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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

National Trust AGM

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PRAMtran · 04/09/2023 13:59

I’ve received an email from the National Trust inviting me and all other members to vote in their AGM. Does anyone know if there are any things a woman’s rights advocate should vote for or against. Eg TWAW by stealth.

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RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 10:54

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 10:47

I have seen it all. As I said, I don’t think it’s the best example, but it’s hardly worth getting hugely worked up about. There are many robust, well researched and worthwhile queer history initiatives and “queering” can be an enlightening analytical approach

'Queering' is a political strategy designed to radically transgress boundaries. It is most often not consensual.

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 10:56

'Queering' results in a medieval portrait of Mary Magdalene having a plaque beside it describing her as a 'sex worker'. A highly contested and provocative descriptor.

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 10:56

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 10:46

And what is your ideology?

I don't consider I have one, apart from being a feminist.

Of course you do. You may think your beliefs are “natural” or simply the product of your inner self, but like everyone else they will be heavily influenced by the discourses you are exposed to, hegemonic belief systems, power and so on and so on.

For instance, supporting democracy, capitalism and the NHS is an “ideological” stance, although you will have perhaps internalised these beliefs to the extent that you aren’t aware they are ideological stances.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 08/09/2023 10:57

FannyCann · 08/09/2023 09:38

Great post @RebelliousCow

At any time in history ( including now) great wealth and opulence is predicated on some form of exploitation of someone, somewhere. If you live in a society it is virtually impossible for someone to be separate from the running or workings of its economy. How many of us buy cheap or fashionable products made on the backs of bonded labourers somewhere in the world? How many of us work for big corporations which have vested interests in activities or products which now elicit social disapproval?

Exactly. And I'm going to do some shoehorning here, because whilst one can have an appreciation of the abuses of the past, the same people pushing this agenda are likely the same ones who think it's fine to go overseas to obtain a baby. Yes, my favourite topic : surrogacy.

We have a U.K. lawyer, Natalie Gamble advertising to offer help with surrogacy arrangements in Mexico and Colombia. Does anyone really think these Mexican and Colombian women just love breeding babies to gift to sad rich westerners who can't get a baby any other way?
If this isn't modern day colonialism, outsourcing birth to women who are kept in slave conditions I don't know what is. Yet the very people who are pushing popular current agendas down our throats at every turn, who probably wouldn't dream of eating a battery farmed egg, are likely to be the same people outsourcing pregnancy and childbirth to poor women in poor countries. BBC journalists who chatted happily about obtaining theirs from India for instance.

Cutting and pasting a section from an interview discussing delivery arrangements with a couple of Australians who used a woman from Georgia via a clinic in Greece. Possibly the same clinic that has been in the news recently for a range of crimes including people trafficking.

"Nick: She was quite adamant that she wanted a natural birth. And we preferred a natural birth too. Her main reason for it was that she hadn't told her mother back home. So she didn't want a C-section and have to explain the scars and everything. But we got told by the clinic in no uncertain terms that we would not be having a natural birth.
Why not?
Nick: They want full control. Most of the women give birth at the 37th week, from what we understand.
And she didn't know that was the clinic's policy when she got into it? She didn't know when she'd signed up?
Nick: That's a good question. Maybe she didn't. I don't know. Did we know?
Alex: We didn't.
Nick: Did we? I think they did mention it to us.
So what happened?
Nick: We got a call to say, 'It's happening today, come to the clinic.' And we thought C-section. Because, you know, we'd been told that. But as we're approaching the clinic, we meet both of the ladies that run the surrogacy program. And one of them says to us, 'You know, you're having a natural birth.' I didn't believe it. And she goes, 'No, no, she's been here since seven o'clock. She's very close to giving birth.'
Alex: We were very much an exception. We don't advertise it.
Nick: The doctor was happy for it to happen. She was low risk. She said she wanted it. The parents wanted it. So you know, they obliged.
Alex: She was very persistent.
.......

