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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Labour have committed to single sex spaces

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flumpetto · 22/09/2021 14:00

Excluding trans

This is a step in the right direction at long last....

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/keir-starmer-trans-women-labour-b1924832.html

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NiceGerbil · 26/09/2021 02:47

I mean in film etc they are super discriminatory about appearance.

Right age sex height hair eye colour body shape. Right level of good looking. Women famously usually find little work after 30 35 whatever it is.

But something as obvious as race? Nah johannson in a black wig will do just fine!

NiceGerbil · 26/09/2021 03:02

This is a massive derail though isn't it!

Hollywood will do whatever they think will give them most box office.

The end.

ButterflyHatched · 26/09/2021 03:31

@RedDogsBeg

Butterfly has used intersex, a term those with DSDs have asked not to be used along with asking TRAs like Butterfly to stop dragging them into this debate as some kind of 'gotcha'. Butterfly, same as all TRAs ignores and dismisses this request and disrespects them.

We've had 'Prosecco Stormfront' and the racist connotations of that.

We've had the comparison of feminists to Nazis.

We've had the homophobia of rewriting history and transing homosexuals.

We are now on the receiving end of people who are GNC being transed.

A veritable feast of misogyny, homophobia and racism and all because women on here have the temerity to say 'No'.

You are right CreepingDeath:

It's so familiar - the smug, arrogant, patronising telling us what to think and how to feel. The male entitlement is showing big time. I'm not sure why people keep engaging with this person, it's obvious they have their own agenda.

I am done with this poster, I've judged them on the content of their character and found them not to my taste.

I'm really sorry to hear this!

I had a range of lovely conversations with an intersex woman on my ward when I had my GRS, several of them about navigating single-sex spaces and the shared experiences and difficulties we'd encountered. She referred to herself as intersex and was more than happy talking about it; in fact, she used herself as an example in conversation for why there was no reason to exclude trans people from single-sex services.

I'm also in regular communication with other intersex people, some of whom are also trans. All of whom regularly take part in discussions of this nature.

You're using a tiny slice of the diverse opinions of a wide category of people - many of whom are not only more than happy to use their perspective, but who actively contribute to discussion on the subject - as if they are monolithic, and then using the preference of some of them not to be involved in these discussions as a bulldozer to silence discussion because they are inconvenient to your argument - despite the fact that any meaningful solution to the matter of same-sex provisions has to consider them anyway.

It's the same logic as the 'we can always tell' short-circuit and the refusal to engage with the complexities of the existence of trans men; just ignore the bits you disagree with, or presuppose a conclusion and then disregard the contrary evidence. A few posters actually acknowledged these points for a while - you being one of them - and we had some genuinely positive and useful discussion, so I'm disappointed to see you fall back on trying to shut down discussion about these awkward and complex edge cases.

If your argument for the enforcement of same-sex provision is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world's population who patently defy it, then it's a flawed argument and evidences that we still need to work toward something that is better suited to the purpose for which it is intended.

I'm not saying this in some kind of attempt to 'own the GC's' or shout down the legitimate concerns of women for whom being in the presence of individuals they percieve to be male is impossible; I'm saying it because the wider discussion on the internet doesn't take the complex perspectives of people like myself into account and from what I've been able to determine from extensive searching, nobody or at least vanishingly few of the 750ish of us in the same situation as me has ever tried to actually engage with GC spaces like this before.

I'm trying to add a lone voice representing a small but complex demographic of people for whom 'birth sex' would seem to be an inappropriate criteria for exclusion in at least some interpretations of gc feminism, to a largely gc feminist space. Because I am sympathetic to the concerns of people who post on mumsnet and want to find a way forward.

I'm now being accused of being a ?racist? - in an utterly bizarre leap of logic - because I mentioned the 'P-S' meme (which I was, if you recall, refuting in reference to widespread concerns about GC reactionary radicalisation, and then later referenced when calling out a poor taste comment about nazis which didn't exactly help combat this). I'm also being accused of being a homophobe for mentioning the institution that invented the term 'transsexual' while defending myself for calling out said nazi joke. I can only conclude that you've realised that your primary argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny as we appear to have fully descended into ad hominem attacks, non sequitur logic and flouncing now.

