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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
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Helleofabore · 06/02/2024 10:32

Bopk · 06/02/2024 09:10

DD has at least FIVE friends at school that are 'trans/non binary'

It's the 'Emo' of the early 2000s. All my friends and I felt different and we all became little goths/emos to rebel against our parents and they system. I truly believe it's the same thing.

What a shock for you! But you handled it in a way that was obviously needed and talked to your daughter. My teen was in a group about two years ago where out of the seven of them, five had declared trans identities. After about a year, my teen left the group because of the emotional toll of a group of friends with significant mental health issues. It was too hard when my teen had their own issues to deal with. The HOY was great for my teen. However, I have discovered since that it was her who changed the school records for two of the group. The school guidance came too late for some of my teen’s friends unfortunately.

It is great that your dd could discuss it and be honest with you about it.

nothingcomestonothing · 06/02/2024 12:47

She was then brought into the room and we talked about it. We talked about the fact that I am GC and the HOY kept saying to DD that she might be able to change my views around it all.

Angry Who the fuck do these people think they are. I'm so impressed you managed this, I doubt I could have handled it as well as you did.

Bopk · 06/02/2024 13:49

nothingcomestonothing · 06/02/2024 12:47

She was then brought into the room and we talked about it. We talked about the fact that I am GC and the HOY kept saying to DD that she might be able to change my views around it all.

Angry Who the fuck do these people think they are. I'm so impressed you managed this, I doubt I could have handled it as well as you did.

Yes. It immediately made me see red tbh

But I said in response 'but even if I don't that's OK because people have different opinions on things and just because we don't feel the same does not mean we can't have a good relationship. And you have to respect people's opinions and part of that respect is not trying to change them'

Or something along the lines of...

DerekFaker · 06/02/2024 16:06

Totally normal response from a TRA organisation here.

School Guidance out Tomorrow
Tabasco007 · 06/02/2024 16:12

Bopk · 06/02/2024 09:07

Yes, in the UK.

I was called into school for a meeting with HOY, without DD present and was told that for the last few months DD had been using male pronouns and a male name at school.

It was a difficult situation as I had heavy involvement with HOY due to DD previously disclosing trauma to her, so we've been through alot the last few years.

I was in shock and was also told at the same time that DD was self harming.

In a state of panic I agreed to use the smae name/pronouns at home to 'keep DD safe'

She was then brought into the room and we talked about it. We talked about the fact that I am GC and the HOY kept saying to DD that she might be able to change my views around it all.

I was in utter shock.

Once I got home and had a few days to take it in I talked to DD who said she didn't feel like she was a boy, she just hates her body and feels it would be easier if she was a boy and she prefers dressing in boys clothes rather than dresses (which she's always done)

I told her she can be a woman and be masculine, she has a lesbian aunt who is fully a woman and doesn't conform to feminine stereotypes.

I then wrote a letter to school withdrawing consent of them using male pronouns and that they are not to use any names other than her registered birth certificate name.

I referred them to the new government guidance about NOT changing kids pronouns.

And I also requested the removed the link they had in thir school website to Mermaids 🤢 Which they did.

Wow, and well done you! I hope you daughter is OK

Froodwithatowel · 06/02/2024 16:18

DerekFaker · 06/02/2024 16:06

Totally normal response from a TRA organisation here.

Bit of a misfire really.

They're thinking Execution Register.

I'm thinking a checkable list of whether or not my kid's teacher/guide leader does proper child safeguarding and puts children ahead of their politics would actually be quite useful.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 06/02/2024 17:26

‘HOY kept saying to DD that she might be able to change my views around…’ I would have gone spare at this.

HOY shouldn’t be let a million miles near kids. ‘Mummy doesn’t let you vape/have sex/dye your hair green? Aw diddums, she doesn’t understand you like I do…’

Bopk · 06/02/2024 22:33

HoneyButterPopcorn · 06/02/2024 17:26

‘HOY kept saying to DD that she might be able to change my views around…’ I would have gone spare at this.

HOY shouldn’t be let a million miles near kids. ‘Mummy doesn’t let you vape/have sex/dye your hair green? Aw diddums, she doesn’t understand you like I do…’

She actually agrees that alot of it is peer influenced and it's a 'pandemic' her words but in front of DD she is very affirming :(

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