt from criticism just because they are female.

i'm saying that misogyny was and is an explanation for many politicians failures except if they are right wing.

XChrome · 01/11/2024 01:26

bundevac · 31/10/2024 12:09

i'm saying that misogyny was and is an explanation for many politicians failures except if they are right wing.

I'm not following you. Female politicians fail because of misogyny, except if they are right wing? What exactly does that mean?

TempestTost · 01/11/2024 09:17

Maybe she is saying that people will say Hilary Clinton failed due to misogyny, whereas a right wing woman would have failed due to being "bad".

So saying progressive commoentors are likely to claim anyone who doesn't vote for their candidate must be misogynist, racist, etc.

That seems pretty accurate tbh. That's exactly what happens. Which is why it may lead to some popcorn moments if Kemi wins the Tory leadership.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/11/2024 09:27

The main difference, I guess, between the Left and the Right, certainly when it comes to women...is that the Right tends to see matters in terms of individuals, whereas the Left tends to see things in terms of identity groups.

A successful leader of a right of centre party who is female is seen as being there coutesy of her individual qualities, whereas a female leader on the Left is supposed to be representative of women as a whole.

To criticise a Left wing woman is, therefore, to be sexist and misogynistic, whereas to criticise a right wing woman is to be commenting on her and her capabilities alone. She is not seen as representative of all women.

Kemi Badenoch, should she become leader of the Tories, will really throw a cat amongst the pigeons - both in terms of sex and in terms of race. Some have already referred to her as a 'coconut' because she doesn't conform to Left wing expectations of black people - who are supposed to all share the same kind of identity.

biscuitandcake · 01/11/2024 09:30

The main difference, I guess between the Left and the Right, certainly when it comes to women...is that the Right tends to see matters in terms of individuals, whereas the Left tends to see things in terms of identity groups.

I think that might be true in the UK. The US is a whole different ball game, its why its not helpful when people try to act like the 2 parties in each country are directly analogous.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/11/2024 09:37

Traditionally left wing parties have fought for the rights of minority or 'oppressed' groups - to have equal access to opportunities; yet when equal access is written or codified into law the Left tends still to see prejudice which has to be countered at every turn - which ends up meaning practices such as 'equity' whereby the oppressed groups, or their representatives, must be lifted up higher than others in order to counter the structural or systemic oppression.

This then results in candidates being chosen pretty much on the basis of their group identity alone...which, though, is not necessarily the best way to get the best candidate. The candidates can sometimes simply not be up to the job. They are representative tokens only.

So, the Democrats have now had a black man as president, now they need to have a black woman as president; then they'll need to have a gay man as president and a transwoman as Vice President, and so on.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/11/2024 09:38

biscuitandcake · 01/11/2024 09:30

The main difference, I guess between the Left and the Right, certainly when it comes to women...is that the Right tends to see matters in terms of individuals, whereas the Left tends to see things in terms of identity groups.

I think that might be true in the UK. The US is a whole different ball game, its why its not helpful when people try to act like the 2 parties in each country are directly analogous.

In what way would you say this doesn't apply in the U.S?

Viviennemary · 01/11/2024 09:40

Somebody summed it up quite well. With Trump you know what you are getting. With Kamala Harris you don't. She is all hot air. And nothing much to say except the usual woke stuff and running down her opponent. Doesn't seem to be working. I read Trump is heading for victory.

biscuitandcake · 01/11/2024 09:46

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/11/2024 09:38

In what way would you say this doesn't apply in the U.S?

The American right is definitely not afraid to play identity politics/sort people into groups! Ironically, they are much better at it than the left because Trump operates under slightly different rules (he can insult 2 groups and someone in group A that dislikes group B will assume he means it about group B but be reassured he is only joking when it comes to group A). Which is interesting in itself. But the messaging is really different.