Some people in society have become so enamored/blinded by gender identity and queer theory that they are no longer fit to be in positions of responsibility with regards young children.
They can no longer be trusted to actually put the welfare of the child above all else.
Their response about it not being a problem because the children didn't know what bondage gear was. 4 year olds don't tend to know what sexual assault is either but you wouldn't want some forty year old bloke fiddling with the kids after lunch whilst you brushed it off with oh don't worry the kids just think it's tickling.