With the "erasing trans identities" stuff, it's all rather cowardly imo.
You don't see religious people try to get out of debate by saying, "you're denying my identity as having been born again!".
But for some reason, trans activists want to make a big deal out of someone disagreeing with their belief system. They need to explain why it's wrong to disagree with someone's self-concept of themselves, or they should be heavily mocked for this nonsense.