I think if you complain about "misgendering" then you are declaring that it's OK to force women to lie, that it's OK to force women to say things that they believe in good faith not to be true, and to force women to say things that directly act against their own interests.
Yes. I do not think people have "a gender", gender is an ever-changing and multifarious thing that everyone, not just trans people, expresses in their own way, whether capitulating to or resisting stereotypes, or maybe a combination of both.
Saying that you "feel" like a woman is circular and makes no sense, you can't feel like a women unless you are one and know what it entails, just as I being a white woman can't "feel like" a black woman.
Saying you have female or feminine "gender" makes no sense as gender norms and stereotypes considered female/feminine change all the time and are different in different places and eras. If you mean you like frilly outfits, make up and heels, fine, you can like those and be a man. If you were a British man in the 1660s or even the 1980s you'd be the height of fashion.
So I can't agree that a male-sexed person is "she" and I can't agree that a few stereotypically female cultural choices make a male-sexed person "she" either. (By that reasoning I'd be a he with my short hair, jeans, big boots and ownership of a power saw.)
That comes from a place of logical reasoning, scientific reality and common sense. The view that I have to call a male-sexed person "she" does not – it comes from unevidenced beliefs. Other people are free to believe them but as they are not based on evidence, they shouldn't be used to control me - aside from the reasonable and legal expectation that I don't discriminate against or harass people. So I won't bully or upset a trans person by telling them what I think, and I'll treat them politely and without discrimination - but if they start forcing expectations onto me, then I will stand up for myself.
EXACTLY as with other unevidenced beliefs, such as religions, Q-anon or astrology. Believe what you like. But in a free society, someone else's belief shouldn't coerce my assessment of reality.
I am totally open to changing my stance on this if evidence comes along that a trans person does in some way change sex. But strangely despite the endless arguing, insisting, claiming victimhood and so on and so on, the trans lobby never provides good, sound, scientific evidence. In fact the more closely you look at the evidence there is, the more it points the other way.