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Women are only as safe as their male partner allows them to be

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inkjet · 08/02/2023 22:57

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/02/08/women-safe-male-partner-allows-head-girls-school-body-says-emma/

A statement related to Emma Pattison from the chief executive of the Girls Day School Trust (a group of independent girls schools).

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watchfulwishes · 10/02/2023 09:34

LuluBlakey1 · 09/02/2023 12:09

I agree to an extent-but when it gets to physical aggression of any kind for the furst time that is surely a turning point and a woman should leave and never go back. We can not choose to expose our children to this but that is what happens. Men should not behave like this but women MUST walk away with their children (if they have them). Yes, it's hard to do but there is no excuse for not doing it- no child should live with these men; the damage they suffer is lifelong.

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Such a blinkered perspective.
Easy to judge from a position of such simplicity.

Hard to make your kids homeless and live in abject poverty after just one slap. Easy to say it.

Maybe listen to women with experience of the situation.

Thesharkradar · 10/02/2023 18:41

Hard to make your kids homeless and live in abject poverty after just one slap. Easy to say it
This^
If she could easily leave and be financially comfortable with without him, he'd not be abusive, they start, -the predatory instincts kick in- when they are in a position of power. It's not until she is trapped that he starts getting the urge to exploit the situation, he wants to increase the feeling of power and domination, he cant get that feeling if she can easily up and leave and have a comfortable life without him.

SweetSakura · 10/02/2023 18:44

watchfulwishes · 10/02/2023 09:34

Such a blinkered perspective.
Easy to judge from a position of such simplicity.

Hard to make your kids homeless and live in abject poverty after just one slap. Easy to say it.

Maybe listen to women with experience of the situation.

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Plus the reality is that in leaving, most abusers still get unsupervised contact with their children, even when there is compelling evidence (medical, police reports) of abuse. So in escaping you are often leaving your children more exposed to abuse. It's an awful dilemma.

WandaWomblesaurus · 10/02/2023 21:31

MintJulia · 09/02/2023 01:52

It was a chilling quote. However, no woman in the UK needs to live with a man. Many many women live quite happily on their own or with their children and never have to feel a minute of fear. Co-habitation isn't obligatory.

I live with my child, I choose not to live with a partner. It's sad that I am happier this way, but having watched various women's lives made a misery by their partners, it seems the better choice.

Raising my ds to be a kind and decent person is much more important. We must focus on the next generation.

Some of us don't feel safe unless we do live with a man. The amount of stalking I've received has gone down since my partner is visibly living at my house.

Thesharkradar · 10/02/2023 21:40

WandaWomblesaurus · 10/02/2023 21:31

Some of us don't feel safe unless we do live with a man. The amount of stalking I've received has gone down since my partner is visibly living at my house.

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that's the reason I keep mine, scares off all the others, I dont actually live with him but I make sure people know he exists, if you're going to retain a man it needs to be a big muscular hands like shovels one, he has to look capable but never actually lose his temper or get into fights etc

GCAcademic · 11/02/2023 09:56

Thesharkradar · 10/02/2023 21:40

that's the reason I keep mine, scares off all the others, I dont actually live with him but I make sure people know he exists, if you're going to retain a man it needs to be a big muscular hands like shovels one, he has to look capable but never actually lose his temper or get into fights etc

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Surely a big dog (German Shepherd, Rottweiler, or similar) would have the same effect, and be more pleasant to live with (better house-trained, make less mess, not talk, etc.)?

HPFA · 11/02/2023 10:03

Women, it's dangerous to be too successful. Think of the poor men!

twitter.com/emmavj/status/1624194092354752514

Thesharkradar · 11/02/2023 12:11

GCAcademic · 11/02/2023 09:56

Surely a big dog (German Shepherd, Rottweiler, or similar) would have the same effect, and be more pleasant to live with (better house-trained, make less mess, not talk, etc.)?

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1-I do not live with my partner, this is a key factor in the success of our relationship
2-I cannot abide dogs, a dog that's powerful enough to defend me would feel like too much of a threat, I'm very confident than my partner will never attack me I cannot say the same about a dog.
A dog is far too much hard work for no benefit at all, I hate the fecking stinking festering rancid things and all of the stupid besotted owners, another benefit of my partner is that he's very good with dogs and when I'm with him I'm not scared of them.

Thesharkradar · 11/02/2023 12:31

In my view men can be a useful and beneficial part of your life provided that you keep them on a tight leash, it's important to never let them have the upper hand, you must never ever surrender yourself to a man.
If you are in a situation where you're trapped and vulnerable this will tend to trigger the predatory instincts and they become very problematic.
Obviously I'm saying all of this in hindsight, there was no way for me to see or appreciate these things when I was younger.

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