I was about to say roughly this but you've put it beautifully.
Joan has been talking about these issues for a looong time. I just re-read her book "Past Imperfect" and it's incredible how little progress we've actually made.
Love her quip years ago, when asked if she was concerned about the age gap between herself and her much younger husband- "Oh well. If he dies, he dies".
I think she ripped that off someone else but who cares, she delivered it so well😂