What would you do if your 13 year old daughter was diagnosed with gonnorrhea?

[Appalonia]

Just wondered how mothers on here would feel about this...?

Take her to rape crisis?

I would wonder who had been abusing her.

Why are you asking this?

Go to the police obviously
Why do you ask?

Police/rape crisis. Why? I hope everything is OK

What?? I'd be wondering who had been sexually abusing my daughter and making it top priority to ensure she was safe

I would phone the police and find a female rape councilor obviously.
What would you do?

Honestly? I would feel sick to my stomach. Probably take her to Sexual health clinic and get some advice about signposting next

Talk to her. Someone's exploiting/raping her (at least I hope it's only one man) and you need to know who. And you need to comfort and reassure her. How did you find out?

:( I’d be speaking to rape crisis and then the police.

why do you ask ?

I would talk to her and support her in whatever way was needed. I'd listen to her. I'd protect her in whatever way i could.

Do you mean in the UK?

I'm asking because this happened to me. It was the late 70s which was a different time and it was just shoved under the carpet and I'm still dealing with it now and I wondered how mothers would deal with it now.

I don't know what's triggered this pain right now but I'm still so upset that it wasn't taken seriously. Guess safeguarding wasn't a thing in the 70s.

Get the STI treated. Talk to her. Support her in any and every way I can. Report to police.

And all the while feel utterly shit that this had been happening and I hadn't realised.

So sorry this happened to you OP. It’s despicable that this went unchallenged. I hope you have no long lasting health complaints secondary to the infection.

I am so sorry x

I'm sorry that happened to you :(

Op, I’m so sorry. Your parents let you down. Do you have anyone you can talk to in real life?

Sorry x-post - I'm so sorry Appalonia.

I think, honestly that you can't completely blame it on the 70s. Yes the general attitudes of the time stunk, but there were plenty of 'good' parents around as well as the lax ones. Your parents failed you.

You needed and deserved to be protected. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry, OP. You were failed by the people who should have protected you, and prosecuted the people who abused you.

Should this thread be moved or were you specifically looking for the opinions of mothers here?

OP, you were badly failed.
Yes safeguarding wasn't as known about then but really obvious issues like this should have been dealt with.

I'm so sorry that happened to you OP. My heart breaks for you. You were horrendously let down by people who should have protected you.

I don't know why I feel so upset about it today. I've never been able to conceive and I don't know if this is the reason why. I had a miscarriage when I was 21. But also, it's thinking about how patents seem to care so much about their children these days and how I couldn't tell me mum what had happened as I know I would have been blamed for it. I felt utterly alone and that's stayed with me my whole life.