I've continued to engage with many people on here who I've found not to my taste, some of whom have been extremely rude, because I feel this discussion is worthwhile, but I'm certainly not going to ask you to if you don't want to.

I've enjoyed our robust discussions and found your insights positive and useful. I'm really sorry that you've decided you are 'done' with me. Thanks for the discussion so far.

NiceGerbil · 26/09/2021 03:47

Strangely given that women up until very recently were very very likely to be kind, and turn a blind eye to people we clocked as male but were wearing clothes sold for women and make up etc.

I'm surprised that there was all this trouble before.

So it's trans women, non binary females, lesbians with a masculine style, people with DSDs and gender non conforming female people who were under constant risk of challenge/ abuse/ chucked out then?

Blimey.

I'm nearly 50 and have had s pretty lively life in terms of going to loads of different places. And I have never seen this ever.

Interesting.

NiceGerbil · 26/09/2021 03:49

Sorry butterfly I may be confused.

I thought you had experimental surgery when you were very young. A child. Have I got you mixed up with someone else? Apologies if so.

OldCrone · 26/09/2021 03:49

widespread concerns about GC reactionary radicalisation

Can you explain what you mean by this? What do you perceive as 'reactionary' about the wish to protect vulnerable women and children?

NiceGerbil · 26/09/2021 04:03

My final thing I want to say and I hope you read it before you go.

Is that I've noticed this is all about you.

You pass so what's the problem
You believe women don't notice
You have had full surgery
You did that years ago before all of the recent stuff
Why can't you come in
Why would you exclude me
Etc.

Thing is and this may be where there's been some difficulty.

Is that this is not about you. We don't know who you are.

This is not about individuals.

It's about the whole thing.

To be trans and use single sex spaces there is-
No requirement for surgery (how would anyone know anyway).
No requirement for a GRC
No requirement to dress in a certain way
All that is needed is the statement I am trans

Nothing more.

So the expectation is that if a person who looks male, sounds male, has a beard, is built like a brick shithouse and 6'5, and is going bald in the male pattern way.

Then no one must do anything. Giving any hint that you might be ??? is deeply hurtful. Saying anything eg um this is the ladies is transphobic and (as has been stated all over the place) could be a hate crime.

There must be no reaction.

The good news is that IF they commit a crime- an assault or sex offence- only after that we can report it.

Which is nice but. Pretty much pointless.

So it's not about YOU. It's about all the people who fall under the flag trans.

That is what the problem is.

What you look like etc is irrelevant.

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 26/09/2021 04:04

It is sometimes assumed that there is a correlation between gender dysphoria and having any one of the multiple medical conditions once referred to as intersex. Note that this umbrella term is being phased out as lay people incorrectly infer that people with such a condition are between the sexes, and envisage hermaphroditic slugs, which is very othering. Preferred terms now tend to be DSD (Disorder or Difference of Sexual Development) or CCSD (Congenital Condition of Sexual Development).

However, so far, there seems to be no correlation between them and gender dysphoria.

I quote:

Initially the approach with [gender dysphoria] was similar to that for disorder of sex development, with a karyotype being routinely requested. An audit of UK clinics from 2013 to2015(Table 1)revealed no differences from cytogenetic surveys of the UK newborn population and elsewhere.10 11Therefore, routine karyotyping of a child or adolescent with GD is not required unless any specific clinical features determine this to be necessary.

adc.bmj.com/content/103/7/631

If you follow the link, you will see that they found the rate of CCSDs for patients being assessed for gender dysphoria was the same as the rate for the wider populations.

Further to this, the viewpoint of one woman in a hospital ward over a decade ago cannot stand for the viewpoint of all other women, on that day, or since. No matter what medical conditions she had or was seeking medical treatment for.

