It was when one husband said "he's not coming back" as if the original person was somebody else. And the discussion of Jungian shadows.
I don't want to intrude on the widows.
Decades ago there was the phenomenon of multiple personalities, usually, but not always, of the same gender as the patient, and usually attributed to childhood trauma creating a safe place to protect the real person. Could this be occurring with transwomen? And thus it being a MH issue?
It has been around much earlier than that, too, if "possession" is also the same phenomenon. Not that I'm suggesting exorcism as a solution. But it might make people wonder about the harmful effects on those around the victims, instead of expecting the wives to celebrate the toxic effects on them.