You are nearing the end of your second Greek surrogacy. This is not the same surrogate, though, right?
Nick: No, she is. She is the same person.
Oh, that's great!
So when is this third baby due? Are you going early this time too?
Nick: Well, we were told the delivery date. But what we weren't told is that that was the full term date.
Ah.
Nick: Every time we would speak to the surrogate mother, she would try to convince us that we should come earlier. But we know that the sooner we go, the sooner everything will happen. And the sooner she gets to go back home and the sooner she gets her post-birth payment. And we also know that the baby puts on most of its weight in the last two or three weeks of gestation, so it's better for the baby that it stays.
So we've resisted, you know. She'll tell us our baby's turned, getting in position, you should come and we're thinking, hang on, the clinic's not telling us that. The doctors aren't saying, 'You've got to get here quick.'
She is like, 'It's between you and the baby.' No, it's actually not. We'll just let God decide! Hopefully I don't have to eat my words.
So she might give birth a few weeks before the date you were given.
Nick: She might give birth tomorrow.
Oh!
Nick: We booked flights fairly early. To change those flights now would be quite costly.
What happens if she gives birth before you get there? Who looks after the baby?
Alex: The baby stays in the hospital.
Nick: Yeah, for three to five days anyway.
Will she do a natural birth again? Does she have the option again?
Nick: She wants to do natural birth again.
Alex: We haven't had that discussion with her this time.
Nick: I think she has mentioned it. Early on, she mentioned it.
You'd think the clinic would prefer it. She's done it already, it'll be quick, she'll recover within a day or two... Not like after a C-section.
Nick: I think they're more about mitigating risk and being able to control the timing of it. They're probably not generally concerned about her health or the baby's health entirely. So, you know, we will ask for it. If she's low risk again, there'd be no reasonable way they would deny us.
It got pretty tense last time, because there was friction between us and her and us and the clinic. And she kept hounding us, quite frankly, to insist on a natural birth. And we said, 'Listen, we want a natural birth, you want a natural birth, but unfortunately, it's whatever the doctor wants.' And I said, 'We want to return as well. So we don't want to sour the relationship.' But thankfully, they, yeah, they gave us the natural birth, so it was good for everyone.

If forced LSCS (which this surrogate mother managed to avoid by delivering early, quickly and naturally) isn't modern day slavery I don't know what is. So personally I am less interested in past crimes and more interested in the present day ones being committed by the current great and good and fashionable.

(Apologies for derail)

I don't have the words to explain how awful this is.

It's sickening.

FroodwithaKaren · 08/09/2023 11:00

'Queering' is a political strategy designed to radically transgress boundaries. It is most often not consensual.

^^ Yes.

It is the new form of snobbery, classism, religious zealotry and colonialism.

It operates from a position of superiority, assumes a right by righteousness and being better to destroy and do unto others for their good while framing those others as lesser, inferior kinds of humans they are entitled to control for their own betterment and do not have to care about the consent, feelings, voice or needs of. It aims to sweep away the world and replace it with a better one framed as this superior breed deem it.

It is infact DARVO on crack, as it's everything social justice bores rant on about, but do themselves with enthusiasm like a bunch of upper class Victorian Eton twats on crack sorting out a backward country and converting the native animals into their own image approximating civilisation.

It involves quite exceptional lack of social and emotional skills, respect for others, or capacity for empathy, and often also involves quite fantastic levels of naivety and ignorance mixed with an ego you couldn't get into Wembley stadium without folding it up a bit.

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 11:00

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 10:56

Of course you do. You may think your beliefs are “natural” or simply the product of your inner self, but like everyone else they will be heavily influenced by the discourses you are exposed to, hegemonic belief systems, power and so on and so on.

For instance, supporting democracy, capitalism and the NHS is an “ideological” stance, although you will have perhaps internalised these beliefs to the extent that you aren’t aware they are ideological stances.