Let us make this blunt. If Sarah has sex with Mark, this does not mean she can consent on my behalf for me to have sex with Mark. I say NO to sex with Mark. Simple enough, yes?

If Sarah and I share a flat, she cannot invite Mark to move in to our shared flat without my consent. Because she cannot consent on my behalf.

Nor can she declare who should enter single-sex toilets, changing rooms, hospital wards, prisons, and who should be able to apply for a job performing personal care for my grandmother on my behalf. Nor can she consent on the behalf of the entire female population!

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 26/09/2021 04:22

This here is a blog on how the gender identity debate is impacting people with DSDs/CCSDs from someone with one, and how children with medical conditions are treated with insensitivity : differently-normal.com/2020/06/10/example-post-3/

And this is a statement from 2000 in response to GIRES and Press for Change trying to muscle in on a support group run by volunteers, to benefit people with a specific medical condition. It's... educational.

A Position Statement Concerning GIRES (Bernard Reed) by the Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome Support Group UK (AISSG UK):

Introduction

The Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome Support Group (AISSG) is a peer information/support organisation established in the UK in 1988 (formalised in 1993) and which achieved UK charitable status in early 1999. We are completely autonomous but are affiliated to the Genetic Interest Group (GIG) and Contact a Family.

We have around 120 subscriber members (and many more contacts) in the UK (mostly adults but many families too) affected by intersex conditions such as AIS, XY gonadal dysgenesis (Swyer's syndrome) and 5 alpha reductase deficiency; with some XX female members who have Mayer Rokitansky Kuster Hauser (MRKH syndrome, Mullerian dysgenesis/aplasia, vaginal atresia etc.

We have representatives in USA, Canada, Australia, Germany, S. Africa and Spain. Our website at www.aissg.org has received much praise, from people with AIS who come across it after years in the wilderness (having not been told about their condition) and from medical specialists in the intersex field.

Summary

After extensive email correspondence with Bernard Reed of GIRES during mid March to early April 2000, we decided not to work with GIRES at the present time. Overall, we wish to disassociate ourselves from GIRES and to state that they do not represent us.

We have already established mutually beneficial relationships with several groups of clinicians and are working with them on AIS-related research projects and the provision of multi-disciplinary patient care. We collaborate on joint projects with other related support organisations (e.g. the UK Turner Syndrome Society, the Anorchidism Support Group) via a consortium set up by the Genetic Interest Group. Within this consortium (set up in 1999) we have recently published a leaflet for clinicians to give to parents on receipt of a 'genetic diagnosis' and have obtained a grant from the Baring Foundation to enable one of the clinical psychologists with whom we work to carry out counselling skills training for the three groups' helpline volunteers. We also work very closely on an informal basis with the UK's Adrenal Hyperplasia Network (AHN) and Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia (CAH) Group.

We do not foresee that an association with GIRES would follow the same spirit as those above, so do not wish to join forces with Reed. We believe that Reed's desire to change the medical management of intersex, although reasonable in itself, is based firmly on the discourse of gender dysphoria (transsexualism/transgender, often referred to as 'trans') and moreover masks an underlying attempt to exploit physical/biological intersex so as to provide an authenticity to that scenario, an authentication that it doesn't need.

The historical perspective is as follows:

GIRES Approaches AISSG in 1999

Reed emailed us in July 1999 introducing a UK organisation called the Gender Identity Research and Education Society (GIRES) of which he is chairperson and wanting us to enter into a working relationship with his organisation. We read the hardcopy information that he sent and were put off by several things, but mainly by the fact that:

a) GIRES's heritage seemed to be as a trans, rather than an intersex organisation.

a) Reed seemed to be making a case for trans to be considered as a biological intersex condition. We felt we did not have enough scientific information to know whether this was valid.

