I remember that massacre and those women. I was a student at the time and studying feminism. I remember watching the news report on the TV and having a premonition from a few early clues that this would be an act of gynecide. As well as being angry and upset - and also scared (in case of copy-cat crimes and particularly since I was studying something obviously feminist) it also chilled me to the bone in the sense that it was an early realisation of how much some men hate us and how vulnerable we are. It also stunned me that the obviously woman-hating nature of the event wasn't given much attention in the mainstream press. I remember crying with anger and sadness and not sleeping the night after the story broke.
I am incandescent with rage at a memorial of this being appropriated and the fact that this was not just terrorism - it was gynecide - being not only swept under the rug but openly and overtly whitewashed.
How dare they. How dare they minimise what happened to those women because they were women - biological females who dared to enter into a realm that some men think is theirs. How dare they hardly mention that this was perpetrated by a man and was (and is) part of a continuum of men's violence against women that has existed for millennia and which exists, in different forms, cross-culturally?
How dare they appropriate our oppression, minimise it and make it all about them?
How dare they then twist it to suggest that the bloody massacre of these women by a man is actually about elements of women's status and privilege by suggesting that 'only women' are talked about and we need to mention other minority groups because apparently they are marginalised by not being mentioned? How about the answer being that because despite the hype there have not been any mass massacres of 'two-spirit people' or trans/NB people?
Can women not have our own space and mention even when we have been massacred in an act of gynephobic hate?
Imagine if women waltzed into BLM and said 'but what about the Montreal Massacre - women's lives matter too' (not that we would).
I have words for the individual who was not born female who spoke at this event and for the authors of those articles that minimised this act of gross hatred and violence against women but they'd get me banned so I won't say them.
I do hope that women are giving this air and sunlight on social media though because it is an excellent illustration of the inherent and prevalent misogyny in the camp of some of those who seem hell-bent on silencing and shaming women for daring to speak our name.