The pressures on parents are difficult to handle well. Some parents assume that supporting their children requires affirming them, and once you have set off on the affirmation path it is particularly difficult to turn back. Others start off questioning, and have to face the distress and anger and scripted manipulation from their child.
Most parents start from a place of ignorance. I thought I was quite well informed, but the source of my information was Guardian articles so I was misled to some extent. In my case, I was desperate to understand better, so I started reading much more widely and discussing with anyone who had a viewpoint. I read books by transgender people, and found that they contained, in between some things I could agree with, complete nonsense backed up by pseudoscience. I discovered that Queer Theory eats away at norms without any discernment of the good reasons behind some norms. I found my way here, where there is actually pretty well-moderated discussion, and saw the truth of what many posters were pointing out.
I have started to speak out, sometimes anonymously online, sometimes by being open about our family situation with other family members and friends.
All this has left me close to estrangement from my son. It is a big price to pay, keeping my integrity as best I can, trying to work out what my loving duty to him means practically, knowing that being honest with him risks losing him.
Politicians are always vulnerable to accusations that they are mistreating their children, so they have that extra pressure on them. Have you noticed that parents’ perspectives are rarely heard? It is all part of the trans ‘most vulnerable’ narrative which has been so successful in silencing any dissent.