Yes, I know the lyrics (seen stage production 5 times etc, seen the filmed version 4 times, near word perfect on the soundtrack, and am a tedious Hamilton nerd of 8 years standing. My poor neighbours!). But you brought his daughter into it, and that doesn’t make sense to me.
I was saying that he isn’t gaslighting us, which your post claimed. He’s making the hopeful and optimistic promises to newborn Philip (as Burr does to Theodosia) that every new parent makes, and he means them - as does Burr. Just as the Constitution makes bold and hopeful promises (linked in the lyric “you will come of age with our young nation”) and is full of contradictions (“so is independence”)
But as Act 2 shows, what starts as hope, optimism and bold intentions gets bogged down in power struggles, pettiness and human weakness.
That’s not gaslighting, that’s failing to live up to your aspirations. We’re all guilty of that I think.
He betrays Eliza twice - first by sleeping with Maria and paying off her husband, then by making it public. And she punishes him (rightly so) by completely withdrawing from him. It’s only their combined grief that reunites them.
Hamilton is a self-serving asshole when it comes to infidelity, but I don’t think he’s guilty of what your post suggested.
I also don’t think his eldest daughter is remotely relevant - he had seven children, two of them girls, and only the elder Philip is a character in the musical. (After Philip’s death they had another son and called him Philip as well) The rest of the family are all offstage because they have no bearing on the story.
I don’t think there’s any reason to believe he’s a poor father. Workaholic, sure, but comes down to see the piano recital (and Eliza’s hilarious beatboxing) and clearly loves him very much.
Philip goes to him for advice - hell, the duel is because Philip’s so outraged about the slurs on his father’s name.
Christ, I definitely pay too much attention to that show.
Anyway, in the face of 7 Brides et al, Hamilton barely registers for deeply messed up sexual politics.