Sorry, I'm ages late replying as the internet went down (!), but I hope it's ok. I'm just going to post what I meant to reply last night, then I'll go catch up properly!
I’m not sure that’s ever really been true. Men don’t ever really tend to pass as women, which is something that seems to be a fantasy of the current gender ideology.
Of course they do. This is a very recent idea, that natal sex is something immediately obvious to everyone and that most of us can correctly perceive it at a glance. It's just nonsense (and I say this having a partner who is entirely boringly female and regularly gets taken for a man at a glance). Simply put, we see what we expect. If you live in a culture where it's unthinkable for men to wear dresses, if you see a figure in a dress, you will think 'woman' long before you process anything much else.
That said, I don't think we're entirely disagreeing about the way violent men respond to other men who are in some way 'stepping out of line'.
I don't quite follow what you say about 'how "gender identity" understands that idea'. I certainly agree 'identity' as a modern construct isn't terribly useful here.
When you say you reckon men just cross dressed for fun, and women for profit - yes, but how do you know? When I posted earlier saying I thought this was a bit simplistic, I tried to explain why - if that didn't make sense, that's totally fine, but maybe let me know which bit isn't convincing you, and I can try again?
I think the 'trapped in the wrong body' idea has largely died a death everywhere - in trans circles as well as lesbian/gay ones. My best understanding (not trans so not sure) is that it should be understood as a shorthand or a metaphor - but it was then taken very literally for a while, which of course suited the pink brain/blue brain traditionalists very well.
I guess what keeps fascinating me is the unknowability of all of this. How did people think about it?! Yes, sure, we can cop out and say 'ah, the men were just playing a game cross-dressing,' and that wouldn't ruffle any feathers. But surely games are quite telling? When there are fashions for dressing up as a trad wife (like now!), or when courtiers of James I got themselves up in blackface to perform masques, those are both trivial, ludic, fashionable choices, and also things that are revealing about deeper interests and anxieties in society.