So says a lesbian friend of 18 years: a woman who's attended the excellent parties we've held, spent many hours at our table, leaned on us for support when she was having a hard time, holidayed with us and generally had quite a lot of fun in our presence.
Apparently all we and the LGBA ever talk about are dull negative terfy things. We're full of hate and we're just a bunch of embittered old white women. She's joined a couple of 'fun' lesbian groups which promote weekends and activities and include an increasing number of transwomen as word goes round about how trans-friendly they are.
'You just don't understand,' she says. 'They've really suffered, these transwomen. They've been trapped in the wrong body for years. They have a lot of trauma and mental health issues. We need to be kind and support them, not constantly negative.' The transwomen she's pictured with on these weekends are in their 40s and 50s: late transitioners.
Apparently the LGB Alliance is just for old white women who talk about hate in interviews with the press. She says that they give lesbians a bad name and that everyone assumes that all lesbians are spouting vitriol and hatred — and she's not going to do that, she's going to be kind and see the good and positive in transpeople.
So that's another one off my Christmas card list.