While generally agreeing with GIRES's wish to change the medical management of intersex (including childhood 'corrective' surgery), we weren't sure about their claims that transsexualism was "an intersex disorder of the brain" and that the term 'transsexualism' should be abolished and it should be considered as an intersex condition. They also seemed keen on lobbying government to allow birth certificate changes for post-operative transsexuals (not an area of great concern to us, although some of our members would like to have a category of 'I' for 'sex' on official forms/documents in general). It all seemed rather political and we as a group are wary of taking political stances. We did not communicate with Reed further, other than to thank him for his information.

Approached Again March 2000

In March 2000, the person who runs our helpline received a phone call from Reed and, having forgotten about our reservations about GIRES, agreed that he could attend an AISSG group meeting a week or so later.

We emailed him to ask why he wanted to attend and it seemed from his response that he wanted a) to see what happens at our meetings, b) to do a presentation, with slides, on GIRES, and c) to discuss possible joint ventures. We explained that our agenda was already fixed (and full), that our support meetings were not the forum for all this anyway, and asked him not to attend (but suggested we might meet on another occasion). At that time he also urged us somewhat insistently to collaborate with him a) to influence what was to be covered in a TV documentary that the BBC wanted to make for the Horizon series, and b) to form a joint policy, along with the UK's Adrenal Hyperplasia Network (AHN), on what we would all present at a British Association of Paediatric Urology meeting in Sept 2000, to which all three organisations had been separately invited by the association (we accepted our 'invitation to speak' in October 1999). He was also excitedly recommending organisations like the Intersex Society of N. America (ISNA) to us, as if wanting to act as a catalyst between us, and possibly not realizing we'd already been in touch for some years.

The Dialogue Starts

We started asking questions about GIRES's policies and aims, about the nature of its membership and its credentials as a mouthpiece for intersex people. There followed a number of emails from Reed giving information about GIRES and asking for our comments on some GIRES guidelines for the medical management of intersex and on a draft synopsis of the issues that GIRES thought the BBC programme should cover.

Throughout his emails, and in his guidelines/synopsis, Reed would employ the phrase "gender identity and intersex conditions" as a means, it seemed to us, of slipping gender dysphoria into the picture without explicitly saying so. While many of the points in GIRES's management guidelines made sense at first sight in terms of intersex, we were wary of this "Trojan horse" approach to including trans within these recommendations because whatever aetiological considerations might link these, in terms of medical treatment there is a world of difference between purely gender issues and the issues faced by intersex children. We did not comment on the content of the guidelines/synopsis.

We noted several other things during the exchange:

a) Reed wrote that "We don't ask our members what conditions they have" and "I am confident that the majority of our members have no condition at all and nor does any member of their families. I estimate that only 7% of the charity's income is derived from those with a condition or the parents of such persons." It seemed strange for someone representing an organisation so underweight on the intersex side of things to be throwing so much weight around in that sphere.

b) names of well-known researchers and clinical experts seemed to appear 'overnight' against the various topics on further drafts of his 'BBC synopsis'. At least one of them (a consultant gynaecologist in the team at the UCL/Middlesex Hospital, London, who are our main collaborators on research/clinical aspects of AIS) had no idea she was itemised in this way and was quite annoyed; so we surmised that others possibly hadn't been consulted either.

The BBC Approaches Us

Meanwhile, Heike Rebholz at the BBC had already contacted us by email wanting to talk about how we might take part in the Horizon programme. Our understanding was that the idea for the programme came out of recent publicity about the "John/Joan" (or "Money vs Diamond") case, so it was to cover the issue of childhood genital surgeries.

An intermediary (an AISSG member with media experience) reported back that Heike was looking at the issue of 'corrective' surgery in Britain. And that she wanted to know whether the group had any members with 'partial' form of AIS (PAIS) who'd had surgery for a large clitoris/micropenis and now wished they hadn't, or someone who felt the surgery took too much away and left them with loss of sensation. And whether there was a spokesperson from the group who could say what the group's feeling was regarding surgery for so-called ambiguous genitalia - whether it should be left until puberty etc.

