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breakfastdinnerandtea · 02/02/2024 11:58

The names were definitely widely known in the local area. My children attend one of the schools involved and knew who they were. They would have been named by next year anyway when they turned 18.

An absolutely senseless crime, a waste of three young lives with so much potential. RIP Brianna.

breakfastdinnerandtea · 02/02/2024 12:02

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 11:55

the Mail has done plenty of muck-raking, makes the girl offender seem really beyond the pale, e.g. it's supposedly come out that she:

(a) did a lot of the stabbing herself after the boy delivered the first few blows;
(b) only met brianna because they were both in an 'inclusion unit', the killer being there because she'd been kicked out of another school for, the article says, trying to poison another pupil; and
(c) in addition to kind-of confessing has claimed that she was close to Brianna and did the murder so that Brianna couldn't 'leave her'.

The "inclusion unit" makes it sound so much worse than it actually is. It's a small building with a handful of rooms where kids with additional needs go to do their lessons without any extra disruptions. The massive majority of kids that would be there aren't murderers, they just need extra support.
"Inclusion unit" makes it sound like solitary confinement.

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 12:03

breakfastdinnerandtea · 02/02/2024 11:58

The names were definitely widely known in the local area. My children attend one of the schools involved and knew who they were. They would have been named by next year anyway when they turned 18.

An absolutely senseless crime, a waste of three young lives with so much potential. RIP Brianna.

the names were all over social media months ago and so were some pictures, although i couldn't say for sure whether the latter were accurate - the ones of the boy, who's quite distinctive-looking, were, but i'm a lot less sure about the ones of the girl, who isn't at all distinctive looking & [judging by the mail piece] depressingly, whose appearance has seemingly changed a lot over the past couple of years on account of her age.

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 12:09

the business about their viewing snuff-type material online is depressing, i'm not totally sure how effective it is but i've got a fairly comprehensive filter on my home internet access & only allow my kids to install apps with my approval, e.g. i'd never allow them to install tor browser or anything like that... but my best guess would be that my 12 yr old son is max 18 months away from being capable of finding a workaround if he really wanted to.

DeanElderberry · 02/02/2024 12:11

I have wondered in the Ana Kriégel case, where again, obviously the people who went to school with the victim and her killers all know, but where there have been prosecutions of people who put the names online, whether that anonymity is in some way a punishment of the wider community.

People not directly affected as the family are, but still damaged by having something so frightening and bizarre disrupting their lives. My memory of school is that even a 'normal' death of a fellow pupil, from illness or accident, was pretty traumatic. Also that bullying or cruel or frightening children needed to be discussed to help us to understand and recognise what had happened. I do understand the roots of the current push for anonymity, but increasingly feel it's misplaced.

Beowulfa · 02/02/2024 12:26

Are the killers' siblings able to have normal school lives now? Naming just seems to have made an ugly situation even worse.

Rightsraptor · 02/02/2024 13:11

Quite right, @DeanElderberry and I sounded a bit - umm, snarky. Apologies.

It is a difficult area. Until I read a subsequent post, I hadn't thought about the effects of silence on the wider community and it making events difficult to process. The death of any child in school makes an impact: I still remember a boy knocked over by a car & killed when we were at primary school, over 60 years ago.

I think generally we have it right that anonymity is the default for children unless the judge thinks there are compelling reasons to release the names.

I can't begin to imagine what it's been like to all the families concerned. Brianna's bereaved family of course, and also how the murderers' families feel. I'm expecting that they totally deplore what their children did (because I would) - how do you carry on after such a horror? Most of us here would probably be thinking 'where did I go wrong? Why was it my child that did this/this happened to?'

HorribleNecktie · 02/02/2024 13:55

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 11:55

the Mail has done plenty of muck-raking, makes the girl offender seem really beyond the pale, e.g. it's supposedly come out that she:

(a) did a lot of the stabbing herself after the boy delivered the first few blows;
(b) only met brianna because they were both in an 'inclusion unit', the killer being there because she'd been kicked out of another school for, the article says, trying to poison another pupil; and
(c) in addition to kind-of confessing has claimed that she was close to Brianna and did the murder so that Brianna couldn't 'leave her'.