Yes, this is all rudimentary A-level Sociology discourse; but as a result of the growing imposition of authoritarian wokeism - in its many forms - particularly Queer Theory in the guise of Gender Identity Theory - many here have seriously questioned many previous assumptions and loyalties they clung to, and let go of many tribal loyalties.

Of course, we all operate within broader frameworks associated with our time in history and our culture - but 'wokeism' is a wilful imposition intent on radical re-structuring - that feels directly lifted from another culture ( American culture)

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 11:02

For instance, supporting democracy, capitalism and the NHS is an “ideological” stance, although you will have perhaps internalised these beliefs to the extent that you aren’t aware they are ideological stances.

They're not "ideologies" in the same way as "queer theory" is. I don't "support capitalism" any further than living in a capitalist society. I'm open to any alternatives which improve on the NHS model.

I acknowledged feminism was an ideology.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 11:04

Queer theory is a top down ideology, not shared by most people.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 11:05

FroodwithaKaren · 08/09/2023 11:00

'Queering' is a political strategy designed to radically transgress boundaries. It is most often not consensual.

^^ Yes.

It is the new form of snobbery, classism, religious zealotry and colonialism.

It operates from a position of superiority, assumes a right by righteousness and being better to destroy and do unto others for their good while framing those others as lesser, inferior kinds of humans they are entitled to control for their own betterment and do not have to care about the consent, feelings, voice or needs of. It aims to sweep away the world and replace it with a better one framed as this superior breed deem it.

It is infact DARVO on crack, as it's everything social justice bores rant on about, but do themselves with enthusiasm like a bunch of upper class Victorian Eton twats on crack sorting out a backward country and converting the native animals into their own image approximating civilisation.

It involves quite exceptional lack of social and emotional skills, respect for others, or capacity for empathy, and often also involves quite fantastic levels of naivety and ignorance mixed with an ego you couldn't get into Wembley stadium without folding it up a bit.

All this 👏

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 11:05

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 11:00

Yes, this is all rudimentary A-level Sociology discourse; but as a result of the growing imposition of authoritarian wokeism - in its many forms - particularly Queer Theory in the guise of Gender Identity Theory - many here have seriously questioned many previous assumptions and loyalties they clung to, and let go of many tribal loyalties.

Of course, we all operate within broader frameworks associated with our time in history and our culture - but 'wokeism' is a wilful imposition intent on radical re-structuring - that feels directly lifted from another culture ( American culture)

If it’s “rudimentary” then many posters here need to get themselves back to school, no?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 11:07

No thanks. Not at any school you and your friends are teaching at.

FroodwithaKaren · 08/09/2023 11:08

It aims to sweep away the world and replace it with a better one framed as this superior breed deem it.

I would add that this is the post modern psuedo intellectual academic end of the market though.

Quite a lot of the 'queering things' followers of this political movement are people with personality disorders and behaviour disorders who have no real political interests or desires and just like smashing things, exhibitionism, having no boundaries, having a lot of power over others, and enjoying other people's distress, harm and exclusion. Like the ones currently investing vast amounts of time and energy into preventing a rape survivor from accessing any support or even being able to meet with other women in her own time in a group she has organised. And the ones who just hug themselves with glee when women can't use a toilet or a changing room, or when women get raped in prisons by a serial severe convicted sex criminal and rapist who has a wig and pink leggings on.

Clymene · 08/09/2023 11:10

@GodessOfThunder
If Gender, sexuality, queer, race, power and so on aren’t new analytical categories. they are standard stuff for university students and at my DC’s school,
then how can this:
In my extensive professional experience in this field I would say “most people” are not aware of the sources of wealth that some NT homes were built with also be true?

Most NT visitors are middle class. The vast majority of middle class people are educated. They know about the sources of wealth.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/09/2023 11:11

The snobbery about the women on this thread is hilarious. Plenty of more thoughtful, intelligent posts have been made on this thread than yours, @GodessOfThunder

I think everyone who believes in gender identity ideology should probably learn to think more critically. So I guess we're all going back to school.

fearfuloffluff · 08/09/2023 11:15

Don't vote for the likes of the Reform Trust candidates unless you would also vote for whatever the UKIP successor party is called. They're the same people.