Our Response to BBC

We reported back to Heike, via our intermediary, that we didn't know how many of the 30 or so Partial AIS (PAIS) women/children on our list had undergone clitoral reduction surgery, but we knew of some adult PAIS women who definitely had not, and who are quite happy with that state of affairs. We had no contacts who had complained to us about this type of surgery. We had one recent overseas parent contact whose newborn was more or lessgivensurgery without the parents having much say in the matter. The mother had subsequently discovered our group, read "negative things" about such surgery in our newsletter (ALIAS), and become very depressed and angry. We explained to Heike that the overwhelming majority of our contacts (several 100) had Complete AIS (CAIS) for whom clitoral size/surgery is a non-issue anyway.

We told Heike that on ethical, social, philosophical grounds we were against any surgery without fully-informed consent (which meant no cosmetic surgery of this nature on infants/children) and that society should overcome its fear of non-standard genitals rather than forcing infants/children to conform to some 'standard' that is patently contrary to that which Nature actuallyprovides, and that we also saw such surgery as yet another tactic (in tandem with secrecy regarding diagnostic information) in trying to cover up the very existence of intersex.

But we had to tell her that we didn't have the direct experience or voice from our members to qualify us to participate; and that we were more concerned with issues of truth disclosure, lack of emotional support, childhood gonadectomy without informed consent, osteoporosis, poor treatments for vaginal hypoplasia, lack of availabilty of carrier testing etc., issues that would presumably dilute the programme away from the topic of 'corrective' genital surgery.

We Decline GIRES's Call to Collaborate

We also sent the above information to Reed and added that we were uncomfortable with GIRES's blurring of biological intersex with gender dysphoria. We were unhappy about the possibility of a programme that set out to consider the specific question of childhood surgery being turned into one which addressed the wider issues of "gender identity" as represented, partly at least, by gender dysphoria (i.e. a group of people who were never likely to have had genital surgery forced on them in infancy/childhood). We felt that in the same way that we didn't have enough direct experience of the question of childhood surgery, we also didn't have knowledge of any scientific evidence that transgender/transsexualism was a physical/biological intersex condition. We felt that the potential inclusion of trans issues in the BBC documentary carried a risk of confusing the general public even more, the question of childhood surgery being complex enough on its own. We told Reed that we were unable to co-operate with him further on these issues.

The BBC not Swayed by GIRES

We expressed our concerns to the BBC about GIRES muscling in on the planning of the programme in a rather assertive manner. Heike replied, saying she was concerned about this too, and informing us that her agenda was still very much open and that she still wanted to talk with us.

AISSG Withdraws

However, by that time we were so exhausted by the whole thing that we backed off completely. The day-to-day operations of our group are run by only three people, all of whom have busy full-time occupations and who thus have to devote most of their spare time to support group work. In the end we just got fed up with being constantly pressurized by Reed, and found dealing with GIRES an unnecessary distraction when we had many other tasks to address at same time. We decided we were content with the progress our group was making, we were quite capable of speaking up for ourselves, and were building good relationships with clinicians and with other patient support groups, and thereby significantly influencing research and patient care in a more collaborative and less radical manner.

PFC Approaches Us

On 9 May 2000 we received an email from Andrea Brown of "....Press for Change in the United Kingdom which set up the organisation known as the Gender Identity Research and Education Society (GIRES) approximately two years ago..." asking for our opinion of Reed's activities; and this is what has prompted this statement. We'd like to thank those members of PFC who have showed concern over this matter and given us an opportunity to make our position clear.

Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome Support Group (AISSG) UK
www.aissg.org

A number of other patient support groups issued similar statements around this time.

Seeabovefor GIRES's response.

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merrymouse · 26/09/2021 06:44

If your argument for the enforcement of same-sex provision is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world's population who patently defy it, then it's a flawed argument and evidences that we still need to work toward something that is better suited to the purpose for which it is intended.

It’s very obvious that most spaces are unisex and when they are single sex that is for a specific reason. We understand that some people do not wish to use sex segregated services which is why we advocate for additional unisex provision when sex segregated services are necessary.

What’s not clear is why you can’t acknowledge the people who would be excluded from society without provision of sex segregated services.