Regards point (c) I would take that with a huge pinch of salt. This was the stated motivation for both Jeffrey Dahmer and Dennis Nielsen, as SJ was obsessed with serial killers and an absolute bullshitter judging by accounts in the trial, I think this is another lie. She killed Brianna Ghey because BG was the easiest available victim.

EasternStandard · 02/02/2024 15:13

The judge is on Times radio

Really horrifying

RoyalCorgi · 02/02/2024 15:28

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 11:55

the Mail has done plenty of muck-raking, makes the girl offender seem really beyond the pale, e.g. it's supposedly come out that she:

(a) did a lot of the stabbing herself after the boy delivered the first few blows;
(b) only met brianna because they were both in an 'inclusion unit', the killer being there because she'd been kicked out of another school for, the article says, trying to poison another pupil; and
(c) in addition to kind-of confessing has claimed that she was close to Brianna and did the murder so that Brianna couldn't 'leave her'.

That was all in the Guardian too, so not a question of the Mail muckraking. Presumably the info came direct from the police.

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FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 15:48

I can’t get over the fact that the boy’s dad bought the knife used.

I accept that parents are often clueless about their teens internet activity (something we all need to be better at understanding and monitoring) but who the fuck buys a knife like that as a gift for a teenager? I’ve seen a picture of the knife on one of the news sites today and it’s a really horrible object.

When my boy was a teenager I had a lock fitted to a kitchen drawer so that sharp knives were inaccessible (due to self harm fears more than violence), obvs adolescents can get hold of knives without their parents knowledge but why make it easy for them? Why gift them a potential murder weapon?

Surely supplying a murder weapon is an offence too?

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 16:01

the judge has said he thinks that Brianna's trans identity was probably a secondary motive on the part of the boy (only).

nauticant · 02/02/2024 16:07

As I understand it that motive was ascribed to both murderers by the judge.

SaffronSpice · 02/02/2024 16:14

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 12:09

the business about their viewing snuff-type material online is depressing, i'm not totally sure how effective it is but i've got a fairly comprehensive filter on my home internet access & only allow my kids to install apps with my approval, e.g. i'd never allow them to install tor browser or anything like that... but my best guess would be that my 12 yr old son is max 18 months away from being capable of finding a workaround if he really wanted to.

There would be a very simple workaround I am sure he figured out years ago: friend’s houses.

PronounssheRa · 02/02/2024 16:19

The judge determined that the murder is of "high seriousness" and that both defendants played in a key part in killing. So didn't go on to consider the sadistic motive or transphobic comments. However reading this mornings coverage it did seem the judge wasn't minded to ascribe a transphobic motive to the girl but may have had to consider this for the male. The judge says of this: “I don’t think I have sufficient weight to make a sure finding that Scarlett was transphobic. Where I am interested with her is the link with Eddie.”

FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 16:24

SaffronSpice · 02/02/2024 16:14

There would be a very simple workaround I am sure he figured out years ago: friend’s houses.

You can’t download a new app without parental permission tho, regardless of whose WiFi the device is using.

SinnerBoy · 02/02/2024 16:32

Rightsraptor · Today 13:11

On harassment of the families, the mother of one of the killers has been asked to leave her job.

SaffronSpice · 02/02/2024 16:35

FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 16:24

You can’t download a new app without parental permission tho, regardless of whose WiFi the device is using.

But you can watch their device.

puffyisgood · 02/02/2024 16:36

yeah, with parental controls on he'd struggle to look at anything on his device on any network.

as for looking at dodgy material on another device, that's out of my hands, always will be.

FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 16:49

SaffronSpice · 02/02/2024 16:35

But you can watch their device.

That’s true, but that’s not really how extreme internet use seems to manifest, it’s more of a solitary activity (as it was in this case, where only the girl was using the dark web). Sharing links won’t work if the recipient cannot open them.

Plus teens are spending more and more time alone generally, they aren’t hanging out in each other’s houses much.

FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 16:51

SinnerBoy · 02/02/2024 16:32

Rightsraptor · Today 13:11

On harassment of the families, the mother of one of the killers has been asked to leave her job.

Is that the secondary school teacher? I can imagine it would be difficult for both employer and employee to continue working in a local secondary school…

FriendOfTimo · 02/02/2024 18:51

I doubt the perpetrators were avid Daily Mail readers.