I don't see how anything about trans rights comes into it.

I love going to NT places that discuss the links to where the wealth came from. Not only slavery, but local industry and the tensions within that, overseas trade, patronage from royalty etc. It's usually the most interesting thing and puts the whole property in a different light.

I disagree that middle class typical NT types know about this stuff - each place has its own unique story, you should be able to learn about that story by going to the place and seeing the information presented there.

DatumTarum · 08/09/2023 11:21

Clymene · 08/09/2023 11:10

@GodessOfThunder
If Gender, sexuality, queer, race, power and so on aren’t new analytical categories. they are standard stuff for university students and at my DC’s school,
then how can this:
In my extensive professional experience in this field I would say “most people” are not aware of the sources of wealth that some NT homes were built with also be true?

Most NT visitors are middle class. The vast majority of middle class people are educated. They know about the sources of wealth.

Are you arguing for no historical interpretation, because the middle classes know it all already?

maltravers · 08/09/2023 11:22

We used to just have Marge, Merlin and Maddy berating us for wrongthink. GOT seems to have taken on the baton here. Prepare to be educated (at length and repeatedly) ladies…

BurnToastAgain · 08/09/2023 11:24

Sausagenbacon · 08/09/2023 06:47

In response to GoddessofThunders articulate post, it's just a shame for the NT that they depend so heavily on old, probably uneducated (in goddess' terms) volunteers, and that most of the visitors just want a good time, without being lectured.
I know I've said it before, but it's just like the Anglican church, populated by people who are the despair of the people who run the organisation.
Both organisations are well aware of how carefully they have to tread, which must be very frustrating for them.

As an old, uneducated woman please can you advise me how you became so educated yourself? Did I perhaps go to the wrong university back in the day when one had to have good grades to be accepted?

I’m also a church warden in a C of E church. Now you’ve explained just how useless and unwanted I am, despite giving many hours to my unpaid job each week, can you advise me who will replace me? Obviously they’ll be young, diverse and chant all the trendy, nonsensical mantras, but where will I find them? I’ll need to hand over the keys so it would be extremely useful if you could point me in their direction because they’ve not made themselves known to me yet. Thanks in anticipation 😆

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 11:25

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 11:05

If it’s “rudimentary” then many posters here need to get themselves back to school, no?

Sociology was the main part of my degree, and I have subsequently taught it at A-level. What I'm saying is that you are assuming that people have no awareness of how ideology and hegemony operates; of how historical narratives are arrived at.

But most people here do. Narratives evolve and grow to include many different factors. The issue here is the forceful and radical imposition of a certain mono- narrative to the exclusion of many others. Furthermore - the intention is not 'truth' so much as imposition.

As already suggested many times, as a country Britain has long taught about its involvement in the atlantic slave trade - it is nothing new. There are museums dedicated to it. It is not new or radical information - but the way it is being imposed is.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 08/09/2023 11:27

Interesting facts from the voting booklet

around 8% of the population are members (5.37m people)

trust income last year was £682m, £276m from membership

BurnToastAgain · 08/09/2023 11:28

maltravers · 08/09/2023 11:22

We used to just have Marge, Merlin and Maddy berating us for wrongthink. GOT seems to have taken on the baton here. Prepare to be educated (at length and repeatedly) ladies…

I’ve already set aside my remaining years in order to be lectured by the ideologues du jour. I hope I don’t accidentally turn off my (admittedly non existent hearing aid) and forget to bring along my (very real) reading glasses 🤓

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 11:38

Clymene · 08/09/2023 11:10

@GodessOfThunder
If Gender, sexuality, queer, race, power and so on aren’t new analytical categories. they are standard stuff for university students and at my DC’s school,
then how can this:
In my extensive professional experience in this field I would say “most people” are not aware of the sources of wealth that some NT homes were built with also be true?

