Indian meal with new group turned into big argument about gender

[PotteringPondering]

Went for an Indian meal this evening with a group I've recently joined, to get to know new people.

One person started sounding off about how 'so-called feminism' is really a mask for hatred and bigotry against trans people. I kept quiet for as long as I could, but I couldn't hold back from challenging it. It turned into a big argument in the restaurant, with most of the group sitting in a stunned silence.

I know I'm not the first here to tell a story like this, and I won't be the last. But I'm back home in an empty house, feeling rather shaken by it all.

Where to begin with a man like that? I would definitely have backed you up, OP. I'm sick to death of people staying quiet over this sort of thing.

I don’t tell Jewish people what isn’t antisemitism and I don’t tell black people what isn’t racism, so maybe don’t tell a woman what isn’t feminism.

Well put, Bluescissors. I'm going to borrow that next time I get mansplained at. The bloody cheek!

@Ofcourseshecan its not the mic drop I think it should be but it helps if the mansplainer is the kind who likes to talk about lived experiences and micro aggressions. I haven’t found anything as useful when talking to a woman however.