It is lovely for BH if BH’s experience of being ‘transgender’ has been positive. What BH appears to be unaware of, is how BH’s insistence that everyone has to be nice to BH causes distress to those of us who value physical reality over internal feelings, those of us who are beginning to feel the cognitive effects of aging, and those of us (and here I exclude myself) who are women.
Of course, the effect of BH’s dogmatism on me is quite small, as I have never met BH. But those trans people I have met, and their allies, have a far greater impact. Those who are, or sadly were, very close to me, have had an enormous impact which they do not seem to recognise. I am far from alone in having the choice between deliberately and repeatedly lying to and about my nearest and dearest, or being rejected by them as a ‘bigot’. Hobson’s choice.
It is not a healthy relationship when one person demands that another person sees them as they see themselves. I wonder how many people affected by this new ideology are being coerced into behaviour which is not healthy.