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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

One third of domestic abuse victims are male

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NImumconfused · 26/09/2024 20:22

Domestic and sexual abuse strategy launched

Glad to see the launch of this strategy following some really harsh funding cuts in the sector in the last few years, including to the only charity providing counselling to children who have been sexually abused, but I was really surprised by this statistic. Is it reflected in the rest of the UK or is NI unusual in this regard?

A stock image of a man holding his head in his hands crouched down against a wall. The image is quite dark in colour.

Domestic and sexual abuse strategy launched

The strategy will not only focus on women, but men, children, LGBTQIA and other affected groups.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yw51jvydxo

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YellowAsteroid · 28/09/2024 15:14

Rachel Hewitt has written about domestic violence in her excellent Substack. You can read it here:

https://rachelhewitt.substack.com/p/how-to-we-raise-girls-to-believe

She makes the point of many PPs on this thread, that women are socialised to minimise the violence against us.

I can remember when I was mugged & beaten up in the street near my house (I was hit so hard in the face I had a bad nosebleed) that I said to friends' "Well, it wasn't as bad as it could have been. At least he didn't rape me."

How do we raise girls to believe the evidence of their senses?

Thanks for reading In Her Nature, by Rachel Hewitt!

https://rachelhewitt.substack.com/p/how-to-we-raise-girls-to-believe

StickItInTheFamilyAlbum · 28/09/2024 19:39

Yellow - Rachel Hewitt's piece is an excellent read. Thank you for sharing it with us.

My heart is a bit too sore to comment further right now but I wanted to acknowledge it.

quixote9 · 28/09/2024 20:42

Even accepting the statistic at face value, one giant difference is that a woman would have to really work at it to land a man in hospital. Quite a few men on the other hand could break a woman's neck with nothing more than a carelessly strong blow.

Statements like "1/3 of victims are male" have to be disaggregated by sex of the perp (eg sons, rather than female members of household) and severity of resulting injuries.

IwantToRetire · 29/09/2024 00:25

re. NI and domestic violence. This was recently published.

“When you know what they are capable of”: Paramilitary-related Gendered Coercive Control

Northern Ireland’s peace process has brought substantial gains. Political violence has dramatically reduced, and economic and social development has progressed. We can easily assume that this means that peace has been secured and is experienced by everyone.

However, paramilitarism remains, and not just as we might assume, as a residual hangover from the Troubles. The terrorist threat level for Northern Ireland is estimated to be ‘substantial’. The Independent Reporting Commission on paramilitarism identifies it as a significant ‘obstacle’ and the ‘unseen’ part of the work towards peace still to be achieved. The 2023 Peace Monitoring Report noted that paramilitaries today direct their violence towards their own communities.

Too often we also assume that violence takes a particular form – a physical incident, an event – something that erupts and then is over. But not all violence looks like that, including some of the violence wrought by paramilitary groups. It is the harm that we cannot see that is often the most insidious and impactful for those living with it.

Coercive control is increasingly recognised as a form of intimate partner violence. While it might include discrete acts or patterns of violence, it primarily involves the build-up of a chronic environment of fear, dependence and shame. Many of the harms of coercive control are imperceptible. It may simply involve a ‘loaded look’, or words of denigration, intimidation or even threat that, over time, become the coercive basis for control.

It is exactly this type of coercive harm that is experienced by some women in relationship with men who are involved in paramilitarism. It remains an ‘unseen’ aspect of today’s paramilitarism, hidden in plain sight.

Article continues at https://foylewomensaid.org/when-you-know-what-they-are-capable-of-paramilitary-related-gendered-coercive-control/

(its not saying that is the case on all instances of domestic violence, but just an additional factor - and presumably the same in other areas of conflict / paramilitaries.)

“When you know what they are capable of”: Paramilitary-related Gendered Coercive Control – Foyle Womens Aid offer Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence Support in Derry / Londonderry, Strabane, Limavady & Dungiven

https://foylewomensaid.org/when-you-know-what-they-are-capable-of-paramilitary-related-gendered-coercive-control

TempestTost · 29/09/2024 01:04

I don't know that it would shock me if this were true.

Based on my personal observations, while the really dangerous DV instances I've seen, in terms of level of violence, have all been male on female, I would not say women being physically violent seems to be all that rare. But often, it seems like it's not really recognized as DV, maybe even by the guys on the receiving end.

That's anecdotal obviously but women do have capacity for violence. I suspect if there was some kind of in depth studies of cases, we'd find that men and women who are violent in relationships may use that violence in different ways, but that's just a guess. Obviously it's not ok however it's used.

Windchimesandsong · 29/09/2024 11:45

One thing that is an issue very often never noted or discussed is that some women are violent and/or abusive to other women.

More common than many people think.

IwantToRetire · 03/10/2024 19:48

Just came across these figures:

Between April 2023 to March 2024:

  • the number of individuals supported in safe accommodation was 63,950 in 2023-24, an increase of 13,280 individuals or 26% compared to 2022-23; and an increase of 75% compared 2021-22 when 36,550 individuals were supported
  • of the 63,950 individuals supported 36,870 (58%) were women, 1,830 (3%) men, 320 (1%) trans adults and 24,940 (39%) children. This compares to 28,200 (56%) women, 1,130 (2%) men and 170 (0%) trans adults and 21,170 (42%) children supported in 2022-23
  • more than half (53%) of individuals supported within safe accommodation had at least one specialist characteristic (33,970 individuals) in 2023-24; the most common specialist characteristic was black and minoritised survivors (25% of individuals supported in safe accommodation) followed by mental health survivors (23% of individuals supported in safe accommodation) and disabled survivors (14% of individuals supported in safe accommodation)
  • the highest proportion of individuals were supported in refuge accommodation (31%), followed by sanctuary accommodation (31%)
  • the most common types of support received by victims in safe accommodation were general support (84% of individuals supported), this is followed by advocacy (55%) and prevention advice (53%)

continues at https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/support-in-domestic-abuse-safe-accommodation-2023-to-2024/support-in-domestic-abuse-safe-accommodation

Support in Domestic Abuse Safe Accommodation

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/support-in-domestic-abuse-safe-accommodation-2023-to-2024/support-in-domestic-abuse-safe-accommodation

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