Gaby Petito death - coercive control and male violence (CW)

[InvisibleDragon]

I just saw a Facebook post about Gaby Petito.

She was a 22-year old blogger who was touring across America with her partner Brian.

She had been missing for over a week and now her body has been found. Her partner is likely a suspect.

Utah police have released body cam footage of speaking to Gaby and Brian in their van, as well as the audio of a 911 call in which someone reports that he saw Brian hitting Gaby.

It seems like Brian was incredibly controlling and either killed Gaby or drove off with the van and abandoned her in the wilderness.

I skimmed through the body cam footage and:

• Brian is all calm and reasonable, asking the police "what do I need to do to make this go away"
• Gaby is tearful and is being told by police that they aren't going to write her up for domestic violence charges - as if she is the perpetrator??

Fuck, this is horrendous. I just can't get my head around how blind society is to abuse and coercive control of women by men. That poor, poor girl.

Here are the things I mentioned - I think they all need a content warning for discussions / footage of controlling and abusive behaviour.
This is the 911 call:

This is a news report about Gaby:
www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/crime/gabby-petito-missing-police-evidence-b1922028.html

And the Facebook post I originally saw:
www.facebook.com/1493943347548967/posts/3128512520758700/?sfnsn=scwspmo

This is the police body cam footage:

Also, I hope this post doesn't sound too detached. I have personal experience of controlling, abusive men and learning suddenly about what happened to Gaby has just upset me so much. How do we even make sense of this?

Now confirming that the remains are “bones” which is a little strange considering he’s only been missing just over a month…

In the UK yes it would be, but depending on predators and scavengers in the area might be less strange in other countries.

NY Times saying they've identified via dental records, so must have found the skull or, at least, jaws. Also said the area had been under water until recently which might help explain why the remains were just bone.

www.nytimes.com/2021/10/20/us/brian-laundrie-body-found-florida-park.html

Just seen they’ve confirmed the remains are his. Glad they’ve found him and the search is over, but my thoughts are with Gabby’s family who will never get the answers and justice they deserve for their daughter.