If you genuinely believe that sex segregated services should make a distinction between trans women who have surgically transitioned and men who would claim if challenged that they always feel a bit more feminine on Tuesdays, you would be better off spending time lobbying Stonewall. However nobody on this board has any obligation to draw their boundaries in the same place.

FlyingOink · 26/09/2021 06:58

If your argument for the enforcement of same-sex provision is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world's population who patently defy it

I don't get this. The use of the word enforcement. Who defies what? The portion of the world's population who defy enforcement, or defy single-sex provision, or who defy sex, or who defy the argument? Eh..?

Defying in this context sounds more aggressive than brave and stunning. What is this trying to say? "If your argument doesn't include people who think the opposite to you, it's flawed"?

This thread has taught me an awful lot, though. Thanks to all the other posters.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 26/09/2021 07:08

If your argument for the enforcement of same-sex provision is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world's population who patently defy it

And yet, your argument is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world’s population… males.
Males commit nearly all sexual crimes.
Males commit most violent crimes.
Over 40% of trans women in prison are there for sexual crimes as opposed to 19% of the general male population.
Males are the significant risk regardless of how they identify.
Listen to women when we say “no”.

Wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 26/09/2021 07:39

At 51% of the population women are a not insignificant group.

And we say no.

Xenia · 26/09/2021 07:49

I obviously feel sorry for the vast variety of trans people but the person above one of 750 in his or her case is tiny. Even if you take every trans person and add in every cross dresser they are de minimis compared with half the 67m of the UK being female.

You go for the greater good - as Bentham always said. Here many many many more women are damaged by people with a pe nis in their private spaces than excluding those people even if only 1% are a threat or make women uncomfortable. Yet agin and again trans people want to silence or tramp all over women which is why for the 34m women of the UK it feels like same old same old - in effect men trying to silence us. Mumsnet is one of the few places where we are allowed to write about this and even here there are special trans rules because men are so upset that we are allowed to say how we feel here and they cannot control and censor us and say we must be mad to say XYZ.

Helleofabore · 26/09/2021 07:53

If your argument for the enforcement of same-sex provision is unable to account for the existence of a not insignificant portion of the world's population who patently defy it

Taking this as an opportunity to pick this up as I asked it way back in this thread.

You have again brought up 750 people, (which I would point out are an ‘insignificant’ portion of the UK population). Are you then indirectly answering my question from up thread where I asked if you were advocating for a two tiered rights process? One for ‘750’ people and one for the 250K + other male trans people (using current estimates of there being 500K trans people in the UK)?

Is this what you are advocating?

And you then believe this 750 males should be able to directly exclude the truly ‘not insignificant’ portion of the female population who require female only spaces to remain female?

For 750 people? Rather incredulous that you feel 750 people can be separated out and elevated to receive special rights.

And what about the other males with a GRC (5000 issued appropriately/ 2 = 2500. 2500 - 750 = 1,750 . Using a 50:50 sex spit). So those 1,750 don’t count?

Interesting to see how you sell that to the approximately 250K male trans people. You have completely failed to convince me.

However, the female people in my life, female posters on MN, others speaking at public events, and those who publish their stories who vastly outnumber ‘750’, who tell me they require single sex spaces to remain as only female, have convinced me. And that is not even including those women with religious needs that cannot be met accommodating males.

Jaysmith71 · 26/09/2021 07:56

Thank you CharlieParley for that research, which seems to have survived the Nazi's best efforts to destroy it.

Sidetracking, Americans have a different idea about casting. They do not have the British theatrical tradition and look to cast people who can portray a persona rooted in their own personality. Here, we have Larry Olivier who said, "Sincerity, dear boy. If you can fake that, you can play anything.'

(Though sadly not the Mahdi in Khartoum which is just embarrassing, Larry.)

African-Americans are starting to object to black British actors coming over there and taking their jobs. As for the suggestion that only gay actors can play gay parts, does this work in reverse? Poor Johnny Guilgid if it did.

merrymouse · 26/09/2021 08:03

At 51% of the population women are a not insignificant group.