Most NT visitors are middle class. The vast majority of middle class people are educated. They know about the sources of wealth.

Really? Because: a) Not everyone has a history degree and b) Not everyone has had the same topics included in their school education.

There are levels of historical knowledge. Yes, the majority of the population may be aware some rich people made their money through slavery, plantation ownership and colonial connections in the 17-19th c. But, few will likely be aware of the specific source of wealth that led a specific family to build a specific NT property, whether it was from, say, being a director of the East India Company, the North American fur trade, being a plantation owner etc (often alongside other economic activity).

I find it bizarre their wealth wouldn’t be discussed, after all that is what facilitated the existence of the property. What exactly is your objection to a caption saying, for instance, “X Hall was built between 1800 and 1805 by Lord Y. His family had made their fortune investing in Cornish tin mining, ships engaged in the transatlantic slave trade, the East India Company, where he was a director, and through local land holdings.”

What Is “shoehorned”? Why would the guidebook be better without this information? Why do you object to it? Why, perhaps do you feel threatened in some way by this information?

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 11:41

My city has a history which revolves around being a major port city. Port cities tend to be cities on the edge. They are open to influence and diversity, and act as a kind of thresholds. The city has a population with many diverse origins. The oldest chinese community in Europe; the largest Roman catholic population in England on account of its large Irish immigrant population; one of Britain's first Somali communities, and many other communities too.

On one road there is a Greek Orthodox Church; a Jewish synagogue; a Welsh methodist church - and a few hundred yards away a Scandinavian church, a little further Britain's first mosque. The city has Britain's oldest Black community. this community was not the result of slavery, but of sea farers arriving here from around the world and inter-marrying with local populations - hence a large population of mixed heritage/race people.

Generations of men worked on the docks in chronically insecure, dangerous and low paid work - many more escaping off to sea as merchant seamen -and consequently suffering many losses during during the Second World War. The city was the most bombed outside of London.

People really resent the whole of the city's history being turned into a single narrative about the impacts of the Atlantic Slave trade, as terrible and consequential as it was in its own right. There is a dedicated museum to tell of that story - but there are many other stories of exploitation and suffering too; as well as much to celebrate.

Sausagenbacon · 08/09/2023 11:44

You mistake me Burnttoast, I probably expressed myself badly. I believe that there is a group within the nt that believe in 're-education ' for people that don't agree with then. As evidenced here.
And , as a fellow (ex) church warden, I think that there are factions in the c of e church that believe the same.

GodessOfThunder · 08/09/2023 11:46

RebelliousCow · 08/09/2023 11:25

Sociology was the main part of my degree, and I have subsequently taught it at A-level. What I'm saying is that you are assuming that people have no awareness of how ideology and hegemony operates; of how historical narratives are arrived at.

But most people here do. Narratives evolve and grow to include many different factors. The issue here is the forceful and radical imposition of a certain mono- narrative to the exclusion of many others. Furthermore - the intention is not 'truth' so much as imposition.

As already suggested many times, as a country Britain has long taught about its involvement in the atlantic slave trade - it is nothing new. There are museums dedicated to it. It is not new or radical information - but the way it is being imposed is.

How is this information being “imposed” on you? A few lines on an information board? A passage in a guidebook?

I make the same response to
you as above:

I find it bizarre their wealth wouldn’t be discussed, after all that is what facilitated the existence of the property. What exactly is your objection to a caption saying, for instance, “X Hall was built between 1800 and 1805 by Lord Y. His family had made their fortune investing in Cornish tin mining, ships engaged in the transatlantic slave trade, the East India Company, where he was a director, and through local land holdings.”

What Is “shoehorned”? Why would the guidebook be better without this information? Why do you object to it? Why, perhaps do you feel threatened in some way by this information?

Also, if you visit an NT property from the 18th and 19th c you will see a lot chinoiserie and objects with colonial connections in the decor. You can’t really understand these properties properly without understanding the global connectedness and tastes of their owners. It’s not just a peripheral factoid.

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