In this context, know what I resent the most? I resent the fact that I'm becoming what they say I am. I was always on the left, I considered myself progressive. I've championed LGB rights; I am B myself. Bisexual, and I have my own initial in the alphabet soup, yet nothing on earth would nowadays persuade me to wear a rainbow lanyard.
Women who think like me are now being called bigots, on the wrong side of history, affiliated with the alt right and extreme republican Christianity - the people now trying to strip women of their own bodily autonomy and rights to abortion: the very abhorrent misogynistic stand I've spent my entire adult life fighting against. It makes me want to scream. How the fuck have they managed to DARVO us quite this effectively?
My ob gyn was a man. He'd seen me through IVF, I knew him and trusted him implicitly. He did a stretch and sweep. He was an excellent doctor. And I've been a victim of SA, so wasn't always sure how I would feel about this (I wouldn't want a man performing a pap test, for instance).
So - I don't mind, in cases where there's a professional, trusting relationship, being treated, even intimately, by a man. Would I shy or cringe from being treated by a trans woman? Yes, I would. And that's precisely because the kind of men who are insinuating themselves into women's intimate care on the proviso that they're female 'just like us', coupled with the reams of terrible stories about middle-aged transitioners motivated by fetishism and paraphilia, makes me feel 'unsafe'.
I'm not succumbing to the ridiculous arguments of the TRA lobby that GC women are stigmatizing an entire group and claiming all trans women are fetishists. But any idiot knows that predatory men WILL take advantage; that they are determined, very inventive when it comes to gaining access to their victims, and will go to incredible lengths to do so. In the meantime, they're getting their cocks out in women's lavs and filming themselves proclaiming 'you can't stop us, so rah).
Now, I'm the bigot. The right laugh, saying the left are eating themselves, but this isn't any 'left' I've ever experienced in my lifetime. They've done a serious fucking number on us. And yes, I'm really fucking bitter.