Not quite 51%

We know that some women are happy to use unisex facilities, as has been noted on this thread. We just also know that a very significant proportion of women (a majority?) need single sex services.

Helleofabore · 26/09/2021 08:03

I can only conclude that you've realised that your primary argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny

Considering RedDog and other posters have also pointed out your continued descent into sneering, passive agressive, of not just straight up aggressive language, you know… if could actually be that.

Your arguments simply don’t stack up. It is also abundantly clear that you continue to disregard the needs of female transitioners and that has been pointed out to you numerous times across different threads. It is a pattern we have seen before from male transitioned posters. It is not new.

Even ones who attempt to convince us that they have only ever been socialized as a girl and then a woman, which I have yet to see in evidence at all.

Artichokeleaves · 26/09/2021 08:09

from what I've been able to determine from extensive searching, nobody or at least vanishingly few of the 750ish of us in the same situation as me has ever tried to actually engage with GC spaces like this before.

In fact a number of TW, some of whom prefer to define themselves as TS, have 'actually engaged with GC spaces' - or in more simpler and less othering terms that suggest less that we're a bunch of peculiars, come here and joined in with discussion. Debbie Hayton has posted here many times and still does on occasion and is happy to do so with their well known name and with connections to the articles they write. There have been TW MNetters for years, one very long term MNetter still drops in occasionally, and there is in fact another and newer TW MNetter who currently posts regularly and participates in many discussions, presenting very much the same views you do. I'm not naming them as I wouldn't any MNetter to have their posts searched and examined, as it's for them to identify themselves to you if they want to.

I'm trying to add a lone voice representing a small but complex demographic of people for whom 'birth sex' would seem to be an inappropriate criteria for exclusion in at least some interpretations of gc feminism, to a largely gc feminist space.

You're arguing that women abandon their right to single sex spaces out of prioritising the needs of male born people who certainly yes have vulnerabilities and additional needs, but whose needs can be met in other ways without enforcing a take over of women's resources against their consent. The solution is a third space.

The compromise of 'just a few' and 'only the ones who are really vulnerable with medical backing' has been tried. It's ended with the plain fact that if it's yes to you, or to the most vulnerable of male born people, its yes to Karen White, Yaniv, Danielle 'suck my lady dick', Ms Ivy 'die in a grease fire' while lesbians 'learn to cope with piv sex' and stop 'selfishly prioritising their organisms' and the individuals with swords and machetes who like to photo themselves looming as if attacking a woman on Twitter, informing women what they can expect if they displease them by .... well. Having boundaries or believing their consent matters.

Because I am sympathetic to the concerns of people who post on mumsnet and want to find a way forward.

No, you're not really. Your aim is to talk women into prioritising your needs.

Artichokeleaves · 26/09/2021 08:18

Sorry was interrupted there. To complete that thought:

It is a mistake to think that I am a female-centric because I just haven't yet had it sufficiently explained to me.

The way forward that works for females is mixed space AND retained female only services and resources. Nothing else is possible. Women have compromised and compromised and compromised some more in the name of this agenda.

Now we have women who have been sexually assaulted, harassed and have to live daily with serious convicted male offenders locked up with them (no separations in the building allowed because the male offenders find it too upsetting for them)

Women refusing to leave life threatening relationships and unable to escape because the refuges prioritise the needs of their male users (largely because the funding and the politics supports males and openly derides females)

Women like a local woman here now unable to access toilets in public spaces because the council made them all mixed sex and now men have the freedom of all the loos and she has none at all due to her faith and culture that was previously a focus for inclusion in the UK (yay for equality and diversity)

Schoolgirls refusing to drink all day to avoid having to use the new shiny and so much better mixed sex loos.....

And so we go on.

Women have compromised to the point we're being called bloody 'bodies with vaginas' as if something on a slab with the only relevant feature mentioned being the point of access to a male for use.

