The angry intolerance of this political position towards females is what is increasingly forcing people to a choice one way or the other.
Exactly this. I don’t want to support trans people or female people. I think trans women’s existence as gender non-conforming males is a validation of feminism’s analysis of gender as a social construct, and feminism’s analysis of gender as a social construct is a validation of trans women’s existence as and right to be accepted as gender non-conforming males.
We should be talking together, cross referencing our experiences of our different social positions, male and female, trans gender, gender critical and even gender conforming (“cis”), and through that triangulating what a better, less sexist and gender constricted society looks like for all of us.
That is what should be happening.
But as long as genderism, in painting that dialogue as an act of hate and preventing it happening, persists in forcing me to make it one or the other, trans women or female people, I am going to choose female people every time.