The compromising now falls to the trans community to do, and to demonstrate that their transactivism is able to treat others as it likes to be treated.

PickAChew · 26/09/2021 08:24

Butterfly did you really just read about those horrendous hypothermia experiments and take away that trans people were treated hideously?

That empathy and compassion I mentioned previously - you have to be pretty self absorbed to read about such barbaric acts on prisoners and make it about yourself.

merrymouse · 26/09/2021 08:29

The compromise of 'just a few' and 'only the ones who are really vulnerable with medical backing' has been tried. It's ended with the plain fact that if it's yes to you, or to the most vulnerable of male born people, its yes to Karen White, Yaniv, Danielle 'suck my lady dick', Ms Ivy 'die in a grease fire' while lesbians 'learn to cope with piv sex' and stop 'selfishly prioritising their organisms' and the individuals with swords and machetes who like to photo themselves looming as if attacking a woman on Twitter, informing women what they can expect if they displease them by .... well. Having boundaries or believing their consent matters.

Whatever anyone on MN thinks, all the lobbying groups that are currently influencing government policy insist on ‘acceptance without exception’ and reject any kind of gatekeeping.

Again Butterfly if you think they are misrepresenting your concerns, address the people concerned, not the feminist board on MN.

Helleofabore · 26/09/2021 08:33

I'm trying to add a lone voice representing a small but complex demographic of people for whom 'birth sex' would seem to be an inappropriate criteria for exclusion in at least some interpretations of gc feminism, to a largely gc feminist space. Because I am sympathetic to the concerns of people who post on mumsnet and want to find a way forward.

You must not have actually read MN threads before starting to post them (or simply believed those others on the Internet where you picked up the derogatory term Prosecco Stormfront). Either way, there has long been regular trans posters here and some agree with maintaining single sex spaces, some don’t. Some others agree males should never be included in female sport, and some don’t. Some other agree that some should have ‘passing’ rights as you seem to (please feel free to correct me) and some don’t. But they are here, stranglely none have come forward to threads you are on. So you are not a ‘lone’ voice.

I assume the ’small but complex demographic of people’ you refer to are those you call intersex. So you are using them as a means to get agreement for what you want. It has been pointed out that this demographic actually reliably able to tell us what their sex is using modern techniques.

It is your logic that is flawed.

Your use of language actually gives away your intention. We keep pointing it out. If you truthfully wanted to find a way forward, you would not have arrived on MN declaring that it was a hostile place to start with. And you have continued in that vein ever since.

Including using thought terminating (and sometimes false) either/or, all or nothing tactics.

Women have been consistent in stating their boundaries, telling you what actions harm them and why. You simply cannot state that posters on here lack consistency in their arguments. And find yours lacking in any foundation outside your personal anecdotal evidence.

You have yet to even come up with any solution other than ‘continue as before because I have never harmed anyone with my presence before’. So, if you have other suggestions then please bring them to the discussion.

Trying to force team smaller minority groups to make your solution fit doesn’t work on MN. We do have posters who have DSDs who share their needs and experiences with us. They don’t use tactics such as force teaming. They simply post and discuss, and usually without the constant prejudiced judgement you have shown.

So, let’s have those alternative solutions. Otherwise you are simply continuing to gain support of tired previous attempts (by many other posters). The ones that actually cannot stand up to scrutiny and continue to forget safeguarding!

Artichokeleaves · 26/09/2021 08:35

I assume the ’small but complex demographic of people’ you refer to are those you call intersex.

I'd just mention here too that there are MNetters who post here who have shared that they are intersex, some of whom have expressed how offensive and upsetting they find it to have their medical needs weaponised in this way. This is probably a far more diverse space than you may be giving it credit for Butterfly .

Jaysmith71 · 26/09/2021 08:36

We clearly have a problem with the social media generations raised in echo chambers and their tangental acquaintance with source material.

It's all rather like Sam Smith standing up and claiming to be the first British gay man to win an oscar, something which must have come as a surprise to John Gielgud, Ian McKellan and Jaye Davidson.

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